I've always been a total top, sp I have to ask, how much does anal hurt?

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    May 12, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    (I try to be gentle.)
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    May 12, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    I've done and enjoyed both. Topping doesnt hurt at all and is all pleasure for me... bottoming hurts for the first 5 minutes then after that you DONT WANT HIM TO STOP.

    I was so aroused when I got fucked by my bf that I came without touching myself and we went for round two.

    bottoming requires that you:

    a) BREATHE
    b) Psychologically make yourself feel like your wanted and he wants you badly - b/c that is what it is...
    c) MAKE SURE YOU CLEAN YOURSELF BEFORE THOROUGHLY... makes it less painful psychologically on both you and him and obviously extremely little to NO mess happens - which makes it that much more enjoyable.

    Now if his dick is huge lengthwise it wont hurt as much as if he is huge width-wise HOWEVER, if he penetrates you too far, it will hurt.. so he has to make sure he stops halfway.

    source: Experience with my first boyfriend.
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    May 13, 2012 11:25 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ saidI've done and enjoyed both. Topping doesnt hurt at all and is all pleasure for me... bottoming hurts for the first 5 minutes then after that you DONT WANT HIM TO STOP.

    I was so aroused when I got fucked by my bf that I came without touching myself and we went for round two.

    bottoming requires that you:

    a) BREATHE
    b) Psychologically make yourself feel like your wanted and he wants you badly - b/c that is what it is...
    c) MAKE SURE YOU CLEAN YOURSELF BEFORE THOROUGHLY... makes it less painful psychologically on both you and him and obviously extremely little to NO mess happens - which makes it that much more enjoyable.

    Now if his dick is huge lengthwise it wont hurt as much as if he is huge width-wise HOWEVER, if he penetrates you too far, it will hurt.. so he has to make sure he stops halfway.

    source: Experience with my first boyfriend.


    So the pain only lasts 5 minutes?
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    May 13, 2012 1:14 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidSo the pain only lasts 5 minutes?


    Depends on your top - his size, and the force he uses when penetrating you. And (not to be obtuse) if the bottom likes the pain as a factor in his pleasure.

    I get a lot of bottoms that really like it when I bear down and powerfuck them right from the start.
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    May 13, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    Some positions are a lot less painful. For my first time spooning was the only thing we could manage. Felt good once he got going ;)
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    May 14, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    AlphaTrigger said
    swimguychicago saidSo the pain only lasts 5 minutes?


    Depends on your top - his size, and the force he uses when penetrating you. And (not to be obtuse) if the bottom likes the pain as a factor in his pleasure.

    I get a lot of bottoms that really like it when I bear down and powerfuck them right from the start.


    This ^^^ icon_twisted.gif
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    May 18, 2012 9:33 AM GMT
    Even i wanted to know that same questions' answer

    Mohmmad thanks !
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    May 18, 2012 12:52 PM GMT
    I've always been a total top, so I have to ask, how much does anal hurt?

    Depends on the bottom's ability to relax and dilate, and the top's dick size and how he uses it. Along with lots of lube.

    Some guys find anal pleasurable, others find it agony. You won't know until you try, and whether you want to repeat or run away.
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    May 18, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    AlphaTrigger said
    swimguychicago saidSo the pain only lasts 5 minutes?


    Depends on your top - his size, and the force he uses when penetrating you. And (not to be obtuse) if the bottom likes the pain as a factor in his pleasure.

    I get a lot of bottoms that really like it when I bear down and powerfuck them right from the start.


    I'm undecided on:
    a) I don't believe that for a second
    b) Your bottoms are stretched-out whores


    In answer to the original question: It hurts like a motherfucker. You can do things to make it hurt like a fucker. If the bottom is really lucky, he'll get a lot of pleasure from being fucked, and it will mask the pain. Lots of guys only get a little pleasure and it's going to hurt for them all the way through, though not as bad after the first few mins.
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    May 18, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    Maybe I'm in the minority here....but I have never felt that anal was painful. Ever. Sure...there have been a few times where more lube was needed or the top needed to slow it down a bit in the beginning to make it more comfortable, but I've never felt that it was actually painful (even my first time). It's important to note, I think, that you dont learn to bottom during sex - you learn to bottom while you are by yourself and can play with your hole while you are comfortable and relaxed. Once you know what you like - you can then proceed to actually having sex. Just my thoughts though.
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    May 18, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    tjmwdm1 saidMaybe I'm in the minority here....but I have never felt that anal was painful. Ever. Sure...there have been a few times where more lube was needed or the top needed to slow it down a bit in the beginning to make it more comfortable, but I've never felt that it was actually painful (even my first time). It's important to note, I think, that you dont learn to bottom during sex - you learn to bottom while you are by yourself and can play with your hole while you are comfortable and relaxed. Once you know what you like - you can then proceed to actually having sex. Just my thoughts though.


    You are wise.
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    May 18, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    Hurts the first time! I think it depends who you're with, if it's someone who cares about you they'll be gentle.
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    Jun 06, 2012 6:44 AM GMT
    I was a total top until I met my bf, and we're both pretty vers now.

    I'd say the thing to remember us to have plenty of foreplay and to take it slow, use lots of lube and breathe and rest as he enters you. Slow it down, and take a breath as you get used to the feeling if him being in you

    The pain isn't do much pain, more of an intense feeling. It's hardto explain but it's pleasurable pain: take it slow, and slow it down again.

    Doggy is quite a good position, as you can control the amount of thrust on to him. You on top might be harder the first time as you will have to balance your weight and the feelingn of him inside you (unless you have very strong legs to support you!)
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    Jul 19, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    tjmwdm1 saidMaybe I'm in the minority here....but I have never felt that anal was painful. Ever. Sure...there have been a few times where more lube was needed or the top needed to slow it down a bit in the beginning to make it more comfortable, but I've never felt that it was actually painful (even my first time). It's important to note, I think, that you dont learn to bottom during sex - you learn to bottom while you are by yourself and can play with your hole while you are comfortable and relaxed. Once you know what you like - you can then proceed to actually having sex. Just my thoughts though.



    this is the truth , a bottom has already played with a dildo of some sort before have a dick in him, so ur ready for that dick, when he first slides in it takes 30 secs or so to get used to it but once he pumping and hitting that spot mmm damn so good guys wouldnt bottom if all it was , was pain
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    digifighter said
    tjmwdm1 saidMaybe I'm in the minority here....but I have never felt that anal was painful. Ever. Sure...there have been a few times where more lube was needed or the top needed to slow it down a bit in the beginning to make it more comfortable, but I've never felt that it was actually painful (even my first time). It's important to note, I think, that you dont learn to bottom during sex - you learn to bottom while you are by yourself and can play with your hole while you are comfortable and relaxed. Once you know what you like - you can then proceed to actually having sex. Just my thoughts though.



    this is the truth , a bottom has already played with a dildo of some sort before have a dick in him, so ur ready for that dick, when he first slides in it takes 30 secs or so to get used to it but once he pumping and hitting that spot mmm damn so good guys wouldnt bottom if all it was , was pain


    It does feel good, nothing like it!
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    not alot, its more uncomfortable at first than painful. but depends on size obviously. i like a little pain so an inconsiderate, pushy, and forceful top always works well for me haha.

    that sounds awful, but with the right guy obviously.
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    I'm vers. I like it just fine, but lube is very important. Saliva doesn't make good lube.