"Gay Acting" As Gimmick To Be Popular?

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    May 08, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    There's a guy in school that is straight but he likes to act "gay" as he puts it because people like react to him and laugh and whatnot and it gets him attention. Now that kinda pisses me off, because he sometimes acts like a drag queen (no dressing up but by the way he talks and all that saying 'darling' 'honey' and stuff) but when I'm minding my own business watching a Broadway performance of something or glee people heckle with stuff like "that's so gay" and get annoyed by me watching something with headphones on.

    Do you guys know anyone that acts gay just to get attention? Sometimes it really annoys me because he's making a joke out of something and constantly makes anti-gay/hateful comments while using that very same thing to be popular and get loads of attention and laughs from everyone in class (he's like the class clown I guess). So what do you guys think about this and have you all ever seen anything like this before?
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    May 08, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidThis is really bizarre....

    So they make fun of you for being gay or doing gay things, but he's popular because he acts like he's gay? Those two things don't seem compatible.


    Well when I happened to bring it up (I'm not out by the way) they were like he's just kidding around and making fun of it while I'm seriously into all that gay stuff and it's creepy to them. Then when I was like, he could be gay and just messing with you guys they were like they saw him at parties making out with girls and he has/had a girlfriend.
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    May 08, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    When I first came out at 12, I wasn't very feminine at all. People may have had a doubt or two, just like every guy, but I had nooooo hints at being openly gay in the weeks leading up to me coming out.

    After I came out, I lost all my young (immature) guy friends, and the girls took over.

    I realized that girls loved when I acted gay, as gay as possible, girly as possible -- they thought it was amazingly fun and it brought me closer to them. I kept this trend up for years, and this trend is what distanced me from straight guys for so long. I viewed them as strange and abstract because I let myself progress throughout not just my pre-puberty, but during puberty, and after. The ''gay'' act that I put on was quite an act.

    Today I've really come into much more of who I am and my ''gayness'' only comes out in ways where you'd have to be a friend, or if I'm truly excited about something. It's gotten to the point where I meet old high school friends and we just don't click anymore -- I'm not the girly Justin they're used to -- and I'm finally happy to accept it.

    I definitely did it to be ''recognized'' - not exactly for attention -- I wanted to feel like I had something to make me liked, especially after NOT being liked from being gay. So I agree, in a sense, it was an act for attention, but really, an act out of insecurity, misunderstanding, and desperation to fit in.

    I do not believe ALL gay guys go through this, and I do not believe that all feminine gay men are faking it. I do believe though, that there is a good half of feminine men (from like 13-25) who are still in the phase that I just spoke about. But I also do believe that some men are truly, inherently, feminine to that degree 24/7, without reservation.

    It was a fun time in my life, because it made me the social, personable and presentable person that I am today, with good speaking skills -- but it also really fucked up my identity for a while, and in doing so, taught me more than anything in the world (to be quite honest on the RJ forums...lolz).

    That's my 62 cents!
  • LexLuthor

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    May 08, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    Not really to be popular, but my friends act gay half the time just to be funny, which it gets old imo. I don't know anyone like you are talking about though. Maybe he's acting gay because he is really gay himself and it might throw people off....somehow....idk....but yeah sounds like It would get annoying fast.
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    May 08, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    Yeah well he's straight though so I dunno if he's so desperate to get attention from people that he'd be willing to act all fabulous and all just for the attention of people in class.
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    May 08, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
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    mizzouguy10 saidThis is really bizarre....

    So they make fun of you for being gay or doing gay things, but he's popular because he acts like he's gay? Those two things don't seem compatible.


    Well when I happened to bring it up (I'm not out by the way) they were like he's just kidding around and making fun of it while I'm seriously into all that gay stuff and it's creepy to them. Then when I was like, he could be gay and just messing with you guys they were like they saw him at parties making out with girls and he has/had a girlfriend.


