The RJ relaxation lounge: Post what makes you comfy when you're lonely

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    May 12, 2012 10:52 PM GMT
    it could be thoughts you try and bring up, things you do.. anything - even if it is things you would like to do in your life to help you feel comfy.

    for me:

    a) thought of getting a pet (ferret probably) to keep me company. but they cost 500 bucks ... so I'm saving up.
    b) watermelons
    c) hot chocolate
    d) snuggling up in bed with someone (thought)
    e) watching a romance flick that ends WELL
    f) listening to nancy ajram or myriam fares.

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    May 12, 2012 10:58 PM GMT
    Friend of mine had a pet ferret. They're not exactly the type of pet that you can get cuddly with. They spend most of their time running around as if they're on speed. icon_biggrin.gif Plus, the musky smell gets tiring real quick. If you do get one, make sure you get one that has its scent glands removed.

    As for me.. I'll be getting a cat and dog when/if I get a normal work schedule.

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    May 12, 2012 11:00 PM GMT
    a) Watch art house movies at an art house theater, with a cup of green tea and cake.
    b) Cycle or walk, preferably with a cup of green tea in my hand.
    c) Have dinner at a restaurant I always wanted to go to.
    d) Read magazines or books.
    e) Stay in all day, clean, organise my closets and iron my clothes and finish my to do lists.
    f) Surf the web and open up a million tabs about a million random things that come up to mind as I can't concentrate on one thing at a time.
    g) Shop, without necessarily buying something.

    ... and much more.
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    May 12, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    xrichx saidFriend of mine had a pet ferret. They're not exactly the type of pet that you can get cuddly with. They spend most of their time running around as if they're on speed. icon_biggrin.gif Plus, the musky smell gets tiring real quick. If you do get one, make sure you get one that has its scent glands removed.

    As for me.. I'll be getting a cat and dog when/if I get a normal work schedule.

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    Thanks for the info.!! I'll keep that in mind. I was debating between a puppy and a ferret but a puppy is a lot of work for a busy person like myself so I don't want to bring him in and then make him feel lonely because I don't have time to walk them at least three times a week.
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    May 12, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    Monir saida) Watch art house movies at an art house theater, with a cup of green tea and cake.
    b) Cycle or walk, preferably with a cup of green tea in my hand.
    c) Have dinner at a restaurant I always wanted to go to.d) Read magazines or books.
    e) Stay in all day, clean, organise my closets and iron my clothes and finish my to do lists.f) Surf the web and open up a million tabs about a million random things that come up to mind as I can't concentrate on one thing at a time.
    g) Shop, without necessarily buying something.

    ... and much more.


    Bolded the things I would probably do once in a while... icon_razz.gif
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    May 12, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Cool, I must say, I do listen to Arab Divas as well, although I prefer the likes of Oum Koulthoum, Fayrouz, Najwa Karam... :p
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    May 12, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    Monir saidCool, I must say, I do listen to Arab Divas as well, although I prefer the likes of Oum Koulthoum, Fayrouz, Najwa Karam... :p


    ahh real classic ones eh?

    that's nice.
  • BDRoland

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    May 12, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    Honestly, whenever I get upset or feel lonely or any other negative emotion I sleep. I've heard people say it isn't that healthy but a good nap does me a world of good.
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    May 12, 2012 11:23 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    Monir saidCool, I must say, I do listen to Arab Divas as well, although I prefer the likes of Oum Koulthoum, Fayrouz, Najwa Karam... :p


    ahh real classic ones eh?

    that's nice.


    Yup, I love 'em, I am hung up on '7ob eih' today!

    7ob eih il inta gei'ie t'oel 3aleeh, enta 3aref abla ma3na el70b eih...(L)
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    May 12, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    BDRoland saidHonestly, whenever I get upset or feel lonely or any other negative emotion I sleep. I've heard people say it isn't that healthy but a good nap does me a world of good.



    napping is always a plus.

