I came out because I felt as if i was living under an unnecessary anvil that could drop at any minute because being closeted meant i had a secret and there was some shame in it and from my early childhood i never liked the feeling that someone else, most of all god, had any control over me. Secrets can become oppression tools so at 16 i said "Fuck that" came out and absolutely everything in my immediate life is transparent.
I often notice some men think coming out means disclosing your private life.. or are being willfully ignorant of simply not denying your sexuality when asked and not purposefully suppressing such versus the cartoonish idea christians get via the Media amplification of gay pride parades and trannies and drag queens in high heels and leather daddies of "Flaunting" ones sexuality. The misconception is that what is seen on carefully chosen photographs of pride parades equals coming out. The reality is that is the minority of gay men.. and most gay men come "out" and live "out" in quieter ways...such as just acknowledging they have a male partner at home waiting for them when a meeting at work runs a little too long.
Roku saidIt's different for everyone though.
Not telling others about your lifestyle doesnt make you a liar.
Lying about what you're really doing in with your lifestyle makes you a liar.
Downlow and Discreet.
I'm going to have to call that bullshit.. because there will come a time.. it happens daily when someone will wonder who you dating- why aren't you married-Are you having children? and the list of incidental daily inquires that will reveal your sexuality goes on and on. And if you are "down low" (white people call it closeted.) ...hahaha... um.. you are going to LIE. If you did not lie that would negate the point of being "down low"/
Every closeted guy thinks that logic will fly or makes sense.. and it does to lazy people... or straight people. Not to someone who is out of closet.