OMG!...my MOM wants to set me up on a blind date with a guy!

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    May 14, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    WTF?...My mom is always ahead of me and is MUCH more "liberal" than me, but setting me up on a date?...just doesn't feel right. anyone ever have any experience with mom setting you up on a blind date? outcome?....I haven't said yes or no yet.....still thinking it over.icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 14, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    do it
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    May 14, 2012 6:42 AM GMT
    Ohh. Mystery date.. will he get a stud or a dud? icon_biggrin.gif

    I say, go for it. icon_wink.gif
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    May 14, 2012 7:39 AM GMT
    What a "liberal mom"

    she's so cool ! icon_cool.gif
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    May 14, 2012 12:02 PM GMT
    creepy!

    i mean really, do you want your mom involved in your sex life? its the freudian equivalent of her crawling into bed with you.

    assert your independence as an adult. tell her that you appreciate her open-mind and support, but you'll find the guy that's right for you, and when you feel its the right guy, you'll introduce her. man, i really hope you're buying your own underwear and condoms too.

    my inner child is screaming.
  • Karl

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    May 14, 2012 12:03 PM GMT
    I love your mom !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    She's so cool !
    You should go for it ;)
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    May 14, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidThese responses above are quite humorous.

    But in all seriousness, I love my mother but her setting me up on a blind date is a strict "no no." That is basically meddlesomeness and parents should not be setting up their children with dates. I understand that a parent would do this out of love but there has to be boundaries in place.

    The good or rather GREAT thing about this is that your mother is very accepting of your intrinsic flute playing nature. icon_twisted.gif

    BIG OL' PLUS FOR MOMZ - She loves her gay son. icon_cool.gif


    +1
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    May 14, 2012 12:17 PM GMT
    Sporty_g saidWTF?...My mom is always ahead of me and is MUCH more "liberal" than me, but setting me up on a date?...just doesn't feel right. anyone ever have any experience with mom setting you up on a blind date? outcome?....I haven't said yes or no yet.....still thinking it over.icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif

    My Mom never got me a gay blind date, despite her knowing I was gay but never discussing it, and I think all blind dates have a high potential for being spooky. And so much pressure! My Mom tried to set up straight dates for me, as did my fellow Army Officers, especially when they wanted me to join them in a couples social event. None were pleasant, and a few were decidedly unpleasant.

    The closest thing to a gay blind date for me were arranged by gay friends who would make the introduction themselves at some party or other gathering. A notch above an introduction by happenstance, me and my "intended" were told beforehand we'd be meeting someone, but not necessarily with an itinerary to go out together that moment, we'd decide that ourselves after meeting. Some of them weren't bad, and I dated one guy for 6 months.

    BTW, like others here I also think your Mom is cool, though with you at 51 it could be seen as being meddlesome, despite her well-meaning intentions. I wouldn't consider it unless you gave her a "list" otherwise you might end up with anything from a twink too young to drink with you, to guys recruited out of a nursing home. If she already has a candidate (as I suspect she might) maybe she should describe him to you first before you consider this further.
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    May 14, 2012 12:39 PM GMT
    Do it!
    DO IT!
    DOOOOOO ITTTTT!!!!!!
  • vintovka

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    May 14, 2012 12:41 PM GMT
    I think you owe ti to the universe--do it.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 14, 2012 12:41 PM GMT
    I think it's cute... do it, great idea!
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    May 14, 2012 12:43 PM GMT
    Eh that'd be kinda weird for me. I wouldn't do it, but good luck in whatever you decide
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    May 14, 2012 1:26 PM GMT
    I would do it just for the thrill of it...maybe she knows your type?

    WHO KNOWS UNLESS YOU TRY IT OUT.
  • parametric

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    May 14, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    YOU OWE IT TO THE COMMUNITY. THIS IS A CULTURAL VICTORY OF HIGH LEVEL. TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM, GO ON THE DATE, AND THEN TELL HER TO TELL ALL HER FRIENDS.

    that level of acceptance is meme worth spreading.
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    May 14, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    If you ask a straight married couple how they met 90% will say they were introduced to each other by someone within their social circle. Dating has always been arranged by parents until the recent social disfunctionality.
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    May 14, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    Yes, this is meddling. But it has too much entertainment value to say no. ;)
  • blueandgold

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    May 14, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    I think the aversion of having us involved with our parents at certain levels beyond childhood is a relatively recent and particularly Western phenomenon. I personally don't see any reason to shy away from close family bonds and opportunities offered to us by our close family - whether they be in terms of housing, advice, or love. They're your family, and at the end of the day they have your best interests at heart.

    When did people caring about us and wanting us happy suddenly become "meddling"? Are we so heedlessly independant that we can't take the helping hands of those who care about us?

    Having your mom set you up with a guy is probably, viewed objectively, better than some random dude you met at the bar or even - hahaha, online!

    She loves you, she wants the best for you, and she's sensitive toward that in any person she sends your way. I guarantee her standards for you are pretty high in terms of the things that count...... There's nothing creepy about that.

    Congratulations.

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    May 14, 2012 3:06 PM GMT

    That is like the coolest thing ever!!!? you are so blessed!icon_cool.gif
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    May 14, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    i wish my mom was chill enough with me being gay to try and set me up with someone. Hell, she's even an interior designer!
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    May 14, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    That is awesome, my mom once mentioned it in jest and i called her bluff and said yes and she sort of panicked...lol Ah, Jewish moms
  • metta

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    May 14, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    Mother's know best...go do it. ;)

    hehe.... I really don't see any harm in it.
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    May 14, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    I like it too - what a cool mom!
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    May 14, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    I would give anything for my Mom to even embrace the fact that I'm gay let alone set me up on a blind date. This is an awesome Mom you have and as for the date go for it. Momma knows best right?
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    May 14, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    What would you have to lose by trying?
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    May 14, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    Surprise everyone it was me! icon_twisted.gif

    P.S. Your mom is the woman!