Gay Manners

  • metta

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    May 14, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    Gay Manners....

    How would they be different than having manners in general?


    Steven Petrow's Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners: The Definitive Guide to LGBT Life

    http://gaymanners.com/

    http://www.amazon.com/Steven-Petrows-Complete-Lesbian-Manners/dp/0761156704/ref=tmm_pap_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1299435124&sr=1-1
  • blueandgold

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    May 14, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    I consistently enjoy your posts.
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    May 14, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    I love your posts too. So why does this one make my skin crawl?
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    May 14, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    MANNERS? WE HAVE MANNERS?! icon_lol.gif!
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    May 14, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    Thanks, I bookmarked it. Though most of gay manners are really universal manners. Still, there are a few unique situations we encounter, and this could be helpful, as I've been perusing it.

    My late parents stressed manners in me at all times, even in my adult life. Not gay manners, needless to say, but they would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I committed some social faux pas. I think if I stole a car they would have gone easier on me.

    The worst I could do would be to insult someone to their face. It was a double offense (like traffic fines double in work zones) if the individual I mistreated was a service person, like a waiter or counter clerk. And if I ever did a "Do you know who I am?" stunt my parents wouldn't speak civilly to me for days.

    No joke. And to this day I am mindful of my manners, not merely how to properly sit at table, but how to engage other people with respect and good grace. And I say to my partner and our friends that if I act like a jerk with anyone in person, my late parents will come back to haunt me. I really believe they will.
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    May 14, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    Depends.

    A. My idea of a "dinner party" is a backyard BBQ with paper plates, and bottles of good German and Czech beers. Perhaps some talk about the Yankees, or college football, or plans for summer travel.

    B. For others, it is some fancy thing involving silver (as in real Ag) ware and Waterford Chrystal and some vintage of Bordeaux I've probably never heard of much less tasted, and small talk ranging around stock options, Barbara Streisand, and why Madonna sucks Gaga's tit for talent recently.

    C. For still others, it is a trip to the diner to attempt to detox after clubbing, before heading back with the hookup-du-nocte to do Tina bumps with (the rule of etiquette here being to promptly forget the hookup's name as soon as the ejaculate is sprayed into the air - and for each the other to pretend that they dont exist, even when attending a swanky dinner party as in B. above.
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    May 14, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    Nivek saidI love your posts too. So why does this one make my skin crawl?


    Me, too. I'm all in favor of manners but the front page of this site makes me want to hurl.
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    May 14, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    Added to my kindle wishlist*
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 14, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    I generally have good manners, gay or otherwise. I probably wouldn't
    differentiate between the two. If a dude doesn't think I'm "gay mannerly",
    he can fuck off!

    LOL

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    May 14, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    I need a book like this. God knows I've had some unintentionally boorish moments.

    The gay world has always been a complicated hodge-podge of slang and secret handshakes, as confusing for non-mainstream homos as for vanilla heteros. And as it gets better for our brave new LGBTQetc world, with new rights and responsibilities, it sometimes seems to get harder to communicate & interact without stepping on stilettos and coming off like a no-neck neanderthal.

    If we want marriage equality, we're gonna have to learn to navigate the complicated social patterns of a new version of the marriage plot. I predict gay life is gonna increasingly resemble Jane Austen novels. lol




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    May 14, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    novo saidI need a book like this. God knows I've had some unintentionally boorish moments.

    A book could certainly help.

    But I think that no matter how old I get (which is pretty old now), I still find myself coming home and saying to myself:

    "Why the HELL did I say that??? What an idiot I appeared! Will I NEVER learn?"

    My social fails are endless. Dunno know why, but there it is. icon_redface.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 14, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    But I think that no matter how old I get (which is pretty old now), I still find myself coming home and saying to myself:

    "Why the HELL did I say that??? What an idiot I appeared! Will I NEVER learn?"




    My question is...Do you ever ask yourself these questions AFTER many of your RJ posts? icon_wink.gif
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    May 14, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    I agree, gays need some manners- especially on grindr