    You need to step up your "mean girls" routine. All types of gay/bi/closeted guys make out with girls and date them.

    A "straight" guy at my high school actually cheated on his girlfriend with this really ugly guy and the girlfriend confronted him. She was like "Stay away from my man!".

    But anyways, at my school there were many popular guys, so if any one guy tried getting popular by acting gay he would be ridiculed beyond belief.

    So is he popular with girl, guys, or both? Is he friends with the other popular kids?


    Yeah he's friends with the popular people. And all of those guys included there are 'masculine' assholes in my opinion lol... I'm only friends with a couple of them and it took like a while for them to be really friendly with me because I'm kind of over the top and crazy in person and someone told me that's intimidating somehow...
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    May 08, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    Ask as to why he act's gay in private. He might be, if says it's because I think gay people are funny in how they act then he's attempting to be funny by using a racial stero-type. In which case since your alone you can then kick his ass and advise him it's even funnier a gay person just kicked the shit out of him.
    On second thought you may wanna hold off on the ass kicking.
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    May 08, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    rendon saidask as to why he act's gay in private, as he might be. If says it's because I think gay people are funny in hoow they act then he's attempting to be funny by using a racial stero-type. In which case since your alone you can then kick his ass and advise it's even funnier a gay person just kicked the shit out of you.
    On second thought you may wanna hold off on the ass kicking.


    Well I could take him, he's like really skinny lol. And I don't want to know if he's closeted gay or not... but it is highly annoying that he constantly tries being friends with me. He thinks I'm his friend too and always tries to talk to me, but I just ignore him lol.
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    May 08, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    You should probably talk to him about it, you might learn something as to understanding his thought process. I wouldn't recomend the violent route. Buutttttticon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 08, 2012 12:54 AM GMT
    rendon saidYou should probably talk to him about it, you might learn something as to understanding his thought process. I wouldn't recomend the violent route. Buutttttticon_rolleyes.gif


    I don't want to talk to him about it I don't want to talk to him about anything, it just was something that pissed me off and I'm almost done with school so I won't be seeing him again for a long while. I was just curious if other straight guys do that sort of thing for attention.
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    May 08, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    I dunno, one of my friends asked him if he was gay and just doing that as a cover or something and he said no. She still thinks he is though but whatever lol.
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    May 08, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
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    MarkRoger saidI dunno, one of my friends asked him if he was gay and just doing that as a cover or something and he said no. She still thinks he is though but whatever lol.


    I've learned a lot of people think speculating whether someone is gay is somehow offensive or rude. Closet case for sure.

    Hell I'm pretty much out now but I'd still feel awkward if someone randomly confronted me about my sexuality.


    Yeah I know confrontations about sexuality is annoying and rude, I didn't ask her to do it she just did it on her own and well yeah... she is a close friend to him though, now, and she's like how his life is crazy or something and that I should try and be friendly to him.
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    May 08, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    I went to a private school... our class was a riot. Between misogynist tuesdays and feminist fridays, we have gay wednesdays, where all the cool kidf talk with a lifp. The real gayf weren't too happy though, becaufe fome of them didn't have to fake it.
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    May 08, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    hottop88 saidI went to a private school... our class was a riot. Between misogynist tuesdays and feminist fridays, we have gay wednesdays, where all the cool kidf talk with a lifp. The real gayf weren't too happy though, becaufe fome of them didn't have to fake it.


    Misogynist Tuesdays... wow... lol.
  • araphael

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    May 08, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    "act gay?" what does that mean?
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    May 08, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    araphael said"act gay?" what does that mean?


    Well that was his description of it to my friend, like using a lisp and being all flamboyant. That's why I put it in quotations because I wouldn't call anything 'gay acting' since nothing can really cover that correctly.
  • araphael

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    May 08, 2012 4:41 AM GMT
    Who would choose to "act gay" that wasn't gay given all of the negative hell that comes with being gay in many places and realities? I don't understand that I must admit. Forgive my ignorance on this point, but I'm always trying to learn what I do not understand.
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    May 08, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    araphael saidWho would choose to "act gay" that wasn't gay given all of the negative hell that comes with being gay in many places and realities? I don't understand that I must admit. Forgive my ignorance on this point, but I'm always trying to learn what I do not understand.


