A4A Stories? ...Just deleted my account there

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    May 15, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    So about a month ago I made an account at A4A, to see what all the fuss was about. Got bombarded with tons of messages that I could never keep up with, and they were always the same "I'd love to get in YOUR pants ;)" kind of messages. Finally it got to the point where I got tired of being treated like a piece of meat and deleted my account just now... probably won't miss it, heh.

    I mean I'm sure it can be a place where meeting a guy for a relationship is possible, it just seems you have to search through a TON of, um, other stuff first. It was definitely nice to see the large amount of gay guys in my city though.
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    May 15, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    I loathe A4A. Manhunt is where its at. A4A is full of hoodrats and thugs. I don't get why people keep sending me messages week after week if I don't respond to the first one. Seriously, why can't people take a hint???

    I don't believe for one minute that people go there to find "friendship" That usually means at least one hour of talk before their legs are up in the air. I make it known I'm just there to hook up. Why do people need to....ahem...beat around the bush???
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    May 15, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    Wow I have loads of stories there... thankfully I wasn't dumb enough to go on beyond that site because I could be dead/publicly outed/tortured etc.

    One time I was on there at like 3AM after watching porn (I was 17) and some guy with no pic sent me a message with his phone number saying that he was willing to pic me up and we could have sex in his car. I replied asking what type of car he had and he said a BMW and I just replied saying "I'm allergic to that type of car, that sucks" then he replied offering to have sex outside because no one would see. I blocked him after he sent a threatening message.

    PS: Is there anywhere good to actually meet for friends (well besides here)? Because here has no verified gay guys from Trinidad.
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    May 15, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    A4A has been a hit or a miss for me. I've never dated or hooked up with any guy from there, but I've made a few interesting contacts. I even got back in touch with a few college friends I hadn't talked to in a while, haha. However, I get hit on by most daddies and guys in SW DC *shivers*

    Manhunt basically sucks unless you're willing to pay for the upgrade. Having a free account doesn't get you much.
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    May 16, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    Been on Adam for like 9years made some friends and found some hot action before I met my man.
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    May 16, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    whats a4a?
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    May 16, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    OneFish saidSo about a month ago I made an account at A4A, to see what all the fuss was about. Got bombarded with tons of messages that I could never keep up with, and they were always the same "I'd love to get in YOUR pants ;)" kind of messages. Finally it got to the point where I got tired of being treated like a piece of meat and deleted my account just now... probably won't miss it, heh.

    SOML! I don't miss it. My friend told me it was a dating site. It's just a trashy hookup site! Never again.

    AMoonHawk saidBut now we'll never meet
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    Thing is, the guys there look like The Beast. Without the transformation. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 16, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    I actually met a really great friend on A4A. He's very nice to look at and we share a lot of the same interests. Unfortunately we live far apart, so don't get to hang out often, but keep in touch consistently.
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    May 16, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    a4a is pretty base level in terms of gay "dating sites"... men you really never want to hook up with, least of all spend an expansive amount of time with flood the gates with headless profile pictures and vacant profile text. They send you messages like "sup?" and if you respond the conversation goes absolutely nowhere.
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    May 16, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    I have never been to that site and dont plan on going anywhere near it.
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    May 16, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    I've had my a4a account since before RJ.
    I can count the times I login each year on one hand.
    I can count the number of times I've hooked up on RJ by counting the times I've logged in.
    In other words, it's great when you're horned up and no place to go.
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    May 16, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    MarkRoger saidPS: Is there anywhere good to actually meet for friends (well besides here)? Because here has no verified gay guys from Trinidad.


    I can't speak to whether it's caught on in Trinidad, but OkCupid (http://www.okcupid.com) is a great site and quickly becoming popular in the US with gays (displacing manhunt in many cases). Much more relationship oriented, not very sex oriented. It's not exclusive to gays, but you can set your profile to be invisible to straights (I mention this since you indicated concern regarding being outed there).

