What has your ex taught you?

  • SoleFireSiren

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    May 05, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    Have you been heartbroken? What did your ex teach you about yourself? What did they teach you about what your needs are? icon_eek.gificon_question.gif
  • Lincsbear

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    May 05, 2012 6:49 PM GMT
    I need to stop denying myself, to live more, and I need people more than I thought.
  • DanOmatic

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    May 05, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    To walk out at the first sign of drug/alcohol abuse.
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    May 05, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    That I will pour myself out for a man I love... and that I should be careful to love a man who will pour himself out for me as well. Or I'll just be left empty.
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    May 05, 2012 7:07 PM GMT
    NC3athlete saidTo walk out at the first sign of drug/alcohol abuse.


    This x2
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    May 05, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    To trust less and be a little more selfish.
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    May 05, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    1. Don't settle.

    2. An intellectual/mental connection does not equate to a physical attraction/connection.

    3. I guess he taught me how to dress better...
  • NJVetteGuy77

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    May 05, 2012 7:56 PM GMT
    LAGuy1979 saidTo trust less and be a little more selfish.


    Amen...that and to do a criminal background check.
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    May 05, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    The most important thing I've learned: never, ever ignore the red flags no matter how much your heart tells you otherwise.
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    May 05, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    Be assertive icon_neutral.gif
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    May 05, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    To trust my gut
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    May 05, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    if you cut off the head the body will die.
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    May 05, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    Don't be clingy.
    The only one who can really make you happy is yourself.
    Be safe. (He died 20 years ago, before effective HIV treatments.)
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    May 05, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    NC3athlete saidTo walk out at the first sign of drug/alcohol abuse.


    ++1

    Addicts are abusive to themselves and those around them. I was once again reminded of that this week.
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    May 05, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    ramigun saidThe most important thing I've learned: never, ever ignore the red flags no matter how much your heart tells you otherwise.


    ++ To this. When you ignore the read flags you will have the situation I had this week that included verbal abuse and spit.
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    May 05, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    Some of my exes taught me, without being aware of it, to never let someone steal your ability to trust, love, and be happy with yourself, or to control your future by damaging your optimism.

    -Doug
  • vintovka

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    May 05, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    My ex taught me that the good times can outweigh the pain at the end, that the end does not necessarily imply bitterness or hostility, and that I really do like eggplant and avocado, I just didn't know that before.
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    May 05, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
    How to suck dick.
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    May 05, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    that i'm selfish. and that it's okay icon_smile.gif
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    May 05, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    TotalTopJock said
    ramigun saidThe most important thing I've learned: never, ever ignore the red flags no matter how much your heart tells you otherwise.


    ++ To this. When you ignore the read flags you will have the situation I had this week that included verbal abuse and spit.
    Co-sign this.

    On the flip side, those small things along the way that said "I love you" were important reminders to me that I was worthy of being loved.

    On my personal journey, that was a very valuable gift.
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    May 05, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
    Don't pour all of your emotions into one person.
    Don't be clingy.
    Be ready to love and care for yourself in case the one you're with leaves you.
    Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
    Relationships don't need to be a "right now" thing if it's not meant to be.
    Among other things...
  • DanOmatic

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    May 05, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 said1. Once a cheater, always a cheater. (that applies in every situation unless they're the ones who confessed)

    2. People make themselves misleading to "sell" themselves to the world.

    3. People are selfish and think they aren't.

    4. Love is the most amazing thing in the world.

    5. You know that's such thing as a spark when you find someone who makes you feel like you've never kissed anyone before them.


    The thing about #4 and #5 is that they often go along with the same person who taught you lessons #1-3. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 05, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    What has your ex taught you?

    More accurately my exes, plural.

    I learned about heartbreak. And how to move past it.

    I learned that love can be a one-way street, that what you put in isn't always what you get back. And then you move on.

    I learned to keep looking, to never give up hope, because one day *HE* will be there.

    And he was, and he is. Twice in my life, actually.

    Having exes taught me to never capitulate, to always keep searching. The right guy is out there, and he was. Because I was looking for him, and so was able to find him, knew him when I met him. That's what my exes taught me.
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    May 05, 2012 9:49 PM GMT
    if they're mean when ur dating, it only gets worse.
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    May 05, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    OMG it must be at least almost 30 years since my last ex. They were to prepare one for the long term relationship I am in now. After my last ex I took about 6 years off from dating, and when I was ready I walked straight into this one that is now 20+ and still going strong.