    I sleep like 10 hours a day at least.
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    May 12, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    Mac & Cheese - but that's off limits now.

    Today I've been feeling down - but I distracted myself by catching up on DVR'd TV shows and trolling the RJ forums.

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    May 12, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    The RJ relaxation lounge: Post what makes you comfy when you're lonely

    I had to go through this for 5 days, and so did my partner. He was an emergency admit to a hospital.

    So we both had to sleep alone. And it wasn't comfy. But it made the conservaposse here happy, who sent me hate mail to make it worse.

    So, OK, how did I make my partner comfy when he was lonely. I got him a Teddy Bear, which he loves. (He's got over 100 of them) Plus flowers and lots of cards (I gave him many, not just one) And I was at his hospital bedside over 12 hours a day.

    I made sure all his meals were what he wanted, even tasting them. I am totally OCD when ti comes to his care. I have the legal authority, and I exercise it.

    But I was lonely when I had to go to bed without him. I slept poorly, I need him next to me, which he is now. I know the conservaposse here is mocking me for this, but I love my partner. But I cannot sleep well without him, despite conservaposse ridicule of us here.
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    May 13, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidThe RJ relaxation lounge: Post what makes you comfy when you're lonely

    I had to go through this for 5 days, and so did my partner. He was an emergency admit to a hospital.

    So we both had to sleep alone. And it wasn't comfy. But it made the conservaposse here happy, who sent me hate mail to make it worse.

    So, OK, how did I make my partner comfy when he was lonely. I got him a Teddy Bear, which he loves. (He's got over 100 of them) Plus flowers and lots of cards (I gave him many, not just one) And I was at his hospital bedside over 12 hours a day.

    I made sure all his meals were what he wanted, even tasting them. I am totally OCD when ti comes to his care. I have the legal authority, and I exercise it.

    But I was lonely when I had to go to bed without him. I slept poorly, I need him next to me, which he is now. I know the conservaposse here is mocking me for this, but I love my partner. But I cannot sleep well without him, despite conservaposse ridicule of us here.


    that's such a nice experience to share with us. thanks art!!! I missed you on the RJ forums btw.
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    May 13, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    Cool thread! For me, it is being in nature. A hike or a bike ride are always good ways for me to turn my attention to the beauty in the world.

    Music is another. A show called the Late Lounge is a longtime favorite for chilling me out. Here's a link to the audio on demand page:

    http://www.jazzfm.com/shows/the-late-lounge/
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    May 13, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    Tenebrism saidCool thread! For me, it is being in nature. A hike or a bike ride are always good ways for me to turn my attention to the beauty in the world.

    Music is another. A show called the Late Lounge is a longtime favorite for chilling me out. Here's a link to the audio on demand page:

    http://www.jazzfm.com/shows/the-late-lounge/


    Oh man, today was such a beautiful day (like first half of the day - then it rained)..

    needless to say, I enjoyed the warmth of the sun and the breeze.
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    May 13, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
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    Art_Deco saidThe RJ relaxation lounge: Post what makes you comfy when you're lonely

    I had to go through this for 5 days, and so did my partner. He was an emergency admit to a hospital.

    So we both had to sleep alone. And it wasn't comfy. But it made the conservaposse here happy, who sent me hate mail to make it worse.

    So, OK, how did I make my partner comfy when he was lonely. I got him a Teddy Bear, which he loves. (He's got over 100 of them) Plus flowers and lots of cards (I gave him many, not just one) And I was at his hospital bedside over 12 hours a day.

    I made sure all his meals were what he wanted, even tasting them. I am totally OCD when ti comes to his care. I have the legal authority, and I exercise it.

    But I was lonely when I had to go to bed without him. I slept poorly, I need him next to me, which he is now. I know the conservaposse here is mocking me for this, but I love my partner. But I cannot sleep well without him, despite conservaposse ridicule of us here.


    that's such a nice experience to share with us. thanks art!!! I missed you on the RJ forums btw.

