Guys need some suggestion - bit lost :(

  • whatever123

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    May 05, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    Well will try to put short. I had wonderful relationship for 2,5 years with person I really love (still love), but as it is usually despite that he did not loved me so much and finally broke up. But of course we have lot of good memories left and I still want to have him as friend. Also I have my best friend gay, whom I liked some time ago, then he loved me for some time, we spent a lot of time together but never got together and mostly because of my ex bf, and he knew it very well, but still we were friends. After we broke up with my ex - after couple of months I accidentally got to know that my ex have met by friend and did not told anything to me. I of course was totally disappointed and said to both of them. It turned out so that my ex was not talking with me for months and my friend promised he will do something like this again, that he stopped all contacts with him. But some months were passing, no contact with ex, but some contacts as usually with friend. After some time my ex comes to me and says - sorry all that time I am together with your best friend. I understand that you feel bad and do not understand what happened but that's a case. You can imagine - it killed me. But as my ex came and told me that I am trying to forgive him, but have said everything to my friend what I think about him. He generally made it so that I am the bad one and stopped contacts (which is totally fine with me). Because of that my ex no also spoiled bit his relationship with my friend as he did not let him to come to me, and he is saying that everything has finished and they can not be together even if he loves him. My ex says he loves him more than anybody. I also love my ex and therefore even at some point trying to help him even if it hurts lie hell. In additional we are spending time by time together with my ex with beer, so he has somebody to talk with, but it is hard for me as I sill love him like anything in world. So what a hell should I do now. Should I fight for him, support him (my ex)? Besides that he several times have said lot of negative things to me...but I still hope he loves me atleast a bit...
  • whatever123

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    May 05, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    no point to fight for him?
  • Marcos_P

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    May 05, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    Agreed. Both your friend and your ex have been unforgivably disrespectful to you - but more to the point they have proven themselves unworthy of your love or friendship. There's usually more than one side to the story - if you have betrayed either one of them, or any other partners or friends in a similar way along the line, (I hope not, but life has a way of putting the boot on the other foot), then it'd be best not to judge them. But the bottom line is your friend betrayed you and your ex only told you when it was falling apart and he needed a reliable shoulder to cry on. Unless you want to be a doormat and it's your ambition to be an abused housewife I'd suggest you tell him you love him, you want him to be happy, but it's best you stay out of contact. Permanently.

    Good luck. Make sure you talk it all over with your other friends too, to stop yourself going crazy.
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    May 05, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    Viņš ir jūsu ex.
    Ja jūsu draugs padara attiecības ar viņu ir labāk vienkārši pieņemt to un ļaut viņiem iet off kopā.

    Tas sāp daudz. Lūk jums ķēriens!
    JP ir taisnība.

    I hope this Latvian is understandable, lol!

    -Doug
  • whatever123

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    May 05, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    thanks...just how to find strenghts to say it. Have told that love him, but hard to tell - get lost...
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    May 05, 2012 4:15 PM GMT
    Jūs nevarat veikt kādu būt mīlestība.

    Jums ir nepieciešams kāds, kurš būs taisnība, jo jums ir taisnība.

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    May 05, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    I feel like breakups are a good push to start a new chapter of your life- by branching out and making new friends, starting new hobbies to help remove myself from the current situation.

    This could include moving to a new city, going on a fun vacation, or trying something that you've always dreamed of!

    Good luck with everything (Hug)