Just met online, exchanged numbers, when should I call him?!

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    May 15, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    Okay I met this guy on okcupid whose profile is awesome, we have a lot in common and I obviously would like to meet him in person. We chatted online for almost an hour last night and ended up exchanging numbers. I would love to call him tonight but I don't want to sound desperate. We left it that we'd be in touch this week, so I'm thinking tomorrow night I'll call. There's always the possibility that he'll call me first, but I really think that I'm the one who will make the first phone contact. Do I send a few little texts first during the day? Arrggh I don't know what to do! Thanks for your help! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 15, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    I say follow your gut, a nice text just during the day and a call later can't hurt...dont be obsessive, but seem interested
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    May 15, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    jackrabbit108 saidI say follow your gut, a nice text just during the day and a call later can't hurt...dont be obsessive, but seem interested


    Thanks for the advice! That's what I ended up doing today. A little text to see how his day's going and then hopefully a call later tonight. I'm keeping my fingers crossed!
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    May 15, 2012 7:18 PM GMT
    Now. If you can't get the online meeting to at least an In Real Life coffee, tea, or such...it won't happen.
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    May 15, 2012 7:20 PM GMT
    me11 saidJust met online, exchanged numbers, when should I call him?!
    Immediately after exchanging numbers, and before posting a thread bragging about it.
  • Smiling_Eyes

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    May 15, 2012 7:20 PM GMT
    Don't play games - if you're interested in meeting him, call him this minute and set up a time to meet when you're both available.
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    May 15, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    Best bet would be to come on here and chat about it and end up not calling him, and then, in a few day, you should start another thread on how heartbroken you are and how bad men are and stuff.
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    May 15, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    Smiling_Eyes saidDon't play games - if you're interested in meeting him, call him this minute and set up a time to meet when you're both available.


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  • mikeylikes

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    May 16, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    i agree with the initial response. wait a couple days. games are stupid bullshit, but if you dont play em, you lose.
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    May 16, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    me11 saidOkay I met this guy on okcupid whose profile is awesome, we have a lot in common and I obviously would like to meet him in person. We chatted online for almost an hour last night and ended up exchanging numbers. I would love to call him tonight but I don't want to sound desperate. We left it that we'd be in touch this week, so I'm thinking tomorrow night I'll call. There's always the possibility that he'll call me first, but I really think that I'm the one who will make the first phone contact. Do I send a few little texts first during the day? Arrggh I don't know what to do! Thanks for your help! icon_rolleyes.gif


    That's great! You seem really excited about this guy. Like what people have said already, go ahead send him a couple of texts at most or maybe a phone call the next day, if you're comfortable with that. Let it happen and don't force anything. Good luck!
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    May 16, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    Fishing for a post?
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    May 16, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    ChangeofName saidCall him on Sunday. If you call him and set up plans for Friday or Saturday it means you don't have the swag to pull other dudes.


    And where did you learn that from? If anything...it'd be the right thing to set up something for Friday or Saturday. It don't need to be the first call, but it should at least be kept in mind. These days, its a bit uncommon for guys to make plans for the weekend early in the week, but if they are consistent about seeing you on the weekends its a good sign.

    It says a lot when a guy can spend time with you on either one of those days. Guys who can't meet on weekends are not guys looking to have more than a quick fling.
  • mikeylikes

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    May 16, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    i heard most guys cruise for sex on sunday online.. i think the assumption is if you have enough game you'll go pickup somebody at a club or bar on friday and saturday
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    May 16, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    You should follow the standard course for these situations. That means call him the next day, go out with him that evening, tell him you had an AMAZING time and can't WAIT to go out with him again, then ignore all his messages and calls and never make a single iota of contact with him ever again.
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    May 16, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou should follow the standard course for these situations. That means call him the next day, go out with him that evening, tell him you had an AMAZING time and can't WAIT to go out with him again, then ignore all his messages and calls and never make a single iota of contact with him ever again.


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    May 16, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    mikeylikes said
    Ariodante saidYou should follow the standard course for these situations. That means call him the next day, go out with him that evening, tell him you had an AMAZING time and can't WAIT to go out with him again, then ignore all his messages and calls and never make a single iota of contact with him ever again.


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    Then inadvertently run into him at IHOP three weeks later when you're out with another hookup.
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    May 16, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    DON'T DO IT! ...(is that what you wanted to hear? lol)
    If you want to, do it. If you don't, dont.
    Best of luck in whatever YOU decide to do.