Do you feel... old?

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    May 05, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    Do you feel old? whatever age you are.

    What is "old" anyways.. and what does age really mean to you specifically and personally?

    A 59 year old might feel younger than the 32 year old.

    For me age resides a lot with experiences more so than chronologically. In life you are merely unfolding, from cradle to grave, wherever that may be stationed for you. It just so happens that the more years you log on the planet, the more experiences you encounter, and the more milestones you pass and create. For most, those milestones happen generally around the same time (puberty, graduation, leaving the nest,first love, job, car, house, loosing a parent or someone close to you).. however there are experiences that happen to some far much earlier or quicker succession. There are also other factors that can "age" someone to be wiser and/or more experienced than under 'average' circumstances. Examples: Those who are forced to live on their own earlier. Loosing a parent sooner than expected. A disease. Severe poverty. Surviving violence. All those experiences leave indentations on our psyches and some feel older than they are.


    Discuss and share your perspective.
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    May 05, 2012 6:23 AM GMT
    I remember when the earth's crust cooled.
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    May 05, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    Sometimes I feel old. Like I've spent all my life trapped in schools...
    Educated to within an inch of my life.
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    May 05, 2012 6:45 AM GMT
    I feel torn....

    give funny answer?

    boring serious answer?

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    May 05, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI feel torn....

    give funny answer?

    boring serious answer?

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    Every moment of indecision is another breath closer to the grave. I can already see wrinkles forming and death's cold cold hand on your shoulder. Should we say goodbye to you now?
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    May 05, 2012 6:48 AM GMT
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    Ariodante saidI feel torn....

    give funny answer?

    boring serious answer?

    confused.gif

    Every moment of indecision is another breath closer to the grave. I can already see wrinkles forming and death's cold cold hand on your shoulder. Should we say goodbye to you now?


    shhhh keep it quiet, I think death's making a move on me...I haven't gotten laid in so long D:
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    May 05, 2012 6:53 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
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    Ariodante saidI feel torn....

    give funny answer?

    boring serious answer?

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    Every moment of indecision is another breath closer to the grave. I can already see wrinkles forming and death's cold cold hand on your shoulder. Should we say goodbye to you now?


    shhhh keep it quiet, I think death's making a move on me...I haven't gotten laid in so long D:

    We'll be watching you get boned.
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    May 05, 2012 10:42 AM GMT
    No... I do have to remind myself that i am though. I have changed my life around and now i feel like i'm reliving my 20's. In fact most of my friends are in their 20's. It's a weird feeling.... I have had a number of people say that i was born 30 years too soon or too late.... that my attitudes, wisdom and physic don't match. An anomaly of sorts. I do feel my age when i have a bad virus...but it only lasts for a day...lol
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    May 05, 2012 11:20 AM GMT
    I'm gonna be 40 in 7 months time. I'm a bit scared as I'm still renting a room off a friend in Birmingham (although I do own a flat back in Glasgow) and feel like I'm meant to be settled, organised, confident. In reality I still feel like I'm 18! And part of me thinks thats great!!
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    May 05, 2012 11:30 AM GMT
    I still feel like i'm in my 20's, I don't feel old at all.icon_wink.gif
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    May 05, 2012 11:41 AM GMT
    My hands are moaning and my heart is mourning but eyes see morning every day.
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    May 05, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    I will be 50 in one month.

    My body trick me into looking younger, hopefully, just looking at the skin texture on my belly remind me I look young from far away yet I'm far from young.

    I feel old experience wise, and young health wise.

    But feeling old is not a bad feeling for me, more a feeling of accomplishment.

    It's a lot of excitement and stress to have your life in front of you, but there is a lot of peace and contentment when you realize you managed to survive all the hurdles life throw in your face up to now, got opportunity to enjoy huge amount of good stuff, and are well equipped to handle what's still to come.

    Advancing in age is a privilege, specially when you consider the alternative.



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    May 05, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    Do you feel... old?

    Feel? I AM old (63), so "feeling" is the least of my problems. icon_sad.gif

    Actually, inside me I still see the world with young eyes, and try to think that way, too. But my physical body won't cooperate, and keeps sending me painful reminders of how old and decrepit I really am.

    I like to think I'm the same guy I was in my teens, same goofy attitude, same love of living, same habit of finding fun in almost everything I do, and on this side of my eyes I'm young forever. Hence I avoid mirrors like a vampire, and don't like cameras, either, that show me the reality I don't want to face.