    Thank YOU! I was mostly at the hospital all day, that had a filter against RJ! Can you imagine that?

    But it was a Catholic hospital, Holy Cross. We didn't want to go there, but the EMT told us their protocols for a stroke patient required them to go to the nearest hospital (our own regular hospital was only 1/4 mile further away), and they said this Catholic hospital was a stroke center.

    I challenged both those assertions, but I wasn't in charge. So my partner went to a Catholic hospital where RJ cannot be accessed from their Wi-Fi, it being gay and banned. Hence I've not been online here a lot, from last Sunday to Thursday, the Catholics blocking me.

    But he's home now, and I'm at my regular computer, much to the dismay of the conservaposse. I'm keeping them blocked, so my husband can't see their hate directed against us, which would stress him at the worst time for him.
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    May 13, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    In less than 3 weeks he will go to CA for the annual Aids-ride and stay with his folks in Denver the week after. I'm going to miss him so much. I usually do things I can't do with him around like
    - read books I've read a million times already
    - watch movies I have on dvd and seen a million times already
    - try to be good but failing spectacularly and have ice-cream dinners or breakfasts
    - be a nudist around our place (which gets old after a few days)
    - make dozens of plans to do this and go there, but don't follow through with hardly any of them, sitting at home eating ice-cream.
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    May 13, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidIn less than 3 weeks he will go to CA for the annual Aids-ride and stay with his folks in Denver the week after. I'm going to miss him so much. I usually do things I can't do with him around like
    - read books I've read a million times already
    - watch movies I have on dvd and seen a million times already
    - try to be good but failing spectacularly and have ice-cream dinners or breakfasts
    - be a nudist around our place (which gets old after a few days)
    - make dozens of plans to do this and go there, but don't follow through with hardly any of them, sitting at home eating ice-cream.


    yes ice cream... oh goddddd... it is the mood-lifter,

    eating ice cream from the bucket in your pjs topless sitting on the couch watching....community season 2. lol
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    May 13, 2012 12:30 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidIn less than 3 weeks he will go to CA for the annual Aids-ride and stay with his folks in Denver the week after. I'm going to miss him so much. I usually do things I can't do with him around like
    - read books I've read a million times already
    - watch movies I have on dvd and seen a million times already
    - try to be good but failing spectacularly and have ice-cream dinners or breakfasts
    - be a nudist around our place (which gets old after a few days)
    - make dozens of plans to do this and go there, but don't follow through with hardly any of them, sitting at home eating ice-cream.
    That's awesome that your guy is doing the AIDS Ride. I did it many years ago and it was a lot of fun. Hope to again some day.

    Your coping plan for the separation sounds rather effective. icon_smile.gif
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    May 13, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    Ferrets are 500 bucks? Wow!

    I'd say good music, a good movie, and some good friends all work well.
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    May 13, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    1) puttin on headphones and JAMMING OUT TO MUSIC, whether i be in the house dancin or takin a walk down the street(which I usually end up embarassingly dancing)

    2) getting lost in a GOOD MOVIE (my mind stops thinking for once)

    3) sadly, EATING....which is a habit I need to break

    4) go shopping on Adam4Adam.com....lol JK!
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    May 13, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    I wouldn't say when I'm lonely, but when I want to relax I put on my sweatpants-shorts and drink some english tea on my couch while I read a book. Very good for when I'm trying to unwind after work
  • tazzari

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    May 13, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    A good book, and some Haydn on the stereo.
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    May 13, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidIn less than 3 weeks he will go to CA for the annual Aids-ride...

    Do you know about our annual AIDS bicycle ride to Key West? My partner co-founded it. We'll be doing our 9th ride this November. Here's a link, and a pic of us at the conclusion. (We're in lots of the archive pics) 400 of us make the Ride, another 200+ crewing.

    http://thesmartride.org/

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    May 13, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    ^^ Awesome stuff, AD!