Jul 22, 2008 4:10 PM GMT
I just wonder...
HighVoltageGuy saidZim...are you bored today or trying to increase your post number?
Eor36When friends fall into the relationship vortex...
redbull saidI think if anyone is a good and real friend they will be there for you regardless of the time spent apart. They should also be happy that you are happy.
A true friend is one where you don't see each other for any length of time, a day, a week, even a year, and then when you do, your friendship resumes as though 5 minutes have gone by.
Anyone miffed by their friend disappearing into a relationship, think of this. Your best friend gets transferred to a job on the other side of the country, where he can afford a house, gets great pay and a career he happens to love, with a future. He takes it. Has he abandoned you? Would you consider telling him not to? Yikes! What would you do, say and feel when he returned?
Here's another, your friend meets his match; he disappears. A few months later he re-appears with his lover, who brings with him a raft-load of people you've never met and one of them is so darn attractive and makes a move on you and then you....!!!
Even better, if you were the one taking the dream job or finding that penultimate of lover, what would you wish of your friend? Always put the shoe on and walk a mile in it. (my Mom's annoying advice)
Blah, Blah, Blah. The issue isn't begrudging our friend happiness, romantically or professionally. It is when they blatantly disregard your friendship by completely shutting you out that gets us "miffed". The idea that people in couples -- in particular newly formed couples -- are to be cut a little slack for their rudeness or insensitivity is a rather selfish notion that only benefits the couple's relationship. We're not asking to be considered equal in the relationship scale (obviously a bf/partner/husband are to rate top of the list if they are to grow as a couple). We ARE asking for the common courtesy that was shown to us prior to the coupling. A REAL friend finds a fair way to incorporate ALL of the important people into his life, one way or another.
meninlove saidThat's why it's good to have more than one friend.