Threesome gone wrong

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    May 06, 2012 8:54 PM GMT
    I won't linger on the details, but I will say that I had my first threesome experience in a while with my boyfriend this weekend. This time it didn't go so well. I'm not concerned at all about him leaving me or anything like that (we're both very certain that we're in it for the long run), but I must admit that I felt left out. The guy we invited over practically ignored me...the obvious thing to do next is to not invite him again, but I can't help but think that I'm socially inept at these things. I've enjoyed myself in previous threesomes (with the same bf) because they were non-committal and with no strings attached, but this time, it felt like the two of them knew each other already (which they sort of did because they'd both met online and arranged everything while my bf updated me on the status of the whole thing). Another obvious thing for me to do next time is to be more involved in the selection process (which is already a protracted process as it is). I talked to my bf about it, and he's agreed to hold off on any further threesomes until I'm fine with the idea again....but has anyone else experienced something like this? What did you do, and were you turned off from threesomes forever?
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    May 07, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    You guys are inviting trouble into your relationship with these outside influences. If you're in it for the long haul, you'd better learn to be happy with each other, and cut the other foolishness out now. It sound like you've already done some damage.icon_neutral.gif
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    May 07, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    If you and your bf are going to be monogamish, then your going to have to lay down some ground rules. It sounds like your bf is receptive and caring. Perhaps your third party just wasn't into you. That should be grounds for an early dismissal from your bedroom.. Your didn't ask to be Cockholded! The other possibility of course is that your bf allowed himself to become emotionally attached to the guy before the hookup, and it was consummated right in front of you. More ground rules would help. Like you said, you both select, and no "pre-scouting."


    Best of luck to you both. Be safe and respect one another ;)

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    May 07, 2012 6:15 PM GMT
    HVRNEURO saidI won't linger on the details, but I will say that I had my first threesome experience in a while with my boyfriend this weekend. This time it didn't go so well. I'm not concerned at all about him leaving me or anything like that (we're both very certain that we're in it for the long run), but I must admit that I felt left out. The guy we invited over practically ignored me...the obvious thing to do next is to not invite him again, but I can't help but think that I'm socially inept at these things. I've enjoyed myself in previous threesomes (with the same bf) because they were non-committal and with no strings attached, but this time, it felt like the two of them knew each other already (which they sort of did because they'd both met online and arranged everything while my bf updated me on the status of the whole thing). Another obvious thing for me to do next time is to be more involved in the selection process (which is already a protracted process as it is). I talked to my bf about it, and he's agreed to hold off on any further threesomes until I'm fine with the idea again....but has anyone else experienced something like this? What did you do, and were you turned off from threesomes forever?


    Might be wise to meet somewhere other than your home for a get to know one another session before the actual playtime. .
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    May 08, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    3 sums are usually best with people you are not emotionally connected to. Jealousy is a typical feeling humans share. It's even harder if the 3rd is already a friend.

    If you two wish to continue this, maybe it's best if the 3rd is selected at random from a club or bar? Another option is to add a 4th. Less likely to be left out.
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    May 09, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    TheSoccerOne said3 sums are usually best with people you are not emotionally connected to. Jealousy is a typical feeling humans share. It's even harder if the 3rd is already a friend.

    If you two wish to continue this, maybe it's best if the 3rd is selected at random from a club or bar? Another option is to add a 4th. Less likely to be left out.


    Wouldn't be surprised if I ended up being left out even in that scenario, haha.

    Thanks everyone for your input. It's helped.
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    Sep 19, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    My BF and I have had a couple of amazing threesomes, and we met some guys in a threeway-relationship recently, and we really liked how fun to be around and hot the three of them seemed.

    I posted an ad about a third BF. Then I posted a forum about our ad responses

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2679448

    I very much love my BF of 10 years, and we are very well-balanced and have always known from when we first started dating that sex is something that is fun to explore. (and we really love sex LOL).

    Our first threesome was at a 3-day weekend house party. A really hot guy, built 6'3" really hit it off with us and started flirting with us. My BF and I discussed having a threesome with him. Then we hung out with him at his own house, and he was showing us some porn sites, and all of a sudden dropped his pants. We were so excited after being turned on by him the previous day that we had a really hot time with him for the rest of the weekend. Right before we started making out, I mentioned that I heard that sometimes someone feels left out in a threeway, but we really equally all enjoyed each other. We must have done every position and scenario possible.
    We had a second one with a very cute sweet younger guy with a beard, but my BF wasn't as into the third guy as much as I was. I was disappointed in that, because I really liked him.
    Then we had a third boyfriend very cute, blond, 6' but a lot younger than us for a while, while he was in the city for school. and it was really enjoyable for the few weeks while he was with us. The two of them spent a lot of time together, and they always made me feel included. I loved coming home to the two of them and kissing them both. Sex was smoking hot too.
    Now we'd like to date a third guy to see if we click.
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    Sep 19, 2012 8:25 AM GMT
    What i dont understand ever, about queens is if you're having sex with someone or more, and its crap why not just stop there and then? Is blowing a load that important.?

    yes yes old thread but I never understand. if im having sex and its bad, I always say sorry this isnt working, get up and get dressed and either leave or show them the door.