Out in College?

  • brain5brawn

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    Jul 22, 2008 2:43 PM GMT
    I wanted to ask, how many of you were out in College? I'm running into my last year here at MTU, and frankly getting frustrated...I've been out for four years now here, and I've yet to meet any guy who goes to my school who looks like half the guys on here and is out.

    It has been good for my own fitness, but AH...did I just come out to early?
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    Jul 22, 2008 3:00 PM GMT
    I wish I came out earlier. It would have been great for me mentally to come out while in college. I wouldnt have been as depressed. The out gay guys at my school were not my type at all. Im sure more guys like myself came out years later. So I really didnt miss much. In terms of hooking up.
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    Jul 22, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    Exact same story as gymguy.

    Didn't come out in college (4 months after); wish I had; would have been less depressed; not like there was anyone my type anyway (most were quintessential fashion students, and the one in my program was a stonerkid).
  • gingerstrap

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    Jul 22, 2008 5:32 PM GMT
    I came out my sophomore year of college, it was the best thing I did, made me a lot happier. Sorry you've had no luck finding guys.
  • BlackJock79

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    Jul 22, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    I didn't come out in college. Instead, I went in the opposite direction and even FURTHER into the closet by pledging a black fraternity. icon_eek.gif One of the worst things I've ever done. I have always said, if I had never pledged I would have BEEN out of the closet. I wish I had the balls to come out when I was in college.
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    Jul 22, 2008 5:42 PM GMT
    brain5brawn saidI wanted to ask, how many of you were out in College? I'm running into my last year here at MTU, and frankly getting frustrated...I've been out for four years now here, and I've yet to meet any guy who goes to my school who looks like half the guys on here and is out.

    It has been good for my own fitness, but AH...did I just come out to early?


    Haha - I was out in high school and so of course in college and that STILL didn't help when it came to finding a good guy to date. So just chalk it up to poor hunting ground and a lot of guys that are still closeted. Just wait until you leave - a few years from now, you'll see a steady stream of them....
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    Jul 22, 2008 5:47 PM GMT
    i was out at 14!
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    Jul 22, 2008 7:09 PM GMT
    I was out to a few friends during college, but I was an athlete on the track team and the environment in our athletic department as well as the campus in general did NOT seem all that gay-friendly. This is sad too because I didn't date at all in four years and it seems like all the straights were F'ing all the time (and some with multiple partners). I had a crush on a football player whom I think had a crush on me. He was like my boyfriend and whenever I wanted to go anywhere, he'd go with me. I keep kicking myself for never making a move on him; I don't think he would've hurt me... he may have just told me he didn't get down like that, but he really was pretty attentive. There was another guy my senior year who was just as attentive, but I couldn't bring myself to find out whether or not he was gay. Of course now, a friend tells me that Aaron (the second guy) was totally into me. WHY DIDN'T SOMEONE TELL ME THEN??!? icon_mad.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 5:10 AM GMT
    I was out during college -- even went to the gay social group, Spectrum, on Thursdays. I went to gay parties, went to the bi-annual drag shows, and had a good time. Didn't meet a boyfriend, but I did date some guys and met a TON of good friends over the course of four years.
  • klinci3

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    Jul 23, 2008 5:16 AM GMT
    ive been out since 14 and im out at college but i have yet to meet any who truly piques my interest. It could be because theres only 1 other out guy at my school...and he's not my type.

    oy small conservative schools
  • metalxracr

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    Jul 23, 2008 7:04 AM GMT
    Ironically, I came out midway through my senior year of high school, and everyone was so cool with it. I wish I had done it way earlier.

    I came out again in college and there was some rude stuff that was said behind my back. I thought the rolls were supposed to be reversed.

    But I did come out the second semester of my first year and I was hit on by guys I would have never suspected! You should come out because you may get to meet some hotties who are on the down low.
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:32 AM GMT
    All the gay guys i knew were into drugs...A couple subsequently died form that lifestyle. I just wouldn't go there for any reason. So i was something like a loner.
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    Aug 19, 2008 8:46 PM GMT
    I was out in college, even though it was 1981-1985. Was the head of the gay student organization, helped to organize the first gay awareness week, etc. Was in a fraternity too. It was a typical fraternity, not a "gay frat" (no such thing at Colgate, then or now). The other out gay guys were not rugged, good-looking, athletic types - but if you stop to think about, you'd realize that in 1981 virtually no one looked like the guys on RealJock in 2008! And, while there were many men I was attracted to, the opportunity to cavort with them never arose.

    Even so, by being out at a small college at that time, I was able to impact the lives of many people in ways that didn't become clear to me until I attended my 20th reunion a couple of years back. And, through those activities (the "hotline", occasional showings of gay themed movies, etc.) I made lots of good friends, several of whom I've managed to reconnect with recently through things like Facebook!

    At the time, I was dating my High School sweetheart, and I still am! So, I have no regrets about anything that happened in college!icon_razz.gif

  • VinBaltimore

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    Aug 19, 2008 8:48 PM GMT
    Not even to myself! I suddenly realized in my early 30's why every relationship I ever had with a woman was a complete and utter disaster.
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    Aug 19, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    I was out in college, but I guess I didn't realize HOW out I was until I overheard someone describing me as "the gay guy from floor 2" icon_eek.gif Not exactly the notoriety I was seeking at the time. Oh well.
  • ASH557

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    Aug 19, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    Still in college, and still in the closet.

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    Aug 19, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    I came out within the first few hours of arriving at college (at least that's what it felt like). Being part of the theatre/music department, there were a lot of other guys who were out (and some had good bodies, and some had really bad bodies), even though it was a private religious school. Because of the religion aspect, there were many other guys who were not part of the theatre/music department that were in the closet..... but we found out who they were because they all slept with my friend Brandon.... go figure.
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    Oct 01, 2008 5:40 AM GMT
    I've been out since freshman year of high school... and i have yet to get any major shit for it...
  • cbrock

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    Oct 01, 2008 6:12 AM GMT
    I came out the summer before my sophomore year. So, it's been about 4 years now. I don't think it's too early at all. I know a lot of people who came out in high school. I think that's pretty cool to have the supportive family and back up system.
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    Oct 01, 2008 6:29 AM GMT
    came out after six months in college , all of my friend took it great and i've had a great time evr since. dont regret it at all