Trying to control my anger

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    May 11, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    Although I don't have an anger issue (I really don't; I'm too dosile & passive), it does bother me when other people's incompetence inconviences me. Today I've waited over 1.5 hrs to get a simple printout of my bank account balance. The reason why I'm posting this thread is that I realized something really important. Getting angry would only serve to make things worse for myself. So, I'm taking deep breaths & telling myself to remain calm. Once the overwhelming sense of rage disappeared, I noted that the people I'm angry at are actually trying to help. Then I realized that no one in particular is to blame (it's just the circumstance). Now, if only I can be this way the next time I'm waiting for someone running late.
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    May 11, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're on the right path for sure. Kudos to you, man! I can't think of anything good coming from anger... except that time I punched someone in the face. He deserved it though ;)
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    May 11, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    After all that self praising, I really felt full of myself (I actually told myself that I’m a good human being). Then another hour passed (now 2.5 hours of waiting) and I lost my inner peace and the sense of rage returned. I still didn’t make a big fuss (I think yelling & misbehaving is never acceptable), but I definitely was not pleasant. What broke the camel’s back though was when the receptionist gave me attitude about booking an appointment (after specifically being told by the account manager to book that appointment). I told her that it’s my mistake for having chosen her bank to do business with and that I’ll soon rectify that mistake. Once she started to calm me down, I told her to leave me alone as I had my fill of their “customer service”. I’m definitely thinking of transferring my funds to some other bank. This was unacceptable.
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    May 11, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    sweetyork said... Now, if only I can be this way the next time I'm waiting for someone to stop texting and fucking GO when the light turns green when running late.
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    May 11, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    sweetyork saidAfter all that self praising, I really felt full of myself (I actually told myself that I’m a good human being). Then another hour passed (now 2.5 hours of waiting) and I lost my inner peace and the sense of rage returned. I still didn’t make a big fuss (I think yelling & misbehaving is never acceptable), but I definitely was not pleasant. What broke the camel’s back though was when the receptionist gave me attitude about booking an appointment (after specifically being told by the account manager to book that appointment). I told her that it’s my mistake for having chosen her bank to do business with and that I’ll soon rectify that mistake. Once she started to calm me down, I told her to leave me alone as I had my fill of their “customer service”. I’m definitely thinking of transferring my funds to some other bank. This was unacceptable.


    Two and a half hours for an account printout? Having to book an appointment while waiting?

    First of all, can't you do this online?

    Second, I would have lost my mojo long before that. Two and a half hours for something like that is outrageous! Sometimes losing it is just the best way to get results.

    I lost it at the AT&T Wireless guy on the phone yesterday after about 10 minutes - lots of international data charges even AFTER I bought an international data plan, and they were so sorry but they couldn't do anything for me. After I raised my tone, he suddenly was willing to offer me a credit in the full amount. After which I promptly calmed down and thanked him.

    When faced with the intractable, incompetent and unreasonable, sometimes "misbehavior" is the only option that keeps you from being walked on and is, IMO, completely acceptable.

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    May 11, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    The gif of the moment is finding many places it can be useful.


    This is good anger management...

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    May 11, 2012 8:08 PM GMT
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    May 11, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    Have you considered printing your statement online?.....runs for cover.....
  • neosyllogy

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    May 11, 2012 8:55 PM GMT
    +10 for Self-Improvement and Objective Realizations!
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    May 11, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    showme said
    First of all, can't you do this online?

    metta8 saidHave you considered printing your statement online?.....runs for cover.....

    It letter I needed couldn't be an online statement. That would've been too convenient.
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    May 11, 2012 10:49 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    How you respond to a situation is your choice. Remember that. You can do the same as I did or find something that can hold your attention and entertain you when you know you will have to wait for someone or an appointment. Nowadays people are so wrapped up in their smartphones and electronic devices that you could keep a n iPad or Kindle with you.

    I totally agree. I did that during the first 1.5 hrs. After that, I just couldn't entertain myself any further. I admit that I would still be angry if they told me that they couldn't help at the beginning, but waiting 2.5 hrs with no help really didn't help my anger issues.
  • Webster666

