Career vs. Love - which will you choose and why?

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    May 14, 2012 11:19 PM GMT
    One of my closest best friend is getting married this coming June and I will be one of best groomsman. I really care and look out for her, we've been friends for so long. We sort of debated about this a while back and she picked love over career. She moved in with her boyfriend whom she met on Match.com over a nursing job offer really far far away. (like a 3 hours commute). I can't help but wonder if this doesn't work out, she might lose everything! She's still unemployed but settled down with that guy now.

    Some people go Gaga over Love and others can not live without following their chosen Dream/Career path (yes, I'm not talking a job, there is a difference).

    So, hypothetically speaking, Given a serious situation - would you choose your dream career or going after that perfect man? You can not have both! yes life is full of difficult choices, isn't it?

    I have to be honest, I chose the man before and after 3 years, everything fell apart (reasons too long to go into). So I am inclined to say CAREER at this point because you need to be happy with yourself first in order to be with anyone, I don't think you can live on Love alone. So, which will you choose and explain please. icon_cool.gif
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    May 14, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    Well there is a flaw between your hypothetical question and your 3y ago experience.
    because you say to choose between a perfect man over career.. If you chose a perfect man than that means you'll never breakup..

    I would choose a perfect man over career
    And def. if it means that you'll be stuck with only one of them..

    Besides going by your situation you can say after 3years it all fell apart (which btw I'm sorry this happened to you)
    But if you choose career you could also get fired after 3years or go bankrupt (spelling?)

    So no matter what.. I'll choose a man over career..

    And what also pops in my head is that I think people who've been in a bad LTR would most probably choose career..

    People who's leading a lonely life (like me) would most probably choose a man..

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    May 15, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    true that true that, i forgot to mention something else, whichever option you choose, life never really guaranteed anything except for taxes and death! icon_neutral.gif
  • Jonno11

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    May 15, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    I choose career at least right now. Money may not buy happiness, but it does put food on the table, and natural gas in the furnace, and water in the pipes, etc. I Don't like being dependent on someone else for my standard of living, I prefer to be the provider. And besides, im working up by the arctic circle, 2 weeks at a time, not exactly gonna find someone up here to shack up with. Lol.
  • MercuryMax

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    May 15, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    I choose love, and my ex calls me obsessed about it. But love makes me happy, not money or my job
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    May 15, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    For me, I'd choose love. Easily.

    I don't believe finding love and finding a career are the same. I think it's making a choice of someone vs. something, and I'll always choose someone.

    If I'm good enough to be offered a good job in one place, i feel confident I'll find another good job somewhere else, even if it's not in my chosen field. I have confidence in my skills that even if I had to work my way up a company ladder, then I'd be able to do it.

    I don't think love has the same options. It's based on so many other factors that sometimes can't really be explained. Some say that you will always find love as there's so many fish in the sea. I'm not sure I'd agree with that. Then again, they always say that after you've broken up with someone, so that kind of debunks the theory. IMO, if someone sacrifices love for a career, then it wasn't really love in the first place. The flip side is, if it really was love, then what is the other person doing to try to compromise for the relationship? I know that's not really part of your original question, but it's part of a loving relationship.

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    May 15, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    You won't wake up to find that your career has up and left you.
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    May 15, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    Love...if its real, since your career really cant take of you and make you happy the same way..its not so easy a decision but love is the better choice
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    May 15, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    Soccerstud4 saidYou won't wake up to find that your career has up and left you.


    Then it probably means that you just fooled yourself into believing it was love.
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    May 15, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    Hmm, trying to remember what I posted exactly on the last thread like this... cause it's still true for. I'd rather have a Career first, for now; cause I've lived for Love long enough to see it's bad side. I know it's not all bad, and will certainly get back to, in time. But succeeding in a career is something I feel I Need to do for myself; if not, I won't be able to live with myself. Cause Love together with a Career, will make me feel like a Real Man! icon_idea.gificon_biggrin.gificon_cool.gif
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    May 15, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    Soccerstud4 saidYou won't wake up to find that your career has up and left you.


    Yeah it will. It's called being laid off.

    When I was younger I would've chosen love, now it's career.
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    May 15, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    Well youth is wasted on the young...i think most people when they are younger say love and older career since they become more pragmatic over time
  • Karl

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    May 15, 2012 2:48 AM GMT
    Career icon_smile.gif
    No one could live happily if they dont even have a job.
    You can be a very happy couple but the sadness , the controversy will kill that love slowly.
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    May 15, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    I'm pretty sure that on my deathbed, my career will be smiling over me as I tenderly think of all my fond working memories..

    BITCH, YALL CRAZY?????
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    May 15, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    Career but that's because investigations is one of the coolest careers i can ever see myself in. In a way it's a lifestyle
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    May 15, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    Right now I'd have to choose career. Not that I can't live without it but right now I have responsibilities I have to take care of that I'm not going to let anyone else but myself be accountable for. When all that's done maybe my answer will be different, but the way I see it if the right guy comes along and it's meant to be it will all work out itself anyway.
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    May 15, 2012 7:42 AM GMT
    I just finished watching *Queer As Folk final season again, at the end of the series, Justin picked his career and moved to NYC to be an artist instead of staying in Pittsburgh with Brian. I really love the entire series and sort of see myself as the *Justin character because we have so many similarities in life. See, even fairy tales tv shows have their realistic moments, too. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 15, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
    Soccerstud4 saidYou won't wake up to find that your career has up and left you.


    You do when the company you work for suddenly goes bankrupt... This has happened to me twice during the GFC.

    Ideologically, work should be the lowest thing on my list of preferences. Reality is a different story.
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    May 15, 2012 8:20 AM GMT
    At this point in my life, I no longer think a relationship is as important as a career. I'm at an age that I must build my career and future. It would be great to have someone beside me to reach my dreams, but if they stand in my way, then goodbye (just like my boyfriend I just broke up with).

    Someone who is great for you will stand beside you as you both work on your careers, not in front of it.
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    May 15, 2012 8:21 AM GMT
    Career. It's going to be there all my life; a partner (most probably) won't.
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    May 15, 2012 8:37 AM GMT
    Love is forever. Career is temporary.

    Love does not pay the bills. Career does.

    Paid bills keep life in order.

    Career first. Love second.
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    May 15, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidLove is forever. Career is temporary.

    Love does not pay the bills. Career does.

    Paid bills keep life in order.

    Career first. Love second.


    +10000000
  • ja89

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    May 15, 2012 9:51 AM GMT
    luvitohateit saidAt this point in my life, I no longer think a relationship is as important as a career. I'm at an age that I must build my career and future. It would be great to have someone beside me to reach my dreams, but if they stand in my way, then goodbye (just like my boyfriend I just broke up with).

    Someone who is great for you will stand beside you as you both work on your careers, not in front of it.


    I was going to say this.

    If someone loves you, you don't have to make that choice of whether you should go with your career or forget about all that you've been working for so you can see how your relationship turns out.

    At this time in my life, my passion is something I hope to become my career. I have newly unfulfilled dreams and plan on working and striving until i get too old not do it anymore. If I am with someone I love, I will support them in all that I do and would expect them to do the same for me. No this or that for me sorry I break rules and create ones to my advantage. icon_twisted.gif
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    May 16, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    Having accomplished what I want from my career, I'd go with love. That said, it would have to be the PERFECT man.
  • Jordanpcoops

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    May 18, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    jackrabbit108 saidWell youth is wasted on the young...i think most people when they are younger say love and older career since they become more pragmatic over time


    Well I'm 21 and job any time, love brings sadness, well for me lol