Sleep better alone or together with a guy?

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    May 08, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    Been discussed here before, but new members join RJ and others leave.

    Last night my partner & I had to sleep alone in different locations, due to circumstances beyond our control (but not because of a fight or disagreement). We both slept badly. That's typical for us, and for me in the past before my present partner and I got together.

    I really sleep better, more contentedly, more happily, more soundly, when I'm in bed next to a man I love. Tonight we have to sleep apart a second time, and I know will again sleep poorly. Anyone else have this happen to themselves and their lovers? Or are you a solitary sleeper?
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    May 08, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    alone for the most part. tossing and turning ain't sexy/
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    May 08, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidDefinitely with a guy... I sometimes use a pillow as a really poor substitute haha.

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    May 08, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    This hasn't been something I've had to consider for a while, but I had minor problems in my last relationship. When my boyfriend spent the night, I always felt bad because I am an insomniac, and I was always worried about waking him up during the night.
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    May 08, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    I much prefer being together but with my job I travel 3 nights a week and we are apart. So I guess either way I don't seem to have any problems NOT being able to sleep!
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    May 08, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    well i've never had the experience of sleeping with anyone but i dream about it sometimes and i like it then icon_smile.gif
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    May 08, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    It depends on how hot it is in the room for me. If it's warm I like to sleep alone cus I sweat easily with someone else there. On a cold night though I'll cuddle up all night long.
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    May 08, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    For me, the quality of sleep does not vary under the two scenarios. I'm usually out like I'm in a deep coma, hehehe.

    But I have to say that the falling to sleep and the waking up is definitely better!!!
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    May 08, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    Haven't been in "love" yet, but from my experience sleeping alone seems better since I can move as much as I want without having concern about waking up the person next to me and no sharing of blanket hehe. But waking next to somebody is different though.
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    May 08, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    Either or but I need to get use to sleeping with someone next to me before it gets the same for me. The first few time, not so much. I also agree that it also depends on the temperature too. If it's hot, I would rather sleep alone of a moderate distance away to keep cool.
  • courtnyou

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    May 08, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    Alone!
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    May 08, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    I sleep calmer and deeper with a guy.
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    May 08, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    Wish it were otherwise... but alone.
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    May 08, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    intensity69 saidFor me, the quality of sleep does not vary under the two scenarios. I'm usually out like I'm in a deep coma, hehehe.

    But I have to say that the falling to sleep and the waking up is definitely better!!!



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    May 08, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    Alone. However, it can be restful with the right guy.

    Sleeping patterns helped ruin my last relationship that ended 8yrs ago. I snore and often awoke to a pillow held over my face or the guy pounding his first on the mattress. It wasn't good for either one of us. Very self conscious of it now.icon_confused.gif
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    May 08, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    Your probably used to sleeping with someone in ur bed. for me I LOVE sleeping in my own bed. more leg space.
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    May 08, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    with my past boyfriends, its always taken a certain amount of getting used to sleeping together. regulating body temperature, finding comfy positions which our bodies fit well together, not feeling self conscious about tossing turning scratching yawning farting etc. my ex was always clinging on to me such that i would be pushed to the edge of the bed. i'd have to get out and walk around to the other side of the bed. then he'd wake up, tip toe around the edge of the bed to my (new) side, and then nuzzle in with me. he was like that. it was cute but sometimes irritating when i was really tired. even when sleeping alone, there is always this falling asleep period where i'm tossing around and scratching my head or rubbing my face trying to find my comfy position.

    but once that adjustment period is over, when you get into each other's rhythm and you don't feel self-conscious about your own foibles, its always better sleeping with my partner. there's something reassuring about it. i miss that.

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    May 08, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    I like sleeping with my guy in the same bed, but I don't like to cuddle while sleeping usually. He tells me he tries to cuddle me and I'll say "no" in my sleep :/ I feel bad cause I don't know that I do it!
  • araphael

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    May 08, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    You always sleep better with someone else in the bed with whom you are either in love with or comfortable with. I think that may be the two go hand in hand. If not, there is a serious problem, lol.
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    May 08, 2012 7:18 AM GMT
    I sleep better alone. I toss and turn and am a furnace. I get way too hot if there is someone else in the bed unless it's below 60 degrees in the room.
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    May 08, 2012 8:19 AM GMT
    I sleep better when I'm alone. That's why I have a "no sleep over" policy in my bedroom. Maybe with time I'd get used to having someone next to me, but rarely does that happen.
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    May 08, 2012 8:24 AM GMT
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    Trollileo saidWouldn't know. Never had the pleasure of the latter.


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    May 08, 2012 8:46 AM GMT
    I sleep like a rock either way.
  • sbwlguy

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    May 08, 2012 10:57 AM GMT
    If he snores then definitely without. I am a pretty deep sleeper but as soon as there is any hint of snoring I'm acutely aware of it and don't get any sleep.
  • Drift

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    May 08, 2012 11:02 AM GMT

    Sleeping is one of my favourite things to do, and I can do it anytime, anywhere. So sleeping alone isn't so much of a problem. But I adore cuddling, and waking up with someone, so i'd generally choose that if it's an option.

    Although, twitchers and uneven snorers are difficult. A gentle snore? Fine. But y'know those ones that sound like they're gonna die any second? So stressful!