    Well he's acting like it to kind of mock, I guess? And all the popular people eat it up and laugh at what he does and sometimes they spew out some gay insults.
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    May 08, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    JayP saidWhen I first came out at 12, I wasn't very feminine at all. People may have had a doubt or two, just like every guy, but I had nooooo hints at being openly gay in the weeks leading up to me coming out.

    After I came out, I lost all my young (immature) guy friends, and the girls took over.

    I realized that girls loved when I acted gay, as gay as possible, girly as possible -- they thought it was amazingly fun and it brought me closer to them. I kept this trend up for years, and this trend is what distanced me from straight guys for so long. I viewed them as strange and abstract because I let myself progress throughout not just my pre-puberty, but during puberty, and after. The ''gay'' act that I put on was quite an act.

    Today I've really come into much more of who I am and my ''gayness'' only comes out in ways where you'd have to be a friend, or if I'm truly excited about something. It's gotten to the point where I meet old high school friends and we just don't click anymore -- I'm not the girly Justin they're used to -- and I'm finally happy to accept it.

    I definitely did it to be ''recognized'' - not exactly for attention -- I wanted to feel like I had something to make me liked, especially after NOT being liked from being gay. So I agree, in a sense, it was an act for attention, but really, an act out of insecurity, misunderstanding, and desperation to fit in.

    I do not believe ALL gay guys go through this, and I do not believe that all feminine gay men are faking it. I do believe though, that there is a good half of feminine men (from like 13-25) who are still in the phase that I just spoke about. But I also do believe that some men are truly, inherently, feminine to that degree 24/7, without reservation.

    It was a fun time in my life, because it made me the social, personable and presentable person that I am today, with good speaking skills -- but it also really fucked up my identity for a while, and in doing so, taught me more than anything in the world (to be quite honest on the RJ forums...lolz).

    That's my 62 cents!


    That was very interesting, thanks for sharing it.
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    May 08, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Sounds like this guy is falling into the role of "class clown". Because of that role, people often give the clown a lot of leeway...

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    May 08, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    rendon saidAsk as to why he act's gay in private. He might be, if says it's because I think gay people are funny in how they act then he's attempting to be funny by using a racial stero-type. In which case since your alone you can then kick his ass and advise him it's even funnier a gay person just kicked the shit out of him.
    On second thought you may wanna hold off on the ass kicking.


    ... racial stereotype? icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 08, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    Some gay gays really do play it up. You catch them in these unguarded moments and you can tell that they're play-acting to an extent.

    The truth is that majority people like minority stereotypes -- they're convenient, non-challenging, easily-identifiable.

    They like to see us coming from afar so we don't slip under their radars.
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    May 08, 2012 9:33 AM GMT
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    May 08, 2012 10:07 AM GMT
    It's surprising that acting gay would make him more popular.
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    May 08, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    lol@ the expression, 'act gay' . Gay is another term for homosexual.

    Did you guys mean 'act swishy?' We used to call it 'acting campy'


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    "The rise of post-modernism made 'camp' a common perspective on aesthetics, which was not identified with any specific group. The attitude originally was a distinctive factor in pre-Stonewall gay male communities, where it was the dominant cultural pattern. It originated from the acceptance of gayness as effeminacy[4]. Two key components of camp were originally feminine performances: swish and drag. With swish featuring extensive use of superlatives, and drag being exaggerated female impersonation, camp became extended to all things "over the top", including female female impersonators, as in the exaggerated Hollywood version of Carmen Miranda. It was this version of the concept that was adopted by literary and art critics and became a part of the conceptual array of 1960s culture."

    [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Camp_(style)[/url]