Does hooking up a lot make you a whore?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 06, 2012 9:36 PM GMT
    Ok so only having anonymous sex all the time, does that make you a slut? Do guys that want a relationship get pissed off because no one likes a whore?

    Yet all guys love to have sex, well as far as I've seen (including bi, str8, down low, in the closet guys). So if you can't beat 'em, join 'em or hold out for what you want and if holding out is right, then just a lot of masturbation would be the answer or what?

    *Be respectful*
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 06, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    Slut is a label one doesn't get by themselves.

    So yes.

    More fundamentally, while it is about perception, it's also about the comfort one has in having that label and that perception--regardless of their moral integrity absent who and where and how many they have sex with.

    I for one, am uncomfortable with the label or being with one who would have that label. It's not a really tangible thing, but there it is.

    Edit:

    I should also add that rationally, there is little to do with morality in how many one sleeps with. But rational has little to do with it.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    A whore is someone who does sexual acts in exchange for money or other materials goods.

    A slut is someone who enjoys having lots of sex with many different partners. They just do it for the pleasure. The number to qualify is arbitrary.

    I wouldn't be so quick to judge either one. I don't know their situation/condition/reason.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    No, it doesn't. If you enjoy sex, have sex. What is it with everyone suddenly going all puritanical these days (and especially on this site)? Do what makes you happy and what feels right for you.
  • PolaroidSwing...

    Posts: 1131

    May 07, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    I don't believe in "sluts" or "whores". Sexual expression is a natural and guiltless part of the human experience.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    It doesn't but sometimes you have to understand this isn't how everyone operates.,.. so when you finally meet someone for a more long term relationship you need to ease into those details and be ready to deal with stereotypes (aka if you have NSA sex you are going to cheat on your partner)
  • turtleneckjoc...

    Posts: 4685

    May 07, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    ramigun saidA whore is someone who does sexual acts in exchange for money or other materials goods.

    A slut is someone who enjoys having lots of sex with many different partners. They just do it for the pleasure. The number to qualify is arbitrary.

    I wouldn't be so quick to judge either one. I don't know their situation/condition/reason.


    I was under the impression a prostitute did it for money and a whore did it for the thrills....Maybe I'm wrong....
  • Medjai

    Posts: 2671

    May 07, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    My view is that someone who defines themselves by their promiscuity is a slut. Someone with a lot of partners is just that.
  • TheIStrat

    Posts: 777

    May 07, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    No. Sex for cash makes you a whore.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 12:14 AM GMT
    makavelli saidSlut is a label one doesn't get by themselves.

    So yes.

    More fundamentally, while it is about perception, it's also about the comfort one has in having that label and that perception--regardless of their moral integrity absent who and where and how many they have sex with.

    I for one, am uncomfortable with the label or being with one who would have that label. It's not a really tangible thing, but there it is.

    Edit:

    I should also add that rationally, there is little to do with morality in how many one sleeps with. But rational has little to do with it.


    Actually, one who sleeps with more anonymous partners is increasingly more at risk for contracting STIs. Where the morality comes in is then spreading STIs to unwitting/witting partners in the future, thus causing them physical harm in the form of introducing pathogens to their bodies. This chain continues on through all of their contacts making the affected party quite significant and far from just the one guy who likes to sleep around.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
    Hmm, this is how I feel about it...

    If you are someone that enjoys sex with multiple different partners frequently, I understand that. I think where that crosses the border into being a "whore" or a "slut" is when you aren't the least bit discriminating when it comes to who your sexual partners are. If you have no standards, or will have sex with anyone as long as it is convenient...I think that is when you become a slut.

    But if you are discriminating, and are safe and use the necessary precautions (condoms, etc) then...I guess it is just a life choice.
  • LJay

    Posts: 11612

    May 07, 2012 12:20 AM GMT
    Actually the definition of a whore is much less emotional that you are implying.

    Sleeping around is not necessarily the worst thing, you know. True, things like STIs and relationship ramifications and possible emotional strain and the disapproval of your Great Aunt Bessie [who may be right here on RJ] can be problems. Nevertheless, you either take money or you don't. The rest of it has to do with something else, like, as my fictional redneck cousin would say: gettin' a lot.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    GayBtm83 saidOk so only having anonymous sex all the time, does that make you a slut? Do guys that want a relationship get pissed off because no one likes a whore?

    Yet all guys love to have sex, well as far as I've seen (including bi, str8, down low, in the closet guys). So if you can't beat 'em, join 'em or hold out for what you want and if holding out is right, then just a lot of masturbation would be the answer or what?

