How close are you to your parents?

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    May 08, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    Are you guys closer to mom or dad & why?
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    May 08, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    I'm very close to both.
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    May 08, 2012 6:30 AM GMT
    Neither, I was raised by grandparents... in the TL;DR version.
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    May 08, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    JoyfullyRandom saidNeither, I was raised by grandparents... in the TL;DR version.


    I was also raised by my grandparents so I'm close to them, don't know my biological dad, have a father figure, mom and grandparents. I try to be close to all of them equally but didn't really know my mom til I got older, so its kinda hard. Almost like I don't know her that well, like I would have if she would have been the one to raise me even though we talk daily.
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    May 08, 2012 6:40 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI'm very close to both.


    That's a good thing I wanna be too. Guess it just takes time.
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    May 08, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    JoyfullyRandom saidNeither, I was raised by grandparents... in the TL;DR version.


    I always wondered what it was like to have grandparents in your life...My paternal grandfather died before I was born, my maternal grandfather I think spoke one word to me my entire life (and I saw him often), and neither of my two grandmothers, who are still alive, have ever really noticed that I'm alive.
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    May 08, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    I've always felt a special bond with my mom.
    She said last week I'm not just her son I'm also her best friend who always knows how to cheer her up icon_smile.gif (happiest day of my life!!!!)

    My dad is a different story
    I never liked him ever since I can remember I couldn't stand his presence..
    Most of the time I know when someone likes me or not in the family
    And I always knew he didn't.. Even thou he bought me things most of my friends didn't get from their dad but still... love don't cost a thing!

    The love of my mom and my siblings is all I really needed in my life..

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    May 08, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
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    JoyfullyRandom saidNeither, I was raised by grandparents... in the TL;DR version.


    I always wondered what it was like to have grandparents in your life...My paternal grandfather died before I was born, my maternal grandfather I think spoke one word to me my entire life (and I saw him often), and neither of my two grandmothers, who are still alive, have ever really noticed that I'm alive.


    Same here I only know my mom's mother but she hates me because I'm the son of my dad? she loves my siblings because they have a differend dad..
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    May 08, 2012 10:24 AM GMT
    Not close.
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    May 08, 2012 11:29 AM GMT
    I am not very close to either of them, but for the last two and a half years, I've become their primary caregiver. My dad always enjoyed embarrassing and belittling me infront of his friends, but ever since he became dependent on me (he had both his legs amputated recently), he has softened up and tried to be civil to me. Strangely enough, even though we are not "best friends", I do love them very much.

    My siblings were always the ones that made them proud, the ones they enjoyed talking to their friends about. I was the gay one that just didn't make good subject matter for them to brag about to their friends. And now irony of ironies, I am the one taking care of them. I guess everything happens for the best, and in my case, I think "the best" is gaining my dad's respect.
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    May 08, 2012 1:21 PM GMT
    GayBtm83 saidAre you guys closer to mom or dad & why?


    The times I am closer to them make up for the times I wasn't that close to them. I love them both.
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    May 08, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    My parents live 10 minutes away and I'm friendly and helpful to them. I left home at age 9 to go live with my grandparents. In my case, my grandparents meant the whole world to me. They were younger, busy, active people who loved me unconditionally. They took me all over the world with them (123 countries). I miss them now that they've passed on not too long ago. (Notice how I'm saying a whole lot more about the grandparents than I am about the parents. No accident).
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    May 08, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    I was always very close to my mother. She and I had a lot of interest in the same things. We bonded in so many ways. When she died it took me forever to move on, the pain was truly devastating. I became closer to my dad as I grew older and by the time he died we were also close. Not in the way I was with my mother but in a way that I sense children should be with their parents.

    Spend time with your parents now if they're still alive, for one day you'll awake and realize that they're gone forever and the only thing you can cling to is their memory. Make them good memories that make you smile and laugh and cry tears of joy.
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    May 08, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    Father - Not close at all but I love him and respect what he does.

    Mother - I'm just like her and close to her
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    May 08, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    My dad died fairly young and we were never close.

    Was close with my mom until I came out and there was a fairly turbulent period for about a decade where we didn't have a lot to do with one another.

    These days I would not say we are close, but I do see her in a bit of a different light. She's the primary caretaker for my stepfather, who is in the last stages of dementia.

    It's given me an appreciation for her strengths as a person that I never really saw before.
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    May 08, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    Extremely close. No matter what, family will always come first. My mom and I are particularly close.
    Then again, I do live 5 hours away and I notice that we tend to be closer the farther apart we are.
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    May 08, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    I'm a Momma's boy. Always have been and always will be. Talk to her at least 3 times a week on the phone.
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    May 08, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    My parents lets see.... data processing....

