Grindr Drama

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    May 13, 2012 8:09 AM GMT
    So I just came back from a gay club. I was there with a couple of friends when I recognized this super hot guy icon_sad.gif that I had spoken to on Grindr like months ago. We added eachother on FB but eventually the convo fizzled out. I didn't really see it going anywhere so I unadded him on facebook just because I don't like to keep people I don't really communicate with.

    So tonight I see him with his backwards cap looking all hot n shit. Only the problem is that he's there dancing and grinding and pop kissing on the dancefloor with some random guy that he came to the club with. I was trying to work up the nerve to talk to him but I didn't want to with that guy around. And before you judge lol I saw him on grindr today! So there's no way in hell they're in a serious relationship if that guy is still trolling grindr. So ultimately IDK, but when I finally got the nerve to talk to him they had left the club :-/

    So basically what should I do? Should I hit him up on grindr and be like "Hey were you at _____ last night?" I don't want to sound like a creep. I don't know if he recognized me but we locked eyes a couple of times. I just don't know what to do, but he's pretty enough that I want to try SOMETHING.

    And if I do say something to him on grindr, what do I say? "Hey I was the guy in blue!" I hate technology lol
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    May 13, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    ChangeofName saidDump a bucket of glitter on yourself and stand in the sunlight. He'll come running.


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    NO! Don't ever do that!

    To the OP: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go for it!
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    May 13, 2012 12:34 PM GMT
    You should've just gone up to him in the club man, if anything was going to happen it would have happened in person. Now it would just be awkward, especially considering you deleted him from Facebook lol idk icon_confused.gif
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    May 13, 2012 12:36 PM GMT
    Question: if you chatted before and it fizzled out, what will make things any different this go round?
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    May 13, 2012 12:37 PM GMT
    wannaseeit said

    So tonight I see him with his backwards cap looking all hot n shit. Only the problem is that he's there dancing and grinding and pop kissing on the dancefloor with some random guy that he came to the club with. I was trying to work up the nerve to talk to him but I didn't want to with that guy around. And before you judge lol I saw him on grindr today! So there's no way in hell they're in a serious relationship if that guy is still trolling grindr.


    there's also this thing called open relationships ey?
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    May 13, 2012 12:42 PM GMT
    Tenebrism saidQuestion: if you chatted before and it fizzled out, what will make things any different this go round?


    It most likely wouldn't, but a one night hookup could have possibly occurred if he approached him at the club lol icon_cool.gif
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    May 13, 2012 12:48 PM GMT
    go for it now. it'll make it easier the next time :-) and if nothing else it could be at least one amazing night
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    May 13, 2012 1:02 PM GMT
    wannaseeit saidSo I just came back from a gay club. I was there with a couple of friends when I recognized this super hot guy icon_sad.gif that I had spoken to on Grindr like months ago. We added eachother on FB but eventually the convo fizzled out. I didn't really see it going anywhere so I unadded him on facebook just because I don't like to keep people I don't really communicate with.

    So tonight I see him with his backwards cap looking all hot n shit. Only the problem is that he's there dancing and grinding and pop kissing on the dancefloor with some random guy that he came to the club with. I was trying to work up the nerve to talk to him but I didn't want to with that guy around. And before you judge lol I saw him on grindr today! So there's no way in hell they're in a serious relationship if that guy is still trolling grindr. So ultimately IDK, but when I finally got the nerve to talk to him they had left the club :-/

    So basically what should I do? Should I hit him up on grindr and be like "Hey were you at _____ last night?" I don't want to sound like a creep. I don't know if he recognized me but we locked eyes a couple of times. I just don't know what to do, but he's pretty enough that I want to try SOMETHING.

    And if I do say something to him on grindr, what do I say? "Hey I was the guy in blue!" I hate technology lol


    Personally - I'd just shrug it off. If an opportunity opens up in person, then I'll make a move. I don't want to seem like I'm stalking him.
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    May 13, 2012 1:14 PM GMT
    Tenebrism saidQuestion: if you chatted before and it fizzled out, what will make things any different this go round?


    Get out of my mind
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    May 13, 2012 1:24 PM GMT
    add him back on facebook and say that you don't know what happened but after seeing him at the club you noticed he was missing from your friends
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    May 13, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    forget about it.. he's not worth it, even though he's hot blah blah blah, he'll probably end up playing with you and your emotions...
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    May 13, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    As of now u have nothing to loose and the possibility of something to gain
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    May 13, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Next time you see him in public, march right up to him and call out that biatch'. Make a scene. You get bonus points if you do this while really drunk.
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    May 13, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    This is everything that's wrong with grindr and facebook and all the other digital bullshit ways of being "friends" because you have no real sense of being anything other than a point and click away from being nothing.
    I like your pic. I don't like your pic. Done.
    So shallow.
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    May 13, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    Ehm, so whats wrong with just talking to someone?
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    May 13, 2012 2:43 PM GMT


    Let it go, just let it o. If he was interested, something would have happened by now.
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    May 13, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidThis is everything that's wrong with grindr and facebook and all the other digital bullshit ways of being "friends" because you have no real sense of being anything other than a point and click away from being nothing.
    I like your pic. I don't like your pic. Done.
    So shallow.

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    May 13, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidEhm, so whats wrong with just talking to someone?


    He was busy grinding and making out with some other guy, I didn't get the chance.

    And also for the guy who asked earlier why it fizzled out, we never met in person. Had a couple of days of convo on grindr but then exams and shit got in the way it was just one of those things where convo dies out naturally.
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    May 13, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    In that case I would reconnect on Grindr and skip mentioning the club incident. Might want to mention that you enjoyed chatting before but that life got in the way, and leave it at that.

    Can't hurt to try.
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    May 13, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    Meh - this is all just flirtation at this point. Someone has to make a move, and clearly he's not going to do it (the FB add was a dud, and he saw you in real life but didn't make any moves). If you pursue it, be prepared to do all the work in this relationship because its probably going to feel 1-sided. Is that worth your time and effort? Your call... (literally).