    (Nerd note: they also do awesome statistical discussions based on their userbase: http://blog.okcupid.com/)

    Also, A4A how can anyone stand the site design?! My account there was very short lived.
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    May 16, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    jrunner25 saidwhats a4a?


    www.adam4adam.com
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    May 16, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    I met several great friends, quite a few hot hookups, and one or two weirdos on A4A. I used it in LA and Phoenix. Outside of major gay urban centers your mileage may vary.
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    May 16, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
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    MarkRoger saidPS: Is there anywhere good to actually meet for friends (well besides here)? Because here has no verified gay guys from Trinidad.


    I can't speak to whether it's caught on in Trinidad, but OkCupid (http://www.okcupid.com) is a great site and quickly becoming popular in the US with gays (displacing manhunt in many cases). Much more relationship oriented, not very sex oriented. It's not exclusive to gays, but you can set your profile to be invisible to straights (I mention this since you indicated concern regarding being outed there).

    (Nerd note: they also do awesome statistical discussions based on their userbase: http://blog.okcupid.com/)

    Also, A4A how can anyone stand the site design?! My account there was very short lived.


    Thanks but I checked there and not many Trinidadian gays and the ones I did see were the same pics from A4A... icon_neutral.gif Being gay and here sucks. But thanks for the help anyway!
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    May 16, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    RedheadedRy saidI met several great friends, quite a few hot hookups, and one or two weirdos on A4A. I used it in LA and Phoenix. Outside of major gay urban centers your mileage may vary.
    It actually worked in Caca Grande a few weeks ago. icon_lol.gif
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    May 16, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    Lots of hot, horny guys on A4A, but it also depends on where you are. You're likely to find higher quality A4A subscribers in Boston, NYC, Philly, and DC.
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    May 16, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    I actually made a really really good friend on A4A... a visiting student from NY who was studying the political situation in CuraƧao... a very interesting fellow, will see him in Boston soon... and he introduced me to this lesser-known fantastic funk singer from Georgia, best show I have seen in my life
  • Dbrad3693

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    May 16, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    met my current roommate
    my current fuck buddies
    past fuck buddies,
    and a big douche
    on a4a lol
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    May 16, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    I don't find much difference between Adam4Adam and Manhunt...

    For dating purposes OKCupid and PlentyOfFish are more geared to that, though I just deleted my profile on OkCupid for the second time. For some reason even though my profile stated I was looking for single gay men, it wouldn't stop recommending me bisexual guys in relationships. In Toronto at least the users all seem to be vegan, bearded, bisexual hipsters. I gave up.
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    May 16, 2012 6:54 PM GMT
    I opened my account with A4A about 3 weeks ago. Last week I deleted it. I couldn't take it. Not that I was expecting quality relationships or anything, but I expected people to at least act like human beings. There were a few, but the end desired results was always sex and I'm not about that....anymore.
  • TheBizMan

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    May 16, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    I dunno why you guys have such a negative view towards a4a and hook up sites. They are there to make life easier, and I definitely appreciate that icon_wink.gif. I have an a4a, manhunt, grindr, and scruff account. Not that I jump in the bed of every guy tat messages me. It's fun to have sexy chats too.icon_biggrin.gif

    edit: And all of you guys saying "Oh I didn't know it was all about sex." Or "Guys were treating me like a peice of meat." Umm yeah.. give me a breakicon_rolleyes.gif. It's a HOOK UP site. Go to match.com if you are looking for friendships and relationships.
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    May 16, 2012 7:10 PM GMT
    Think every site is a bit of what you want it to be. Several vary depending on where you are in the world too. A4A is very popular in Palm Springs, many just looking for hookups but have also met a number of quality guys too. Depends on what vibe you put out - and if the reader actually reads!
    OKCupid has proven to be a farce for me with anyone suggested within 100 miles being totally out of line with my preferences icon_rolleyes.gif and the few that might have been remotely decent matches otherwise all seemed to be on the East Coast icon_sad.gif
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    May 16, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    In regards to "no pics" wanting you to agree to have sex with them despite their refusal to show you their pic because they are discrete, it is the same as most..

    However my biggest issue with A4A , is that you have to weed through all of the methheads just to find someone decent and that can keep it hard and/or get fucked the same on or off the shit, and of course they end up being the opposite of what you are looking for that night..



    *I'm a whore icon_eek.gif*
    just sayin'
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    May 16, 2012 7:27 PM GMT
    I'm not on there, but I'd like to get in your pants! icon_lol.gif