    *Be respectful*


    Yes, because having sex with men indiscriminately would make the guy doing it promiscuous. Yes, but probably more because they don't want to share all the diseases the person has put themselves at increased risk for contracting.

    Having sex with a guy you're seeing and then it not working out isn't indiscriminate or promiscuous. It's having sex with just anyone who happens to strike your fancy every night that makes you promiscuous.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    nope two condensing adults doing adult thangs,no problem here. If you wanna have sex with someone and they with you how is that a "bad" thing
    .
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    By technicality, no. Only if on at least one occasion, he got paid in some way, shape or form for it, and that was the only reason they had sex with that person. If you have an emotional attachment and you accept a payment for sex, it gets very gray area and I wouldn't consider it whoring yourself out because if you would have fucked the guy without getting paid, then that's still in the slut zone.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    Being a whore is just a judgement cast by others. Since there will always be someone who considers you a whore just accept how amazing of a whore you are and move on.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
    "A whore is someone who will sleep with anyone.
    A bitch is someone who will sleep with anyone but you."~~old joke
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    No.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    7Famark saidHmm, this is how I feel about it...

    If you are someone that enjoys sex with multiple different partners frequently, I understand that. I think where that crosses the border into being a "whore" or a "slut" is when you aren't the least bit discriminating when it comes to who your sexual partners are. If you have no standards, or will have sex with anyone as long as it is convenient...I think that is when you become a slut.

    But if you are discriminating, and are safe and use the necessary precautions (condoms, etc) then...I guess it is just a life choice.


    Wow, you are so right!
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    May 07, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    If a person views sex as something akin to a handshake with a stranger, they probably are going to have a harder time relating with someone who is more relationship oriented, and vice versa.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    That's like asking, "if i walk like a duck, look like a duck, sound like a duck and 99.999999999% of my genetic make up is identical to that of a ducks, does that make me a duck?"

    I am afraid the answer is yes. :/
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    7Famark said
    7Famark saidHmm, this is how I feel about it...

    If you are someone that enjoys sex with multiple different partners frequently, I understand that. I think where that crosses the border into being a "whore" or a "slut" is when you aren't the least bit discriminating when it comes to who your sexual partners are. If you have no standards, or will have sex with anyone as long as it is convenient...I think that is when you become a slut.

    But if you are discriminating, and are safe and use the necessary precautions (condoms, etc) then...I guess it is just a life choice.


    Wow, you are so right!



    You're both right.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    when you ask a slut how many sex partners they have had.. they usually answer.. "there are commas involved"

    When you ask a whore the same question..."you think I paid for these shoes working at Wal-Mart?"

    that being said.. we have evolved as a species with prudes, fetish freaks, sluts and whores.

    We need all of them, frigid gay men, tops bottoms, sluts twinks and escorts
    TO MAKE THE BIG OLE GAY WORLD GO ROUND

  • Another_Jerem...

    Posts: 355

    May 07, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    7Famark saidHmm, this is how I feel about it...

    If you are someone that enjoys sex with multiple different partners frequently, I understand that. I think where that crosses the border into being a "whore" or a "slut" is when you aren't the least bit discriminating when it comes to who your sexual partners are. If you have no standards, or will have sex with anyone as long as it is convenient...I think that is when you become a slut.

    But if you are discriminating, and are safe and use the necessary precautions (condoms, etc) then...I guess it is just a life choice.


    Discriminating in what regard? As in you'll only have sex with conventionally attractive men? Or you'll only have sex with men after have a conversation with them? Or you'll only have sex with men who like Lady Gaga? What about men who have sex with various because it feels good, but then stop when they find someone with whom they are more emotionally compatible? There are men who can engage in safe sexual behavior and can distinguish between getting off and having an interaction of substance with another person. What about men who have no interpersonal or emotional requirements with regard to selecting a partner, but then date someone because he has a nice body?

    I know men who have sex with a lot of people who are much more honest with themselves than men who are holding out for the Ryan Reynolds lookalikes. It's one thing to enjoy sex, and it's another to just engage in risky behavior. The only thing that puts me off is when people aren't being honest about they're doing. If you want dick, then own it. If you're ashamed of wanting dick (not merely that you don't want to talk to everyone within earshot about who you're screwing, but actually ashamed), maybe you should alter your behavior. A persistent disconnect between what one claims to believe and what one does usually results in a type of person I can't readily deal with.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 07, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    Discriminating in the sense that you exclusively hook up with guys that you are sexually attracted to...not just hopping on the dick because it is there.

    Do you have an issue with someone wanting to hook up with only attractive men? Sorry people have standards.