my boy friend loves to top,but not with me.

  • ruffein

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    May 10, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
    my boy friend says he loves to top.but he has never topped me in 2 years.I love being the top but sometimes i would like to bottom.he lives in denver and i live in new mexico.if he loves to top and im not the one being topped should i be worried that he is topping someone else?he is very muscular and im not.im about 15 pounds over weight.do you think that may be why?
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    May 10, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    People can't just say something and have it be true. Watch how this works, "I like to use my fairy wings and fly fifty stories, wheeee...." See, I did not just fly 50 stories.
    Your BF is a bottom.
    Actions speak loudly, a top is a top and a guy who claims to be a top but has only bottomed for 2 years is, wait for it, HE IS A BOTTOM.
    That is nothing to be ashamed of, but it is also nothing he should be hiding from, the fact that he pretends to be a top is something you should be talking about in couples counseling, that and why you live such a great distance apart.
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    May 14, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidPeople can't just say something and have it be true. Watch how this works, "I like to use my fairy wings and fly fifty stories, wheeee...." See, I did not just fly 50 stories.
    Your BF is a bottom.
    Actions speak loudly, a top is a top and a guy who claims to be a top but has only bottomed for 2 years is, wait for it, HE IS A BOTTOM.
    That is nothing to be ashamed of, but it is also nothing he should be hiding from, the fact that he pretends to be a top is something you should be talking about in couples counseling, that and why you live such a great distance apart.


    Sexuality is much more gray than black and white as you make it seem. You make it seem like we were born predestined to like a certain role in bed... which is most likely wrong (no proof to prove it).

    Ther eis NO NEED to go to counselling for that. I would advise against that as that may actually piss off your bf.

    If he doesn't want to top, maybe he just isn't comfortable yet to try it.

    He WANTS to try it, but isn't READY to try it.
    I think this is the case ^
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    May 14, 2012 8:04 PM GMT
    He's either a big bottom or he's not that into you.
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    May 18, 2012 9:32 AM GMT
    1)he doesnt get erection lookin at ya !
    2)maybe you are not very hot for him
    3) or he doesn't like your a**
    or
    he's a Power bottom !