What's your experience of Grindr for 'friends-only meetups' ?

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    May 13, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Especially when I travel I love meeting new people but USUALLY I'm not looking to have sex with them.

    Many profiles on Grindr express interest in friendly networking and I've had some good encounters and discussions with interesting guys.

    How about you guys? Any good connections?

    Is there a better site, more focused on 'friends only', which also has the benefit of helping us link by location?
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    May 13, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Balancing saidEspecially when I travel I love meeting new people but USUALLY I'm not looking to have sex with them.

    Many profiles on Grindr express interest in friendly networking and I've had some good encounters and discussions with interesting guys.

    How about you guys? Any good connections?

    Is there a better site, more focused on 'friends only', which also has the benefit of helping us link by location?


    You know, I'm not sure about Grindr for myself. I don't think I've made any lifelong friends but I know a couple of people who have made good friends via grindr. I guess it depends how you use it.

    However, I made my best friend on adam4adam 3 years ago. We are still tight till this day. We've never hooked up. Never even kissed. So its possible. Is it likely? Probably not lol.
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    May 13, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    Grindr=friends who swallow.
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    May 13, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidGrindr=friends who swallow.


    Damn, I thought I was cynical. lol
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    May 13, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    wannaseeit said
    smartmoney saidGrindr=friends who swallow.


    Damn, I thought I was cynical. lol

    It was meant as a joke, I do not have Grindr on my phone and I don't do random hook ups and sadly I only have one friend who swallows, but really one friend who swallow, at least for me, is more than enough.
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    May 13, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    " one friend who swallow, at least for me, is more than enough. "

    SO TRUE.

    I haven't made any friends who are likely to become lifelong on Grindr----at least not yet.

    I'm not even looking for someone to explain the meaning of Life to me----though I'm open to hearing opinions on that one too.

    But it's been good to be in another city and have a face-to-face meeting with a local guy who will tell me what it's like to live there-----and give me some advice on what to do.

    Grindr is NOT really for this kind of connection though. It is definitely more for the FRIENDS WHO SWALLOW type of meetup.

    So is there a better site for guys who are adventurous enough to meet another guy for a drink/coffee and simply exchange ideas and a laugh?
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    May 13, 2012 3:18 PM GMT
    I've tried to make "just friends" on Grindr here in south GA but it's usually always ended up in the other party wanting to fool around.

    I would love to try again in a bigger more "open" city instead of the closeted bible belt, maybe the guys there won't care about you outting them as much.
  • runnermtl

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    May 13, 2012 3:27 PM GMT
    Using Grindr for making friends is like using condoms for party balloons.
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    May 13, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    Balancing saidEspecially when I travel I love meeting new people but USUALLY I'm not looking to have sex with them.

    Many profiles on Grindr express interest in friendly networking and I've had some good encounters and discussions with interesting guys.

    How about you guys? Any good connections?

    Is there a better site, more focused on 'friends only', which also has the benefit of helping us link by location?
    "Guy staying a local hotel" is the proverbial moth to a flame for the hookup crowd.

    My suggestion would be to stay at gay B&Bs when you travel - that's generally a good way to meet a variety of people from different locales & walks of life ... and you get the local experience/flavor and tips from inn owners.
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    May 13, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
    OkCupid and POF (PlentyOfFish) are less sexually overt and more geared toward non-sexual friendships-making, LTR-searching, and the like.

    95% of Grindr profiles that are "friends only"... IMHO are cruising for dick just like the rest. They are just a lot classier (euphemism: much more pickier than you)
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    May 13, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    AlphaTrigger saidOkCupid and POF (PlentyOfFish) are less sexually overt and more geared toward non-sexual friendships-making, LTR-searching, and the like.

    95% of Grindr profiles that are "friends only"... IMHO are cruising for dick just like the rest. They are just a lot classier (euphemism: much more pickier than you)


    This is the nail on the head
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    May 13, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    In my experience, "looking for friends" means that about ten minutes of chit chat is required before having sex.
  • Teqkilla42

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    May 13, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    I keep meeting good guys who are in relationships, so I've made a decent amount of friends. It's helpful when you're not 21 yet in a city like Boston. icon_confused.gif
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    May 13, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    I think it all just depends on the context of how you end up meeting...

    If you do anything remotely like a date (going out to a dinner, or a movie, or something that is somewhat one-on-one and intimate) it probably DOES ruin the expectation that you are just hanging out as friends.
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    May 13, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    When I went to Paris I met a very nice guy on Manhunt who showed me some neighborhoods off the beaten path, we had 3 or 4 dinners and he even paid me a dinner in a chic restaurant.

    We didn't have sex, nor did he want to.

    The same happened in my native town in Brazil where I made several friends on Manhunt with whom I never had sex.

    How many times will I have to hear "Grindr is this", "Manhunt is that"... ?

    The place is what you make of it!

    Realjock is a place for sleazy chat for some, others are here for fitness tips or discussions or dating or cruising or just lurking.

    runnermtlUsing Grindr for making friends is like using condoms for party balloons.


    I don't see a problem, especially when there are no party balloons available. Make do with what you have.
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    May 13, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    I mean, come on, it's called GRINDR, if it was FRIENDR maybe people would be meeting for coffee and chat.
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    May 13, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    FRIENDR is a great idea.

    Get busy app-makers.
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    May 13, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    Balancing saidFRIENDR is a great idea.

    Get busy app-makers.


    Already done.

    It's called BLENDR (dating app for all genders & sexualities though marketed primarily to str8s as a variation on the theme of GRINDR)

    GRINDR's current problem is in its overcompensation for trying to walk a bolted horse back into the barn with its ever-increasingly stringent censorship (admittedly done far in excess of Apple's rules) to re-brand itself as a non-hookup centric app.
  • austex85

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    May 13, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    I've met friends on Grindr before...but usually there's already another context behind the meet up (e.g., we're neighbors in the same apt complex, we go to the same school, etc).
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    May 13, 2012 8:27 PM GMT
    Why would you want to meet friends on Grindr? Do you have the sort of time to waste to just randomly talk to people via touch screen typing chat? I hate touch screen typing chat. It is tedious. Three hours of conversation could be had in 10 minutes or less in person. Not an exaggeration at all. How much time do you spend correcting your autocorrect or mashing the cracks on the keyboard? If you don't find that frustrating, you have small thumbs or could be entertained with watching grass grow.

    So yes, send your damn pics, decide if you want to fuck, and move on? The app truly lost its appeal since adding the 10 blocks/24 hr period.
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    May 13, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    met my year and a half bf on Grindr.
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    May 13, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    I've made good friends on grindr. I even found out about a local rugby team by chatting to a few guys on it.