Are you more likely to keep up with your workouts and eating when single? / Falling off the fitness wagon.

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    May 05, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    The first time I was overweight in my adult life was after getting together with my partner. We gained weight together. I called it "happy fat.". Just curious if most of you other guys find yourself more or less motivated to stay in shape depending on your relationship status?

    On another note, I've been on an eating binge for the last two weeks. It's like I'm a food addict and I've fallen off the wagon and I've been eating and drinking everything in sight and then think what did I just do? icon_eek.gif Gotta get myself back on track......

    Just wondering if anyone else here goes through periods of time like that?
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    May 05, 2012 9:51 AM GMT
    This concept is really foreign to me.... I seem to be the only one that works out MORE when I'm in a relationship, the love endorphins are like a natural
    pre-workout better than NO-xplode. I think most people start gaining weight in relationships for 3 reasons...

    1. You eat out more/cook more food. A lot of a relationship revolves around mealtimes.

    2. Less motivation. Some people workout to maintain their bodies to find someone, so when you find someone, the motivation drops off.

    3. Many workout as a stress reliever, but if you're having consistent sex...

    Anyways, maybe you guys could start motivating each other to do more physical activities (outside of the bedroom)... You have a built in activities partner! More gym-time, hiking, outdoors, etc.

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    May 09, 2012 1:05 PM GMT
    You are on an eating binge?? OMG!! That isn't like you!!

    On that note, How about some banana pudding, my chicken parmesan, cracker salad, spaghetti, lasagna or the other good foods I love to cook!!

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    May 09, 2012 1:15 PM GMT
    sashaman saidThe first time I was overweight in my adult life was after getting together with my partner. We gained weight together. I called it "happy fat.". Just curious if most of you other guys find yourself more or less motivated to stay in shape depending on your relationship status?

    On another note, I've been on an eating binge for the last two weeks. It's like I'm a food addict and I've fallen off the wagon and I've been eating and drinking everything in sight and then think what did I just do? icon_eek.gif Gotta get myself back on track......

    Just wondering if anyone else here goes through periods of time like that?


    I don't know about the relationship thing, but I have had some slip ups lately with my eating, too. What messes me up is breaking my routine. I had a week when I had to be out of town on business. It threw my routine out of whack and I am struggling to get myself back on track.

    If you want some accountability, maybe we could set up a thread or e-mail where we help hold each other accountable on our eating plans - or something like that. - Maybe just an occasional message of "Put the ice cream down and back away slowly," or other words of encouragement.

    If not, that's cool, too.
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    May 09, 2012 1:16 PM GMT
    I find motivation in both situations...

    When I am single, I want to look my best for any potential prospects.

    And when I am in a relationship, I want to look and be the best for my person.
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    May 09, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    Sashaman, I have somewhat the same problem. I love to cook and eat. So does my husband. When dinnertime comes - we cook - it's delicious and I want 2 helpings, then I'm opening the fridge all night for snacks.

    So far I have not been able to control the night-time cravings, so I have gotten to where I can mostly keep it together by eating very small and healthy breakfasts and lunches, which I don't seem to have the same problem with. I would love to feel more in control over my entire eating schedule, but that doesn't seem to be in the cards.

    Hugs.
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    May 09, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    This is kind of an anorexia trick...but whenever you are craving something, brush your teeth.
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    May 09, 2012 1:58 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    7Famark saidThis is kind of an anorexia trick...but whenever you are craving something, brush your teeth.

    Interesting....why does that work?


    Nobody wants to eat food when their mouth tastes like toothpaste?

    Or gargle with flouride and tell yourself that you should eat or drink anything for half an hour.
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    May 09, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    JPtheBITCH said
    7Famark saidThis is kind of an anorexia trick...but whenever you are craving something, brush your teeth.

    Interesting....why does that work?


    Nobody wants to eat food when their mouth tastes like toothpaste?

    Or gargle with flouride and tell yourself that you should eat or drink anything for half an hour.


    Mark's onto something here. Sometimes all it takes is a little distraction for you to get over those cravings. Saw on TV recently advice to come up with a quick list of things to do (go for a walk, email a friend, etc) whenever the urge to eat arises. By the time you're done, the craving may have subsided.

    An alternative is to have small healthy snacks on hand to satisfy the urge. Have a handful of nuts or eat some fruit....and then don't eat anymore for 20 minutes. By then the urge to binge should be gone. Just be careful not to gorge an entire jar or can of nuts!
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    May 09, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    I also think there is a very mild psychological effect...usually brushing your teeth means that you won't be eating for a few hours.

