Dating Parameters...do you have any?

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    May 12, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    Hey guys! So I've noticed since I came out last year, I've become much more selective in my dating. For example, I used to not care about age, but discovered I really want to date people around my age or older. Also need someone who appreciates/likes sports. But, one thing I'm open to is location...I'm up for moving at some point! And yes, I would move for a great guy!

    So do you have any dating parameters?

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    May 12, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    Yea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.
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    May 12, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    Has to be older. A lot older. I can't date anyone around my age at the moment to be honest...
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    May 12, 2012 4:21 PM GMT


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    -Probably tattoos, that lets me know if he separates himself from the pack. It has to be good ones and not something stereotypical like his mom or something.

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    Do tats separate him from the pack? In my gym 95+% of the guys have tats.
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    May 12, 2012 7:00 PM GMT
    mayBbignow said-Probably tattoos, that lets me know if he separates himself from the pack. It has to be good ones and not something stereotypical like his mom or something.


    This made me LOL. I'm probably more separated from the pack for NOT having any tattoos.

    Anyway, I don't have a checklist I run down when I see if I want to go with someone on a date. I'd like someone who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them. I want someone who is a decent person. I want someone who has enough in common with me to want to spend time with me, but yet has enough difference from me to challenge me. I'm not that picky. It shouldn't be that hard to find someone, and yet somehow it is.
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    May 12, 2012 7:12 PM GMT
    Chainers saidYea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.


    i love this chainers
  • groundcombat

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    May 12, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    Chainers saidYea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.


    This is surprisingly difficult
  • mikeylikes

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    May 12, 2012 8:01 PM GMT
    has it happened for you?

    keep getting bigger muscles and its bound to happen i guess.. i think
  • NerdLifter

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    May 12, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    groundcombat said
    Chainers saidYea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.


    This is surprisingly difficult

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  • waccamatt

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    May 12, 2012 8:08 PM GMT
    1. There has to be at least somewhat of a physical and emotional connection
    2. It helps to be a sports fan - this is the most important quality along with being out
    3. They can't be closeted - we'd never get along
  • neosyllogy

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    May 12, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    Be fucking awesome!
    More specifically I'm a sucker for a sharp mind and a bleeding heart.
    Scientists and social activists usually get me going.
  • prototype

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    May 12, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    A penis and a sense of humor...
  • neosyllogy

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    May 12, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    mayBbignow said
    Studinprogress said
    groundcombat said
    Chainers saidYea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.
    This is surprisingly difficult
    ["This" & The Queen Pointing picture]
    Why?!!


    Um... because you're wishing for something substanceless.
    All you want is someone who wants to be with you as much as you with them. But why do you want to be with them and they with you?
    If it's for the reason above it's just ciruclar. It lacks meaningful grounding. You're not going to get anywhere with that.

    You need to care about someone for more than that they're someone who cares for you. You need to care about the world first and then find a place for both of you in it where you support not only eachother, but something(s) else that matters to you both.
    IMO
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    May 12, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    Chainers saidYea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.


    What he said ^^
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    May 12, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    -Not too good looking because that usually comes with a heap of trouble pour moi.
    -Older than me ( although I'm breaking that one right now).
    -No overly narcissistic/superficial tendencies.
    -Not a psychopath/bipolar/ drugged up mess.
    -Must be taller than me.
    -Educated and likes to read.

    And most importantly !
    -Someone who is not like me. I've dated 'me' before and it's been disaster. I need someone different to balance things out and keep my ass in check.
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    May 12, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    1) good-looking, healthy, down-to-earth, honest guy who doesn't hide his feelings.

    that's about it.
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    May 12, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    In terms of dating, someone who is fun, witty, adventurous, health-conscious and likes to get outdoors in terms of personality/interests. I also like to travel and so that is helpful in a partner.

    I also value people who, like me, live simply and don't have to have the biggest house/luxury car/designer clothes, etc.

    Typically I'm looking for guys 35 and over.

    And I agree with DIN that finding dating partners is not so easy - especially at my age. A lot of people seem to be settled already ... or don't fit the first set of criteria very well.
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    May 12, 2012 10:43 PM GMT
    Peanut butter and jelly. I'm sorry, what was this question about again?
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    May 12, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    neosyllogy said

    Um... because you're wishing for something substanceless.
    All you want is someone who wants to be with you as much as you with them. But why do you want to be with them and they with you?
    If it's for the reason above it's just ciruclar. It lacks meaningful grounding. You're not going to get anywhere with that.

    You need to care about someone for more than that they're someone who cares for you. You need to care about the world first and then find a place for both of you in it where you support not only eachother, but something(s) else that matters to you both.
    IMO


    Stop telling other people what they "need". What are you? Their Mommy?

    If two people really want to be with one another than it's more than likely tacitly understood that there are dynamics in place that nourish each person involved. Hence, their mutual desire to want to be with one another.

    In that brain of yours you probably believe you're making these guys think by expanding their limited thinking (according to your assessment). But really all it sounds like is a bitchy belittling judgment. Labeling someone's idea or concept as substanceless is offputting. No one asked for your opinion or your assessment on what they think or like. So unless your assessment is solicited in the forums, perhaps you can simply learn to keep it to yourself.

    To everyone else:

    Anyone who tells you what you "need" while simultaneously asserting what you lack is more often than not a controlling person. Not only does it send the message that "you lack something and are wrong" but it also typically implies, "I have your answers and you "need" to do what I say because "I" know best."



    very well said MMTM

    /salute
  • Trepeat

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    May 12, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
    I'd need to get the impression that the guy "gets me". I've been in FWB relationships before that I didn't want to evolve into dating because I never got the impression that my bddy understood who I am as a person. Oftentimes, it's easy to see what you want to see in a person, while missing entirely who the person actually is.
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    May 12, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    mayBbignow said
    Studinprogress said
    groundcombat said
    Chainers saidYea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.

    This is surprisingly difficult

    queen-elizabeth-this.jpg?w=720

    Why?!!

    I can't read minds. Men in general have dating ADD, straight or gay.
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    May 12, 2012 11:06 PM GMT
    Studinprogress said
    mayBbignow said
    Studinprogress said
    groundcombat said
    Chainers saidYea I want someone who wants to be with me just as much as I want to be with him. Thats about it.

    This is surprisingly difficult

    queen-elizabeth-this.jpg?w=720

    Why?!!

    I can't read minds. Men in general have dating ADD, straight or gay.


    I'm sorry, I saw something shiny. What did you say?