How important is it to be out to your doctor?

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    May 07, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Also, other than Howard Brown, does anyone know any good gay doctors in Chicago?
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    May 08, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    Nobody has an opinion? On RJ nobody has an opinion? Hell must've frozen over.
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    May 08, 2012 12:08 AM GMT
    How important is it to be out to your doctor?

    It's an old question here. Previously I replied that I think it's very important, because a gay man can have unique health issues of which a doctor needs to be aware.

    Also, it's a necessity if you want your partner to participate in your health care, or vice versa, even if it's just the right to be with him in the hospital or during an exam. And vital if you or he becomes incapacitated due to illness or injury, and one must make care decisions for the other. Of course, it's also wise to have legal documents that guarantee that right, like mutual Health Care Surrogate declarations in the US.

    All of my health care providers, and those of my partner, know and respect the fact that we are partners, and therefore gay. It's really all the same thing.
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    May 08, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    swimguychicago saidAlso, other than Howard Brown, does anyone know any good gay doctors in Chicago?


    I'm not out to mine, he hasn't asked, I don't find it necessary to say anything about it. It doesn't change my test results, or my health, why would it be important? I could see the importance if someone has certain health problems, it may help the doctor understand source or other risks.

    If they ask, I don't mind telling though.

    They asked once if I was married or had a girlfriend, lol
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    May 08, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    I"ve only had to tell my gastroentrologist due to internal hemorrhoids and was getting them fixed and wanted to know the time frame on when I'd be able to have sex again.

    Other than that I don't tell my general physician because there's no real reason to since it doesn't effect my health.
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    May 08, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Defenseon saidI"ve only had to tell my gastroentrologist due to internal hemorrhoids and was getting them fixed and wanted to know the time frame on when I'd be able to have sex again.

    Other than that I don't tell my general physician because there's no real reason to since it doesn't effect my health.


    OK, so pipe up when there's a need?

    Best of luck with the hemrhoids -- you're too good looking not to have plenty of sex.
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    May 08, 2012 6:53 AM GMT
    So any hints on gay docs in Chicago?
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    May 08, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    That's a silly question...I have no doctor =D
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    May 09, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    Not too important as long as you get the advice you're asking for.
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 09, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    How important is it that you don't die from something you witheld from your doctor. Your call sweety.
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    May 09, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    I would need to get health insurance before I get a gay-friendly doctor.
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    May 09, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    Why not be out, when your doctor is likely to figure it out at some point... Your first prostate exam, for example... icon_lol.gif
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    May 09, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    Defenseon saidI"ve only had to tell my gastroentrologist due to internal hemorrhoids and was getting them fixed and wanted to know the time frame on when I'd be able to have sex again.

    Other than that I don't tell my general physician because there's no real reason to since it doesn't effect my health.


    imagine getting a rim job after all that pain you have to go through, like a virgin !
  • Koaa2

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    May 12, 2012 10:36 AM GMT
    My physician is gay also, never been a problem for me. I see him at least every 6 months, routine labs and std tests every 6 months.
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    May 12, 2012 10:46 AM GMT
    Yeah for most things its irrelevant.

    I hope though RJs seriously consider having a good general practioner (primary care/family physician) and get to know them over time and they you. It'll just become obvious.

    its more important that youre comfortable with the doctor than feel compelled to announce it. we dont even use the term gay in medicine, its MSM (men who have sex with men)

    I was once asked directly by a doctor if I'm gay (really early in my coming out) and I had a knee-jerk reaction to deny it. So i know what its like.
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    May 12, 2012 11:41 AM GMT
    "How important is it to be out to your doctor? "

    Simple....How important is your health to you?

    If your health is important to you, then of course you should be out to your doctor. icon_idea.gif
    If it isn't, (then besides you being an idiot), then being out to your doctor isn't important.

    Tristan
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    May 12, 2012 12:05 PM GMT
    intensity69 saidWhy not be out, when your doctor is likely to figure it out at some point... Your first prostate exam, for example... icon_lol.gif
    Are you serious? would they know by checking your prostate?
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    May 12, 2012 12:18 PM GMT
    musclefetish1 said"How important is it to be out to your doctor? "

    Simple....How important is your health to you?

    If your health is important to you, then of course you should be out to your doctor. icon_idea.gif
    If it isn't, (then besides you being an idiot), then being out to your doctor isn't important.

    Tristan

    Nicely stated. All our regular doctors know we are a gay couple. During my husband's recent emergency admit to a Catholic hospital (not our choice, the EMT said their protocol required them to go to the nearest stroke facility), the medical staff kept asking us about our being gay, how long we had been together. They were really curious, and very friendly. I hope we educated them.

    Thank gawd I brought a legal Health Care Surrogate document with me. Otherwise they would have had me sitting down in the lobby, unable to even visit his ICU room because I'm gay. Fucking Catholics and Florida. And the conservaposse here says we don't need gay civil rights? Yeah, sure.

    So anyway, I encourage all of you with a partner or a close BF to draw up some legal documents. It doesn't mean you're married, you can cancel them at the drop of a hat. But if something unexpected happens, a car crash, a sudden illness, whatever, you can't be barred from his bedside. (I think Ohio still prevents that, even with a legal document, if they suspect you are gay, as their anti-gay Republican law was written)
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    May 12, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    I came out to a couple of Dr's. One was a female, so it was uselessly dismaying to her wet-daydreaming of me. Bleh! The second was male, but it never turned my kinky wet dreams useless. icon_question.gifxicon_sad.gif
  • shutoman

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    May 12, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    "How important is it to be out to your doctor? "

    Speaking as someone who specialises in medical data: If you can't be out to your doctor, you shouldn't be his patient. The relationship is substantially built on trust.