    I mean, it works for me..but if you REALLY want that cake, you are going to find a way to justify it.
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    May 10, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    turtleneckjock said
    On that note, How about some banana pudding, my chicken parmesan, cracker salad, spaghetti, lasagna or the other good foods I love to cook!!

    icon_lol.gif


    NO! Quit tempting me! icon_lol.gif
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    May 10, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
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    sashaman saidThe first time I was overweight in my adult life was after getting together with my partner. We gained weight together. I called it "happy fat.". Just curious if most of you other guys find yourself more or less motivated to stay in shape depending on your relationship status?

    On another note, I've been on an eating binge for the last two weeks. It's like I'm a food addict and I've fallen off the wagon and I've been eating and drinking everything in sight and then think what did I just do? icon_eek.gif Gotta get myself back on track......

    Just wondering if anyone else here goes through periods of time like that?


    I don't know about the relationship thing, but I have had some slip ups lately with my eating, too. What messes me up is breaking my routine. I had a week when I had to be out of town on business. It threw my routine out of whack and I am struggling to get myself back on track.

    If you want some accountability, maybe we could set up a thread or e-mail where we help hold each other accountable on our eating plans - or something like that. - Maybe just an occasional message of "Put the ice cream down and back away slowly," or other words of encouragement.

    If not, that's cool, too.


    I think accountability is a big part of it. Back in 2003 when I saw swimsuit photos of myself after getting back from vacation and realized my "big" pants were getting tight, I went to weight watchers and dropped 18 pounds. I think what did it was knowing I had to weigh in every week. Might not work for everybody but it sure motivated me. Since I need something structured to get myself back on track in terms of eating, I'm going to do that again.

    I'm all for an accountability thread though or buddy to check in with. So if anyone wants to do that, I'm in.
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    May 10, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    showme saidSashaman, I have somewhat the same problem. I love to cook and eat. So does my husband. When dinnertime comes - we cook - it's delicious and I want 2 helpings, then I'm opening the fridge all night for snacks.

    So far I have not been able to control the night-time cravings, so I have gotten to where I can mostly keep it together by eating very small and healthy breakfasts and lunches, which I don't seem to have the same problem with. I would love to feel more in control over my entire eating schedule, but that doesn't seem to be in the cards.

    Hugs.


    Thanks. I love to eat to and like to cook as well. I swear, when I am eating food I really love, it can be damn near orgasmic! icon_lol.gif
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    May 10, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    7Famark saidThis is kind of an anorexia trick...but whenever you are craving something, brush your teeth.


    Gonna have to try that one sometime.
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    May 10, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    I tend to workout more when I'm in a relationship, because I only date guys who also enjoy working out. Positive motivation is full of win. icon_wink.gif
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    May 10, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    I'm more likely to work out harder and be stricter with myself if I have a boyfriend... partially because I want to look good for him, and partially because I'm probably working with him at the gym icon_smile.gif.
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    May 10, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    I workout because I enjoy it and need it for my health. Single or coupled has no impact.
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    May 10, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    Tits or no, I find that one of the things people miss/don't get about fitness is that it should be about YOU. Your body, your health, your capability as a physical biomachine. You should do it for you. Not to snare or keep a man. Not to look a certain way. Rather, the ultimate goal is to be able. Able to run those miles. Able to lift those increasing weights. Able to play your favorite sport or game. Able to climb that mountain or hike that forest trail.

    And in seeking, building and maintaining that ableness, there's a certain amount of faith you must keep. A certain amount of worship you must practice. 3 times a week. Maybe five. Certainly not one day a week.
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    May 10, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    I work out more when I'm single, to better my prospects, and less when I have a boyfriend becuase I don't want to look like I'm still looking around. Weird way to think, but that's what happens when I'm convinced he likes me not for my looks.
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    May 10, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    Yeah, yeah. Hey, I dropped something on the floor. Mind bending down to pick it up for me?


    I bought you an extended Gripper for such situations, dear.
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    May 10, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    That's definitely a perk of being single.
    I've become more jaded since my last breakup. It would take a really very special guy to get me to willingly change my workout schedule and diet.
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    May 10, 2012 1:56 AM GMT
    Sigh. OK there was a question there from a guy in need of an answer. Have you ever seen a frumpy woman become single and then suddernly she's working out and looking hot? Yes we all have. It's called divorce.

    You're a product on the market. When you're settled in a relationship, you let yourself slide. When the relationship slides, you go back to trying to be attractive.
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    May 10, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    since being single, my workouts have been getting more time.
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    May 10, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    I go through these binging cycles myself. After years of these, I've learned two things First, you have to be very strict with yourself; don't think that indulging occasionally will work; it's all or nothing kind of a deal. Second, there will be relapses; just don't let it spiral out of control; accept the relapse and go back to eating healthy; the more you harp on the relapse, the more you'll binge. Hope this helps.