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    Jul 21, 2008 7:26 PM GMT
    got some horrible news last night, anyone else had something similar happen? Just nice to know if I'm alone or not.

    Guy I've been seeing for a while suddenly pulls back. Tough to reach, single word texts, won't return calls, rarely initiates communication, etc.

    I'm fearful of becoming the "creepy stalker guy" so I just sort of let him be, while feeling a bit annoyed just because I wouldn't even treat a friend the way he'd been treating me, let alone someone I'm interested in romantically.

    The blanks got filled in last night, he's seeing someone else, in another town. I'm the mistress!

    He'd "totally be with me were it not for the other guy." I'm so glad I came in second place. Does wonders for my ego.

    I'm a bit relieved, because his behavior makes sense. But it still hurts. Being rejected sucks. Being played sucks worse.

    EDIT: Obviously, we're done. No interest whatsoever in keeping this thing going.

    And for the record, I'm not all sitting-on-the-couch-with-Kleenexes-watching-Lifetime-movies-eating-a-pint-of-ice-cream ... I'm a big boy, I can handle it without falling to pices. Still sucks.

    Anyone else had something like that happen? How did you cope?
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    Jul 21, 2008 7:38 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that but to be honest to you and to myself here, I did lots of sitting-on-the-couch-with-Kleenexes-watching-Lifetime-movies-eating-a-pint-of-ice-cream...now I'm a ma soeuricon_razz.gif
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    Jul 21, 2008 7:56 PM GMT
    Zim, does the flavor of ice cream make a difference?
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    Jul 21, 2008 8:06 PM GMT
    Man, Cojock, that royally sucks. My only response is I think this calls for the RJ Posse to go rearrange this guy's face icon_evil.gif
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    Jul 21, 2008 8:10 PM GMT
    That TOTALLY blows!! Oh well, can't win 'em all!! So when that happens, move on to the next and if there isn't one then hang out with you and have a BLAST!!!
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    Jul 21, 2008 8:12 PM GMT
    If you want to do good things for your ego now, then dump him! Don't call, don't text, don't reply.
    You don't deserve to be in 2nd place. It's now your move to make sure that your not.

    Forget him.
    Put yourself in first place.
    Wait a little while.
    Someone who wants you as 'one and only' will show up.
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    Jul 21, 2008 8:14 PM GMT
    Well that was nice of him. Can't even say the reason why. I say put some poison oak on ice cream and give it to him and hope he dies of anaphylactic shock. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 21, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    Sedative saidWell that was nice of him. Can't even say the reason why. I say put some poison oak on ice cream and give it to him and hope he dies of anaphylactic shock. icon_lol.gif


    ...hope he dies. is sufficient.

    ... of anaphylactic shock. is just added histrionics.
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    Jul 21, 2008 11:11 PM GMT
    COJock1974 saidgot some horrible news last night, anyone else had something similar happen? Just nice to know if I'm alone or not.


    Haven't had anything like that, but it royally sucks. Sorry that had to happen.

    At least you found out now instead of later icon_sad.gif
  • GQjock

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    Jul 21, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    Yeah that does suck COjock
    But take the cue
    leave it at that and don't call him anymore
    It's not pretty when a man becomes a Stalker icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 21, 2008 11:56 PM GMT
    I recently had something like that happen just last month. I was seeing this guy i used to work with after his fiance left him. He initiated and I reciprocated, we hung out and had fun for a few months as friends then one day he decided to stop. I was ok with that b/c we still hung out as friends. then one day i see him and a few friends and there is this girl hanging on to him then it all became clear to me. I was still ok with that but the part that is getting to me is that when we do hang out sometimes which we still do with less frequency, He still looks at me and acts as if he wants me ( like he did those times we were alone in his house)
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    Jul 22, 2008 12:00 AM GMT
    bgcat57 said
    Sedative saidWell that was nice of him. Can't even say the reason why. I say put some poison oak on ice cream and give it to him and hope he dies of anaphylactic shock. icon_lol.gif


    ...hope he dies. is sufficient.

    ... of anaphylactic shock. is just added histrionics.


    What can I say? I have a flair for the dramatic. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 22, 2008 1:58 AM GMT
    Oh yeah, let me be clear, I have NO interest in calling, emailing, texting, or otherwise having any contact with this guy. He's a liar!
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    Jul 22, 2008 2:01 AM GMT
    Sounds like you just need a night on the town and blow some steam off. That, or go-kart racing...
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    Jul 22, 2008 2:01 AM GMT
    You could go visit with Czaro. ... icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 22, 2008 2:03 AM GMT
    Caslon5000 saidYou could go visit with Czaro. ... icon_eek.gif




    Oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

    Damn, man.....harsh!
  • ShawnTX

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    Jul 22, 2008 2:18 AM GMT
    Awww, sorry to hear this COjock. You'll always be in first place with us!
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    Jul 22, 2008 2:24 AM GMT
    COJock1974 saidAnyone else had something like that happen? How did you cope?


    Could you contact the person who came in first and let him know his beau is sleeping around?

    Don't sweet it. You came in second, but the contest was for "who am I most likely to give gonorrhea". Cheer up, go out, and find yourself a lover worthy of you.
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    Jul 22, 2008 2:26 AM GMT
    I'm kind of going through that right now. I have a friend (for over 4 years now) who recently came out to me...even though my gaydar went off when I first met him 4 years ago. He acts like he wants to be with me, then he disappears for a long ass time and leaves me texting/calling. I don't get made looking like a fool, so I deleted his number so I couldn't even text/call him if I wanted to. So now whenever he calls, I'm always like "who is this?" Which pisses him off, but makes me smile. Guys suck. I should date women. Lol.
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    Jul 22, 2008 2:46 AM GMT
    can't say that I have and that really sucks man.

    I think you should look back onwhathas happened and just laugh about it because I know I am. A little humor helps cure the aching heart.

    You're better off without this guy and being 2nd place just means you have the chance of being 1st place with someone else who'll appreciate you for your finer qualities.

    You'll live.
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    Jul 22, 2008 5:15 AM GMT

    Finding out was the best thing that could have happened. If he'd chosen you as number one, then that other guy would have been "the mistress" and what then? It would feel just as bad finding THAT out.


    I went out with a guy that left another for me. A year later (surprise surprise) he left me for another. It made stubbing my toes into a chair leg a pleasure.

    There's likely someone WAY better just around the corner, and this frees you up for it.

    There's a lot of big muscular shoulders around here that are ready and steady and on your side.

    You're all a great bunch of guys and
    COJock1974, that makes you a lucky guy!


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    Jul 23, 2008 3:20 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. I'm feeling a little better today. Y'all were a big part of that.

    I've taken a LOT of time to take care of myself - from playin with the dog, to eating a little comfort food, to gettin in a good workout. Guess I just answered my request for advice!

    Y'all are the best. Thanks.
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:25 AM GMT
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:25 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie said You came in second, but the contest was for "who am I most likely to give gonorrhea".


    Oh you Zombie. In a fairer universe, you wouldn't be 27, you wouldn't have a boyfriend, and you wouldn't live 1500 miles away. icon_smile.gif