I just came out to my dad!

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    May 06, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    He was ridiculously okay with it! If anything he was disappointed that I didn't come out sooner. He wanted me to always know I could come to him with anything, and that I need to be proud of who I am--All of who I am, because he is....best day of my life.
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    May 06, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    Hey that's great news!
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    May 06, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    Thanks guys! I'm literally on cloud nine!
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    May 06, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    Its amazing isn't it? Congratulations icon_smile.gif
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    May 06, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    WOW! Awesome Dad! As well as your courage to tell him. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 06, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    Cool! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 06, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Sidney12 saidHe was ridiculously okay with it! If anything he was disappointed that I didn't come out sooner. He wanted me to always know I could come to him with anything, and that I need to be proud of who I am--All of who I am, because he is....best day of my life.


    I came out to my mom at age 34. I took her out to a gay bar of all places and I know it had to have made her feel uncomfortable. She loves me just the same though. I don't think I would come out to my Dad unless I spent a lot of time with him during my life. I hardly knew my Dad.
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    May 06, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    Congrats to you. icon_smile.gif
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    May 06, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    I almost felt like I was dreaming. The things he was saying were things I never could have imagined he would say. He was saying that he couldn't be more proud of me, and that this is the biggest step for me, because this is what a man is: understanding, and knowing who and what he is, being held accountable for the things he does. He even went further to ask whether or not I had been seeing any guys and that he would love for me to bring someone home for dinner or meet them. (to bad I don't have anyone icon_razz.gif..lol) He truly wanted me to love who I wanted to love, and live my life the way I wanted to live it, because at the end of the day I'm the one I will have to answer to. He said, he didn't want me to see him in his casket and regret never telling him. All in all, he accepts me, probably even more than that, he admired me for my bravery, he said he could only imagine what I've been going through all these years.

    Needless to say, I couldn't stop crying.
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    May 06, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    That's pretty big news, congratulations!
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    May 06, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
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    Sidney12 saidI almost felt like I was dreaming. The things he was saying were things I never could have imagined he would say. He was saying that he couldn't be more proud of me, and that this is the biggest step for me, because this is what a man is: understanding, and knowing who and what he is, being held accountable for the things he does. He even went further to ask whether or not I had been seeing any guys and that he would love for me to bring someone home for dinner or meet them. (to bad I don't have anyone icon_razz.gif..lol) He truly wanted me to love who I wanted to love, and live my life the way I wanted to live it, because at the end of the day I'm the one I will have to answer to. He said, he didn't want me to see him in his casket and regret never telling him. All in all, he accepts me, probably even more than that, he admired me for my bravery, he said he could only imagine what I've been going through all these years.

    Needless to say, I couldn't stop crying.


    That's actually really beautiful! I wish I would tell my dad soon..


    Thanks I really feel like the weight of the world is off of my shoulders.

    I think you should tell your dad, as long as it doesn't jeopardize your safety and you are really ready to, you should. It's hard, but now is better than later--because later isn't promised.
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    May 06, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    I bet you're just glowing these days
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    May 07, 2012 10:18 AM GMT
    Cong

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    May 07, 2012 10:28 AM GMT
    Feels great eh?

    I got same response from mum...she was sorry I couldn't tell her sooner but it's made no difference to her, any of my family or my mates.

    Has to be the right time for us all no matter how soon or how late we choose to do it.

    Well done mate!

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    May 07, 2012 10:29 AM GMT
    It's an amazing feeling when you do, makes you wonder why you ever worried in the first place.
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    May 07, 2012 10:33 AM GMT
    Congrats icon_smile.gif You have an amazing father
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    May 07, 2012 11:07 AM GMT
    Sidney12 saidI almost felt like I was dreaming. The things he was saying were things I never could have imagined he would say. He was saying that he couldn't be more proud of me, and that this is the biggest step for me, because this is what a man is: understanding, and knowing who and what he is, being held accountable for the things he does. He even went further to ask whether or not I had been seeing any guys and that he would love for me to bring someone home for dinner or meet them. (to bad I don't have anyone icon_razz.gif..lol) He truly wanted me to love who I wanted to love, and live my life the way I wanted to live it, because at the end of the day I'm the one I will have to answer to. He said, he didn't want me to see him in his casket and regret never telling him. All in all, he accepts me, probably even more than that, he admired me for my bravery, he said he could only imagine what I've been going through all these years.

    Needless to say, I couldn't stop crying.



    This post right here may ME cry!! What a good dad!
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    May 07, 2012 11:11 AM GMT
    Congrats!

    Last month I came out to my older brother for the first time and had a similiar experience to you. It was the best day of my life.

    I feel so much better.
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    May 07, 2012 11:26 AM GMT
    Sidney12 saidI almost felt like I was dreaming. The things he was saying were things I never could have imagined he would say. He was saying that he couldn't be more proud of me, and that this is the biggest step for me, because this is what a man is: understanding, and knowing who and what he is, being held accountable for the things he does. He even went further to ask whether or not I had been seeing any guys and that he would love for me to bring someone home for dinner or meet them. (to bad I don't have anyone icon_razz.gif..lol) He truly wanted me to love who I wanted to love, and live my life the way I wanted to live it, because at the end of the day I'm the one I will have to answer to. He said, he didn't want me to see him in his casket and regret never telling him. All in all, he accepts me, probably even more than that, he admired me for my bravery, he said he could only imagine what I've been going through all these years.

    Needless to say, I couldn't stop crying.


    thats awesome. i'm sure it took a lot of courage to tell your dad your truth. and i'm glad it worked out so well. your dad sounds like a really cool guy. it makes a huge difference knowing that he's got your back. congratulations! be proud. icon_smile.gif
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    May 07, 2012 11:56 AM GMT
    Congrats!!!!
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    May 07, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    Thank you guys! Honestly, I feel like I'm having a coming out party on here (Not kidding, my dad actually asked if i wanted one! LOL) But, really I hope my coming out story on here can help someone my age or older come out to their family, it is the most freeing thing in the world!
    I remember being younger and realizing what I was, and becoming so depressed and bitter, I mean on the outside I wasn't, but on the inside I was a hot mess. So, as I tried to deny, hide, and change it made me dull, and I couldn't love fully, I couldn't hug, kiss, breath, experience all the great things in life fully.
    Finally, when I came to terms with what I was and began living my "young" adult life it got even harder hiding this from my family. My Dad has always been my best friend and my #1 or 2 supporter (next to my mom ;) ) So, when I didn't come home for months at a time from school, even when I could've or not calling for weeks at a time, it hurt him and me. I spent most of my college years without my best-friend, because I was scared of what he would think of me...was he going to finally be disappointed in me?

    Now, after coming out I feel like I can fully live and live everything in the moment, it's like taking off some really intense sun glasses. lol It almost seems so petty and silly now. My Dad missed me, one day he said, him and my mom felt like they're losing their son. (oh here come the tears)......So, when I say come out, I mean it..you will be so happy when you do. Again thank you guys for the support! icon_smile.gif
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    May 07, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    That is awesome!icon_cool.gificon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif
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    May 07, 2012 4:43 PM GMT
    You lucky bitch.... is my first reaction haha.

    My second is CONGRATULATIONS!!! I am super happy for you, honestly.
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    May 07, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidYou lucky bitch.... is my first reaction haha.

    My second is CONGRATULATIONS!!! I am super happy for you, honestly.



    ..............yup. definitely feeling like a "lucky bitch". lol
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    May 07, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    Your dad gives me a happy. icon_biggrin.gif