Success?

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    May 12, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    I have a very good friend of 35 years that is VERY SUCCESSFUL in his career. He is at a company in Sunnyvale, CA... He is the quintessential Type A personality, ALPHA MALE with the Midas Touch in business...so much so that he is lacking in some "social grace" and always has a short direct answer to all questions...even on topics way outside of his expertise.....most people just listen and do what they were gonna do, except for those that work for him, obviously. I regularly call him on his overstepping his expertise and try to pull him back from embarrassing himself in public with non employees and non-business related events....which is so funny....because NO ONE else DARES to call him on it!

    The question is....do you think success in one part of life carries through into all other parts of life or is it like the "savant" that has exceptional talents in one area at the expense of other areas?
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    May 12, 2012 3:04 AM GMT
    Sometimes overcompensation can have disastrous results.

    I'm very cool calm collected. So i can effectively deal with stressful situations analytically

    HOWEVER I often rub people the wrong way because my analytical behavior comes off as impersonal
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    May 12, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    If I knew that, I'd probably be rich myself.

    Certainly I have known "developmentally disabled" people who had awesome recall and mathematic abilities.

    Some people rise to success because of their "presence" they have good hair, a great speaking voice, and when they state their opinion, everybody in the room just goes along, like a flock of sheep. Even if it's total bullshit. I've been in a few groups... an NAS committee, an NSF study group, a jury, (groups who should know better) when one of these guys was dictating his idea of how things should go. When I called them on their bullshit, everybody seemed to wake up from a trance, and things went the other way. I think the "talents" of a lot of these people are more of a mirage.

    I do put some stock in the idea of "differently abled" people. I worry that the current trend of pumping all the kids full of happy pills might be shutting down all the brains that actually do anything worthwhile for us.
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    May 12, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidI have a very good friend of 35 years that is VERY SUCCESSFUL in his career. He is at a company in Sunnyvale, CA... He is the quintessential Type A personality, ALPHA MALE with the Midas Touch in business...so much so that he is lacking in some "social grace" and always has a short direct answer to all questions...even on topics way outside of his expertise.....most people just listen and do what they were gonna do, except for those that work for him, obviously. I regularly call him on his overstepping his expertise and try to pull him back from embarrassing himself in public with non employees and non-business related events....which is so funny....because NO ONE else DARES to call him on it!

    The question is....do you think success in one part of life carries through into all other parts of life or is it like the "savant" that has exceptional talents in one area at the expense of other areas?


    I said I was not going to post on RJ any more because I discovered something about myself that I didn't even know I had within me several days ago when I responded to a post, but I will respond to yours: have mercy on your friend. I understand him. We feel worse about our own social incompetence skills than you do about how woefully underdeveloped they are.
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    May 12, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    How do you measure success?
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    May 12, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    I don't know. I've always felt like I wasted my talents and smarts. Never tasted true Success like a true Scholar or businessman has. Cue the Emo music.
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    May 12, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
    Im finding amongst my group that what we consider to be successful is rapidly changing at this time in our lives. Everyone seems to be downscaling and going back to a job that may or may not pay well just because they love it.

    The common theme seems to be the more you earn the more you spend and for what? more headaches at work and being around uninspiring people.

  • Karl

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    May 12, 2012 9:06 AM GMT
    I do and I always think success is an important part of my life icon_smile.gif
  • Webster666

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    May 12, 2012 9:16 AM GMT
    It's different for different people.
    Some guys are experts at one thing and hopeless at others.
    Some guys are experts at a wide variety of things.
    Regardless, it's important to be humble.

    I have a friend who is very intelligent, and knows a lot about a lot of things, plus he has an amazing memory.
    But, once in awhile (not often), he can be conceited about it, and come off as obnoxious, so I have to slap him down (verbally).
    He's been a very good friend to me.

    Edit:
    I think, if you make enough money to pay your bills, and you have enough to eat, and a decent place to live, that you're a success.