May 08, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
I am going back to visit friends in a town I lived in five years ago. Should I get in touch with an acquaintance there I fooled around with? I do not want to snub him. I made a visit there two years ago and a few pictures from the trip made their way onto Facebook; he saw them and sent me a neutral note just wondering if I had been in town, and we've exchanged a few emails since then.
Here is why I am unsure what to do: If I did see him, I am fairly certain he would try to make a pass at me. I would bet he'd invite me over for dinner and seduce me there (which was his M.O. when I lived there). When I knew him, I was new to being gay and just trying things out; in fact, he made it clear he would have wanted to pursue a serious relationship, but he didn't turn down the prospect of fun.
It's not that I find him unattractive. It's that I've changed since I knew him; I really am not interested in random sex, even with old fuck buddies. Is there some way I can avoid a situation where I have to reject his advances? Maybe recommend we meet somewhere public (although that sounds hysterical, considering he is not a stranger)?
Here is why I am unsure what to do: If I did see him, I am fairly certain he would try to make a pass at me. I would bet he'd invite me over for dinner and seduce me there (which was his M.O. when I lived there). When I knew him, I was new to being gay and just trying things out; in fact, he made it clear he would have wanted to pursue a serious relationship, but he didn't turn down the prospect of fun.
It's not that I find him unattractive. It's that I've changed since I knew him; I really am not interested in random sex, even with old fuck buddies. Is there some way I can avoid a situation where I have to reject his advances? Maybe recommend we meet somewhere public (although that sounds hysterical, considering he is not a stranger)?