    Thank gawd evolution didn't provide us with a way to see ourselves all the time. Because on this side of my eyeglasses, I'm still a kid. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 05, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    Old vs what? Young?
    I feel seasoned, determined, focused and energized. I accept time as giving me more, not less, and how I invest determines so much. My choice is to accept its gift not fight its irreversible course. Struggling against it ages me in negative ways. By welcoming it's experience it revitalizes and reinvents me with each day. It challenges my body, yes. It raises the bar. So far- I'm clearing it. And when that one day comes where I can't get over the bar because biology can no longer trump the clock - time will be there with me rather than lauding over me and I'll learn about the value of limits. Until then - it moves me forward and I bring both the energy of youth and the accrued value of wisdom to bear on each day the clock gifts me.
    It's all relative - as a twenty year old feels older than a ten year old, if he fixates on hours lost, not gained.
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    May 05, 2012 12:19 PM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidOld vs what? Young?
    I feel seasoned, determined, focused and energized. I accept time as giving me more, not less, and how I invest determines so much. My choice is to accept its gift not fight its irreversible course. Struggling against it ages me in negative ways. By welcoming it's experience it revitalizes and reinvents me with each day. It challenges my body, yes. It raises the bar. So far- I'm clearing it. And when that one day comes where I can't get over the bar because biology can no longer trump the clock - time will be there with me rather than lauding over me and I'll learn about the value of limits. Until then - it moves me forward and I bring both the energy of youth and the accrued value of wisdom to bear on each day the clock gifts me.
    It's all relative - as a twenty year old feels older than a ten year old, if he fixates on hours lost, not gained.


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    May 05, 2012 12:19 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidThis thread is dumb. It's going to be full of old ass guys saying how young they really feel in the inside.

    There's no way to prove how old they really feel or not so it basically devolves into a forum's version of a circle jerk.


    The quality and kindness of your post is the very reason why it's not so bad to overgrow puberty.
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    May 05, 2012 12:35 PM GMT
    Hell yes. I spent last night slathering on Bengay and icing my arm. I'm typing right now with a little tyrannosaurus arm I can't fully extend. And all because of field day at an elementary school. For the first time I noticed fathers younger than me winning the parents' events I used to win.It sucks getting old.
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    May 05, 2012 12:36 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidThis thread is dumb. It's going to be full of old ass guys saying how young they really feel in the inside.

    There's no way to prove how old they really feel or not so it basically devolves into a forum's version of a circle jerk.
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    Aw, for a while there when you were talking like an adult in the rap thread, I thought I was going to like you but now you're coming off as an ageist scumbag that I'm going to have to avert my eyes to if it continues because there's not a reason in the world for me to have to see that shit just because you can not control how you feel about your own aging and would rather project all that crap on we who have aged.

    What you don't understand yet is that even though the body ages, some people feel way too old way too early and some, like me, have more of a Peter Pan attitude about us. Life may wear me down, but I doubt I'll ever feel old.

    But I do know people who felt old even as kids. They never enjoyed knowing their child inside. So feeling old is not the same as getting older. Understand that your disrespect for your elders is predictive of your own aging. Good luck with that.
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    May 05, 2012 12:38 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 said
    minox said
    mizzouguy10 saidThis thread is dumb. It's going to be full of old ass guys saying how young they really feel in the inside.

    There's no way to prove how old they really feel or not so it basically devolves into a forum's version of a circle jerk.


    The quality and kindness of your post is the very reason why it's not so bad to overgrow puberty.


    I don't mind age, but nothing is worse than people trying to deny themselves.

    As someone who is young, I doubt a lot of guys can remember the mindset a 21 year old has, and that alone should make them not feel young mentally.


    The OP question was about how people feel, not about if it's right or wrong to feel young.
    And you can't tell people how they should feel, feelings are just what they are.

    As someone who is young... you have no way to know if it's possible or not to remember mindsets decades old.

    I do remember quite well my mindset when I was 20, it's just that experiences I had since made me evolve in a different version of myself. I can perfectly imagine that other guys experience didn't change much the way they feel today.
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    May 05, 2012 12:39 PM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidHell yes. I spent last night slathering on Bengay and icing my arm. I'm typing right now with a little tyrannosaurus arm I can't fully extend. And all because of field day at an elementary school. For the first time I noticed fathers younger than me winning the parents' events I used to win.It sucks getting old.


