So I've lost some more weight, and reemployed

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    May 06, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    What can I do to find a guy? I havnt dated in years, and dont seem to be attracting anyone.
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    May 06, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    Thank you man, yeah it was a bit rough.
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    May 06, 2012 7:36 AM GMT
    Congrats on the weight loss and the job! Things are looking up. Give it time, you will find someone! As your confidence increases, people will notice in the way you carry yourself. So realize you are awesome!!!
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    May 06, 2012 7:37 AM GMT
    Congrats on the weight loss and the employment! Things are looking up!

    I don't have any advice on the dating side, since I haven't figured that out myself.
  • suedeheadscot

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    May 06, 2012 8:08 AM GMT
    Well done mate - looking good and all sounds like your work has paid off!

    Ok so for dating: -

    Start getting profiles up on other sites, work hard to ensure the profiles look good (I keep meaning to update my pics).

    Join LGBT Social groups, try to make friends first then things will happen.

    Learn about confidence building so you feel more confident and relaxed speaking to other gay men, see if any gay men's welfare groups are doing any courses for free.

    And just get out there!!!
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 06, 2012 8:22 AM GMT
    Great job with the weight loss and the "reenergized" employment.

    Your question about guys isn't dumb... I'd suggest making sure you know what you want and make yourself known. Now, that doesn't mean that you go "shopping" for a bf, it means you need to take the initiative and ask some men out on a date. If you are concerned you will be turned down and don't try... you've already lost the game haven't you? You have nothing to lose!

    Congrats!

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    May 06, 2012 9:51 AM GMT
    Congrats on getting your life on the track you chose! That alone makes you a winner in the dating pool (my opinion)

    Volunteer at the community center. Join a Gay or Gay friendly sports team. Don't worry if you can't bowl/swim/play softball. They will embrace you and teach you. It will take some 'out of the box' thinking but get out there and smile.

    You deserve it
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    May 06, 2012 10:08 AM GMT
    Bigsmiles saidCongrats on getting your life on the track you chose! That alone makes you a winner in the dating pool (my opinion)

    Volunteer at the community center. Join a Gay or Gay friendly sports team. Don't worry if you can't bowl/swim/play softball. They will embrace you and teach you. It will take some 'out of the box' thinking but get out there and smile.

    You deserve it


    you must have a big ass dating pool.

    Requirements:
    1. Employment

    The End



    The US unemployment rate is 8.1% so I guess 91.9% of the population is in your pool.
  • Trepeat

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    May 07, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    Hey Mike, glad to hear things are goin well for ya.

    Having lived in SLC for a while, I can tell you that the pool of available guys there is staggeringly big. However, I suppose that also makes it a bit tougher to find the right guy who wants to settle into a relationship. My advice for you would be to go live it up! Meet lots of people, have lots of fun, and although this is easier said than done, try not to get too hung up on finding a boyfriend. If you're enjoying the heck out of your life without one, you'll appear a lot more attractive to guys and may inadvertantly stumble into something ideal. It's easy and frustrating to focus on what we want but don't have, so instead just try to appreciate what you got and maximize your enjoyment from life. icon_smile.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 07, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Trepeat saidHey Mike, glad to hear things are goin well for ya.

    Having lived in SLC for a while, I can tell you that the pool of available guys there is staggeringly big. However, I suppose that also makes it a bit tougher to find the right guy who wants to settle into a relationship. My advice for you would be to go live it up! Meet lots of people, have lots of fun, and although this is easier said than done, try not to get too hung up on finding a boyfriend. If you're enjoying the heck out of your life without one, you'll appear a lot more attractive to guys and may inadvertantly stumble into something ideal. It's easy and frustrating to focus on what we want but don't have, so instead just try to appreciate what you got and maximize your enjoyment from life. icon_smile.gif


    Good advice here. You have a kind face. If you have a good personality you shouldn't have a problem. Get out there.icon_cool.gif