Insecurities holding me back.. =(

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    May 11, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    I'm young and recently became content with being gay and whatnot. I made a commitment to get myself out there and meet people. I'm so ready to do stuff with guys, but there are a few significant insecurities that are holding me back....

    1). I have a huuuge birthmark on my thigh. It's not just any general birthmark. Its dark pigmented(I'm white) & the length of it is 1.5 feet, over 6 inches wide. I am nervous that as soon as I take my underwear off, the romantic moment will be ruined. I did stuff with a guy once, and I warned him...so we both kept our boxers on. Sorta sucked, like even I get turned-off by it just thinking of the abnormality. I've never gotten feedback from other people about it being its always covered up when I'm clothed. I toyed with the idea of posting a pic of it to get peoples reactions and such, but not sure where I would do such.

    2). Ingrown hair scab/scar right above my wang on my waistline. I don't want dudes to think I have GH or some ish. Like if they performed oral, they would be viewing a round red mark...oy.

    3). Stretch marks. During the past two years, I lost a good amount of weight and have been working out quite a bit. I love my body right now, but DANG I have stretch marks on the sides of my stomach, back, butt, arms(biceps), shoulders, even around my groin. Its the worst on my back and sides of stomach. Dermatologist said there's nothing I can do, though I have been applying cocoa cream lotion to try to minimize the appearance.

    4). Third nipple. Honestly it doesnt bother me having a third nipple, but I'm sure some find that as a turn-off.

    Like I said, I am so ready to start meeting guys, but all of these trouble my mind constantly. Especially after reading various posts on here, I feel like a sub-conscious teenage girl who is reminded everyday of my ugly features according to society's definition of beauty. Just seeking some feedback from you guys of whether these are major turn-offs, or if I'm just spazzing over nothing. Oy. Thanks for reading and sharing icon_exclaim.gif
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    May 11, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    What you think is a turn-off will be a turn-on to some. You won't know unless you put yourself out there.

    You may face some rejection, but you also may find that it's not as bad as you think.

    I have stretch marks, and such - not just on my stomach, but on my arms. I was always very self conscious about wearing sleeveless shirts or tank tops. I have been trying it out at the gym gradually and I have found that people really don't notice or care. Everyone has imperfections in our bodies. That's what makes us unique.

    Perhaps instead of focusing on the things you hate about yourself, start focusing on all the good qualities you have. You might find that those would greatly outweigh a few other minor body issues.

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    May 11, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    Trust me man, by the time some hottie slips your pants and boxers off your birthmark will be the least of focus. icon_smile.gif

    I gots a third nipple, guys love to play with it.

    Stretch marks aren't fun, but they'll go away eventually. Like I said, if someone's attracted to you, these little "unattractive" qualities won't even register.
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    May 11, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    Ok you had me until the third nipple. Keep that shit covered up!

    Just kidding.

    Nobody who's mature is gonna care about any of that. If he does care, tell him to come back when he grows up. Srsly!