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    May 12, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    I solved all of my banking problems by opening a checking account with Charles Schwab.
    I solved all of my problems with people being chronically late, by waiting no more than 5 minutes, then I leave and go without them.
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    May 12, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    Your anger issues cannot begin to compare to mine... I go apeshit over the most subtle slights, even if it doesn't involve me. In fact subtle aggressions make me tick even more than blatant bullying, because the perps always get away with it and the victim gets no sympathy. A few months ago I subbed in for a friend to teach a 4th grade sunday school class, and the kids were reading back to me their classmates' answers for an assignment... one girl read back another kid's answers all clumsily while looking puzzled, even though it was correct. I sensed that she was faking it, presumably over some childish vendetta, so I called her out on it as if she was an adult, while everyone except her reacted in bewilderment over my rage. That's when I knew I should never get into teaching.
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    May 12, 2012 1:58 AM GMT
    My anger is totally wacked! I've even been jailed for fist fights. I think it's from growing up in an abusive household, however, I acknowledge that is not an excuse. I fly off the handle a lot especially if my emotions are played with.
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    May 12, 2012 2:02 AM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidMy anger is totally wacked! I've even been jailed for fist fights. I think it's from growing up in an abusive household, however, I acknowledge that is not an excuse. I fly off the handle a lot especially if my emotions are played with.

    Problem with getting into fights and that includes road rage is your opponent might have just as bad a temper and also a gun.
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    May 12, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
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    hottop88 saidYour anger issues cannot begin to compare to mine... I go apeshit over the most subtle slights, even if it doesn't involve me. In fact subtle aggressions make me tick even more than blatant bullying, because the perps always get away with it and the victim gets no sympathy. A few months ago I subbed in for a friend to teach a 4th grade sunday school class, and the kids were reading back to me their classmates' answers for an assignment... one girl read back another kid's answers all clumsily while looking puzzled, even though it was correct. I sensed that she was faking it for some childish vendetta, so I called her out on it as if she was an adult, while everyone except her reacted in bewilderment over my rage. That's when I knew I should never get into teaching.

    Yeah, well you pretty much come across as a jackass on here too.
    I can well imagine what you're like in real life.

    Must be weird imagining "real life", with that post count...
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    May 12, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    pack a bowl and fire it up! LOL! ..... REALLY, relax! you live longer and people are more likely to hear you and get a bank that handles this shit online.
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    May 12, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
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    fhaynie81 saidMy anger is totally wacked! I've even been jailed for fist fights. I think it's from growing up in an abusive household, however, I acknowledge that is not an excuse. I fly off the handle a lot especially if my emotions are played with.

    Problem with getting into fights and that includes road rage is your opponent might have just as bad a temper and also a gun.

    Hahaha no road rage but DEFinetly hoodrat ghetto
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    May 12, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    I feel OPs pain. Though I don't know if mine comes as a result of working overnights, but... the incompetence I deal with on a daily basis really sends me over the edge.

    My head feels like it's going to explode icon_sad.gif
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    May 12, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    I always try and take a deep breath when I get ticked off, but some days are better than others.icon_evil.gif
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    May 12, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    sweetyork saidAfter all that self praising, I really felt full of myself (I actually told myself that I’m a good human being). Then another hour passed (now 2.5 hours of waiting) and I lost my inner peace and the sense of rage returned. I still didn’t make a big fuss (I think yelling & misbehaving is never acceptable), but I definitely was not pleasant. What broke the camel’s back though was when the receptionist gave me attitude about booking an appointment (after specifically being told by the account manager to book that appointment). I told her that it’s my mistake for having chosen her bank to do business with and that I’ll soon rectify that mistake. Once she started to calm me down, I told her to leave me alone as I had my fill of their “customer service”. I’m definitely thinking of transferring my funds to some other bank. This was unacceptable.


    Join a credit union.
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    May 12, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    metta8 saidHave you considered printing your statement online?.....runs for cover.....


    I was going to say.
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    May 12, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    GAMRican said
    metta8 saidHave you considered printing your statement online?.....runs for cover.....


    I was going to say.


    I said the same thing... absolutely no need for "rage"... solve the issue yourself and skip a potential issue and save the "rage" for something really worthwhile.
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    May 12, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
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    hottop88 said
    JPtheBITCH said
    hottop88 saidYour anger issues cannot begin to compare to mine... I go apeshit over the most subtle slights, even if it doesn't involve me. In fact subtle aggressions make me tick even more than blatant bullying, because the perps always get away with it and the victim gets no sympathy. A few months ago I subbed in for a friend to teach a 4th grade sunday school class, and the kids were reading back to me their classmates' answers for an assignment... one girl read back another kid's answers all clumsily while looking puzzled, even though it was correct. I sensed that she was faking it for some childish vendetta, so I called her out on it as if she was an adult, while everyone except her reacted in bewilderment over my rage. That's when I knew I should never get into teaching.

    Yeah, well you pretty much come across as a jackass on here too.
    I can well imagine what you're like in real life.

    Must be weird imagining "real life", with that post count...

    Don't you love it when dimwits try to be clever? I've been on this site for five years, you fucking idiot.


    Sounds like a very productive five years =P