Do you send cards/gifts for birthdays, holidays, etc. to your family/friends?

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    May 11, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    I'll admit, I'll horrible about this. I have 4 brothers and 2 sisters, 12 nieces and nephews, Mom and Stepmom (my Dad passed in 200icon_cool.gif.

    At times I get major guilt pains from not sending any birthday cards or Christmas cards. I will send my Mom flowers for her birthday and for Mother's Day I'll send her and my Stepmom flowers. But that's it.

    Am I a bad son, brother/uncle/friend?

    I know for my straight guy friends, if it weren't for their wives/girlfriends/fiancees, they wouldn't be sending anything either.

    What about you?
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    May 11, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
    I always try to remember a conversation when they say ''I wish I had...'' and well.. Their wish is my command icon_smile.gif it doesn't always have to be on a special occasion..

    But yeah I always do my best to buy them birthday gifts..

    I wouldn't say 'not buying gifts' makes you a bad person..
    It does makes you more of a toughtful person ;)
    Gifts aren't the only way to show love.. Sometimes all it takes is a phonecall..
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    May 11, 2012 11:21 PM GMT
    No, not really. I send a few gifts. I like doing it, but it was never that big of a deal in my family. I stopped doing it as much over time.
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    May 12, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    Good, I'm not the only one ;-)

    I told my family that it's either all or nothing, and I don't have time for all. I just have way too many people in my family to keep up with it myself. It even became tedious just sending Christmas cards out, so I stopped doing that. My family doesn't hold it against me, but I've been feeling guilty about it lately.

    Maybe I'll shock the heck out of them and start. I just need to get a list of all birthdays from my sister.
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    May 12, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    Hell no.. I dont even know where they live anymore!
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    May 12, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    I buy gifts/cards for my parents and my two closest friends. That's it. I'm not in touch with any of my relatives on either side of the family, so I don't have to worry about anyone. Also, my two best friends have been the only ones to understand the concept of reciprocation, so they deserve my thoughts and efforts.
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    May 12, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    I have 4 brothers, 3 sisters. We don't do jack shit for each other and I think we are all fine with that. Though my big sister is nice and gave me some clothes on my last birthday (she manages a Jcrew). Love it! Past couple of years for xmas we just do secret santa's, so we just have to get 1 sibling a gift.

    Personally I just spend a lot on my parents during xmas, and just do cards later in the year for birthday, mother/father's day. Too much of a pain doing smaller gifts spread apart.
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    May 12, 2012 4:15 AM GMT

    Yeah, I am caught in the rutt of sending cards and gifts to some of my neices and nephews but not all of them. I have 4 nieces and 4 nephews. Actually one of my nephews' kids expect a gift for their birthday and Christmas and if they don't receive one they complain to their father. icon_sad.gif

    Yet, I never receive a thank you card or even a call. Maybe because I live far away from them so it is not the same as walking into their house and handing them the gift in person? It almost like a long distance love affair, they usually don't work very well.
    I do send greeting cards to family and friends for certain occasions. icon_surprised.gif
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    May 12, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    Show up for birthdays and holidays as often as you can, especially if the kids are young. Always remember Mother's day.

    However, take any money that you would spend on gifts for your siblings and put it into a 529 college savings plan for the kids. Or, maybe forgo some new sneakers from time to time. icon_wink.gif

    It is your legacy as a gay guy (unless you plan on having your own kids someday).

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    May 12, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI love to give... it doesn't make me a better son than you. It's more about showing em' that you love them. Gifts & cards are merely the icing in the cake.
    The best gift you can give your family or loved ones is a caring heart.
    I just spent the evening showing my mom how to run an iPad for Mother's Day and watching Zookeeper with my parents. It's actually been a fun evening.
    Again, it's not the gifts that made the evening. It was the laughter and fun we shared.


    Aw, that's awesome!

    I definitely give my caring heart throughout the year. Sometimes you just don't feel it's enough, though, so the guilt sets in. icon_smile.gif
  • waccamatt

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    May 12, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    Sometimes yes and sometimes no. I usually remember birthday cards for my brothers and sisters-in-law, but for my nieces and nephews, Facebook will have to suffice.
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    May 13, 2012 8:28 AM GMT
    waccamatt saidSometimes yes and sometimes no. I usually remember birthday cards for my brothers and sisters-in-law, but for my nieces and nephews, Facebook will have to suffice.


    LOL. I use FB, too, for my nieces/nephews who are old enough to be on. All hail social networks!!