partner asking for too much sex?

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    May 15, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    My guy wants to have sex 3-4 times and week whereas once or twice a week is enough for me. I think he gets annoyed when I make excuses to not have sex. He says he does not mind, but I know he gets mad.

    How do you guys handle something like this?

    I have told him that he has higher libido than I do and he is asking for too much sex. We dont know what to do.
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    May 15, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    some men are hypersexual... it's just in their nature...

    Tell him to jack off on the days that you don't feel like having sex.

    Honestly, it's stupid for him to break up with you because you'd rather have sex twice a week than 4 times a week.

    If he was mature, he would compromise this... and justjack off to porn for those two times.

    c'est finis.
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    May 15, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    he's not breaking up with me, silly icon_smile.gif. it just frustrates him and in turn I feel sad.

    He never got in to the habit to jacking off. So he cannot get himself to release with masturbation.
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    May 15, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    Are you both versatile? Or do you each assume the same roles each time?
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    May 15, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    that question makes our sex life even weirder. He is a versatile top whereas I dont enjoy anal sex at all.

    Dont ask why we are together. Sometimes it's not only about sex after all.
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    May 15, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    I've met a good number of guys who opened up their relationship because of different or incompatible sexual urges. These guys are in love with their husbands and are in meaningful relationships/partnerships with them. They trust their husbands and the security of their relationship, and know that sex is just sex.
    Again, this is what I've heard from a good number of guys. It's not what I would have respected even ten years ago, but it does seem logical. What's at the core of a great relationship? Sex isn't necessarily part of it, definitely not as important as love, trust, mutual emotional support, mutual encouragement, etc. If a couple has so much going on that enriches and strengthens it, then sex should not be what destroys it.
  • Timbales

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    May 15, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    buy him a Fleshjack
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    May 15, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    Advaya said....He never got in to the habit to jacking off. So he cannot get himself to release with masturbation.



    you GOTTA be kidding us with this.....


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    May 15, 2012 1:58 AM GMT
    Timbales saidbuy him a Fleshjack


    OK, I will give that a thought. I might have to. I am not sure if that will do it considering he does not jerk off by himself.
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    May 15, 2012 2:00 AM GMT
    rnch said
    Advaya said....He never got in to the habit to jacking off. So he cannot get himself to release with masturbation.



    you GOTTA be kidding us with this.....


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    I am completely serious. He cannot masturbate by himself.

    We just had an argument about it where I tried to convince him to try jerking off.
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    May 15, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
    i'm sorry but that's a lame excuse...

    everyone jacked off when they were in their teens.. this is stupid.
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    May 15, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    I think its something that people should discuss before dating each other, straight or gay..sexual compatibility is essential to any relationship...if two people are on different parts of the spectrum, it may not matter initially but trust me it'll matter later
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    May 15, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    jackrabbit108 saidI think its something that people should discuss before dating each other, straight or gay..sexual compatibility is essential to any relationship...if two people are on different parts of the spectrum, it may not matter initially but trust me it'll matter later


    EXACTLY.

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    May 15, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    Stop being so selfish and give him the sex he demands.
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    May 15, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    come on guys. think about what's happening these days. we put so much emphasis on sex and carnal satisfaction we forget about what's important for us to be really happy. People didnt have as much pre-marital sex in the old days and waited until marriage to have sex. The divorce rate then was so much lower than what you see these days and couples were happier.

    Think of arrange marriages in India where the bride and groom are literally strangers to each other until the day they marry. Yet, there are fewer separations as compared to the western countries where we should "discuss our sex compatibility" even before starting to date.
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    May 15, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidStop being so selfish and give him the sex he demands.


    He only works part time whereas I am in the office least 10 hours every day. The lack of sex drive along with being tired makes it physical impossible for me to have sex.
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    May 15, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    Advaya said
    GAMRican saidStop being so selfish and give him the sex he demands.


    He only works part time whereas I am in the office least 10 hours every day. The lack of sex drive along with being tired makes it physical impossible for me to have sex.


    It's physically possible (unless your butt and mouth are sewed shut) just your tired and don't want to. Give him a BJ and prostate massage at the same time.
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    May 15, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    If he's asking for too much sex, and if he's hot, I'll gladly take the sex you don't want. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 15, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    Timbales saidbuy him a Fleshjack


    ^^^ This. Make it a game... use it on him to start, and let him finish. Great gift for a top icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 15, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    If you don't give it up, he's going to find satisfaction somewhere else. There are tons of other things that you can do to satisfy his horniness beyond anal penetration--e.g., blowjob, frottage, etc. You might try taking his boner in between your thighs and having him go at it. Just be creative and I'm sure you'll find a way for both of you to be happy.