    My Dad I would say around 6/10 ■■■■■■□□□□ icon_smile.gif

    My Mum will be 9.5 /10 ■■■■■■■■■□ icon_biggrin.gif

    why??..very understanding and liberal compare to a egoistic one!
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    May 08, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
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    JoyfullyRandom saidNeither, I was raised by grandparents... in the TL;DR version.


    I always wondered what it was like to have grandparents in your life...My paternal grandfather died before I was born, my maternal grandfather I think spoke one word to me my entire life (and I saw him often), and neither of my two grandmothers, who are still alive, have ever really noticed that I'm alive.


    Well because I was raised by the g-rents (cause mom & dad weren't there), I was spoiled, me & my brother both ;D it was fun, still am and I still live with them lol left when I went to the military and when I moved to LA for a year but the economy sucks the big one lol. I doubt they don't know you're alive they probably have some friction with someone else that is close to you. My grandparents have 5 daughters, 15 grandchildren, 17 or 19 great grandchildren and one of them they're not that close to because of "friction" between the mom cause she's nuts lol.
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    May 08, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    HawkEyez saidI've always felt a special bond with my mom.
    She said last week I'm not just her son I'm also her best friend who always knows how to cheer her up icon_smile.gif (happiest day of my life!!!!)

    My dad is a different story
    I never liked him ever since I can remember I couldn't stand his presence..
    Most of the time I know when someone likes me or not in the family
    And I always knew he didn't.. Even thou he bought me things most of my friends didn't get from their dad but still... love don't cost a thing!

    The love of my mom and my siblings is all I really needed in my life..



    I know what you mean. It's not nice being subjected to a scolding or having someone dis-enable you and drown out your dreams or make you nervous, disengaged in your active creativity for lifes purposes. It like holds you back rather than encourage you. I don't get along with "real" dad he has always been gone since I was an infant so that sucks but as I got older he'd just call me on the phone a month or two after my birthday and it sucked cause he'd just lie about sending me stuff then disappear for a year lol like um??? OK? WTF? Then when I turned 24 I finally told him to stop lying to me or stop calling me, he said he wanted to have a relationship with me and was sad that he didn't have one oh and that my other half brother & half sister were in the military lol yeah sure. They're mom found me on facebook and now I have interaction with them...but its not the same. Almost like strangers...weird kinda lol. But after I told him I was gay...haven't heard from him...and its been years. I don't get along with the aunts though, their fuckin cunts! God I hate those bitches lol. Sorry. All I need is who I have right now and the love of a good man!
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    May 08, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    Not close to either of them. I wish I was though because not having a family hurts sometimes icon_confused.gif
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    May 08, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    jack228 saidNot close.


    Sorry ;( maybe something could change that?
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    May 08, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    Martin_Maros saidI am not very close to either of them, but for the last two and a half years, I've become their primary caregiver. My dad always enjoyed embarrassing and belittling me infront of his friends, but ever since he became dependent on me (he had both his legs amputated recently), he has softened up and tried to be civil to me. Strangely enough, even though we are not "best friends", I do love them very much.

    My siblings were always the ones that made them proud, the ones they enjoyed talking to their friends about. I was the gay one that just didn't make good subject matter for them to brag about to their friends. And now irony of ironies, I am the one taking care of them. I guess everything happens for the best, and in my case, I think "the best" is gaining my dad's respect.


    Well he needed you after that, sorry about that too. Jeez that must be hard. Adding, he probably just wanted to sound like the tough guy in front of his friends, demonstrating dominance because of an insecurity. Plus maybe he didn't think it was that bad or he would have stopped, you should have told him it was hard on you and maybe he would have lightened up. But everything happens for a reason maybe that's what had to happen for you to have a relationship with him?
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    May 08, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
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    JoyfullyRandom saidNeither, I was raised by grandparents... in the TL;DR version.


    I always wondered what it was like to have grandparents in your life...My paternal grandfather died before I was born, my maternal grandfather I think spoke one word to me my entire life (and I saw him often), and neither of my two grandmothers, who are still alive, have ever really noticed that I'm alive.

    I had two grandmothers who lived to be quite old.
    My father's mother was a jolly person. Everyone adored her; I miss her to this day.

    My mother's mother died in a tragic accident---a little girl from Kansas dropped a house on her.


    A little girl from kansas dropped a house on her (wizard of oz?) lol My grandparents are older too and my grandpas uncle is still alive almost 100 y/o lol. Good genes lol ;)
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    May 08, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
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    GayBtm83 saidAre you guys closer to mom or dad & why?


    The times I am closer to them make up for the times I wasn't that close to them. I love them both.


    Aww ;( just trying makes a difference.