RedSoxFever33 saidWell i say that because stereotypes of the black gay man are very bad. We are said to be fems. It's hard on the masculine gay black man like myself because of the fem ones out there.Huh? What?
Last time I checked, black men were assumed to be the dominant aggressive ones - the epitome super-masculine homo-thug fantasies. Hispanic, White, and Asian men usually get stereotyped into the soft/feminine category
Scan most personals profiles and ads, you'll see plenty of "no blacks - sorry not racist, just my preference" or "white, hispanic, or asian only". Barely do I see people specifically ask for black people... and when I do, it's always in some dominant/aggressive or homo-thug fashion.As for me:
Out of the gay community, I get issue for being gay - nobody cares about my ethnicity.
In the gay community, I get issue for being black and not fulfilling my desting of being a tall, strong, deep voice, 10+ dicked thick, muscular, masculine, aggressive, OG4life... that everyone seems to be sooo attracted to...
It's hard for me to be an academic/educated, not-so masculine, affectionate, nicely dicked, respectable black gay man.