    That's just my body though. I still have the mind of an eight year old.
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    May 05, 2012 12:46 PM GMT
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    Coach_Mike said
    Coach_Mike saidHell yes. I spent last night slathering on Bengay and icing my arm. I'm typing right now with a little tyrannosaurus arm I can't fully extend. And all because of field day at an elementary school. For the first time I noticed fathers younger than me winning the parents' events I used to win.It sucks getting old.


    That's just my body though. I still have the mind of an eight year old.

    And that's why we love you. icon_biggrin.gif


    Uhhmm...I meant the outlook of an eight year old, the sense of spirit and excitement....oh, never mind.
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    May 05, 2012 12:50 PM GMT
    Coach_Mike said
    Coach_Mike saidHell yes. I spent last night slathering on Bengay and icing my arm. I'm typing right now with a little tyrannosaurus arm I can't fully extend. And all because of field day at an elementary school. For the first time I noticed fathers younger than me winning the parents' events I used to win.It sucks getting old.


    That's just my body though. I still have the mind of an eight year old.


    I have the mind of a 12 year old so let's play. Wanna race?
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    May 05, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    Wow............this is a great thread. I think about aging all the time. In 2 months, I will have been on this earth, in my present form for fifty years! It doesn't seem possible. Mentally, I still feel like I'm in my twenties. I surround myself with young people, have worked out my whole life, never drank or smoked.

    Yet no one can stop father time. (read "The Station", by Robert Hastings). I know I definately feel the results more physically on the tennis court the weekend after a long tournament. I don't "spring out of bed" like I did in college. I crawl out, and head directly to the hot tub.

    My mom is still here, at age 82, and watching her grow older is prolly the hardest part of my life.

    A big part of me thinks of it this way: it is inevitable, my spirituality helps out alot. The scripture teaches us that we should number our days, to grow a heart of wisdom. Life is like a vapor of smoke, it appears for a short time, then vanishes away.

    Eckerd Tolley says basically the same thing in "The New Earth"....it's great to work out, be fit, try to stay young- eventually we all will grow old, and cross over. Don't fear it, as I once did....embrace it.

    One last thought........life is a cruel teacher.....the lesson is presented, but actually learned much later.... i.e., "if I KNEW NOW, when I was in my twenties.

    Finally, phew! There is nothing we can do to prevent it, it's inevitable, so let's not fight it.....embrace it- everything happens at the appointed time, the next life will be better.........no sorry or tears, no death.........a new Jerusalem, for the old things of the world have passed away- trust in God icon_smile.gif
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    May 05, 2012 12:54 PM GMT
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    Coach_Mike saidHell yes. I spent last night slathering on Bengay and icing my arm. I'm typing right now with a little tyrannosaurus arm I can't fully extend. And all because of field day at an elementary school. For the first time I noticed fathers younger than me winning the parents' events I used to win.It sucks getting old.


    That's just my body though. I still have the mind of an eight year old.


    I have the mind of a 12 year old so let's play. Wanna race?

    I'm strong, not fast. But you look even stronger. No, I'm taking my balls and going home. I've lost enough for one week. Hmmmmph....
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    May 05, 2012 12:55 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidI think you're reading an ageist argument where there is none.

    I'm disputing whether a lot of old guys really feel young, or if they honestly just want to feel young.


    I appreciate your clarification.

    But again, this is what you do not yet get. We do know what it was like when we were 21. And we still see through the eyes that we always had. Hopefully we handle our shit better because experience has taught us. But we are still the person we were. People may become more or less of parts of who they were, a few alterations, but the garment remains the same.

    Here's the thing: we have more memory of our youth because it has been with us longer. And so we still see through those eyes. So it is completely honest when we say we feel like we did when we were younger. Because we do.

    Feelings are set pretty early in life. You may learn to handle your feelings better as you age but the feelings are pretty much the same.

    A few weeks ago I was with a group of old friends who I've enjoyed since I was about 8 years old. Our relationship is the same, our interactions with each other are the same, not a lot has changed in all that time.

    We're out boating and we beached the boat and we're drinking beers and a boat of kids pulls up next to ours and they beach it and they're drinking beers and we're looking at them saying, hey, that was us. And then we look at ourselves and we say, holy shit, this is still us.

    The only thing that makes us old is our arthritis (which totally sucks, by the way).