Are Some Older Gays Bitter Towards Younger Gays

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    May 16, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    Not coming at anyone specifically or trying to offend but just have a question/food for though.

    When we younger kids complain about the world and such, does it make you older people mad? I realize that life for a gay man is substantially easier now than it was ten to twenty years ago.

    So to the older generation when you hear alot of us kids complain, do you think we are just being babies and whining because the struggles are by far easier than they were before.

    To my younger generation, do you think that they could be somewhat bitter or even jealous that they were not born in a more free generation so our feelings get disreguarded?

    Is there a chance that lack of respect for those who have had arguable a simpler life is at play?
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    May 16, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    Some as in very few of them.
    Just because you don't like somebody doesn't make you bitter or jealous.
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    May 16, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    So far, it's been the opposite with me.

    All the older men (and i'm talking 45 + older) are so sweet to me... I've been talking to this one 60 year old man at woody's - he reads newspapers at the bar there everytime im there and we have a chat.

    I make him feel like he has a friend (me!) and he teaches me more about gay society in general. I feel like he's lonely.. .so I like to make him feel comfy when I see him - in turn, hoping that when I get old, I can still socialize with people.


    The younger ones are the bitter ones...
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    May 16, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    Yes, they are. And if you focus on that, you'll miss out on the older guys who respect the younger guys as they are without being bitter toward them. icon_wink.gif
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    May 16, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ saidSo far, it's been the opposite with me.

    All the older men (and i'm talking 45 + older) are so sweet to me... I've been talking to this one 60 year old man at woody's - he reads newspapers at the bar there everytime im there and we have a chat.

    I make him feel like he has a friend (me!) and he teaches me more about gay society in general. I feel like he's lonely.. .so I like to make him feel comfy when I see him - in turn, hoping that when I get old, I can still socialize with people.


    The younger ones are the bitter ones...
    You sound like a carbon copy of me in my 20's. icon_wink.gif
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    May 16, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    _Mohamed_ saidSo far, it's been the opposite with me.

    All the older men (and i'm talking 45 + older) are so sweet to me... I've been talking to this one 60 year old man at woody's - he reads newspapers at the bar there everytime im there and we have a chat.

    I make him feel like he has a friend (me!) and he teaches me more about gay society in general. I feel like he's lonely.. .so I like to make him feel comfy when I see him - in turn, hoping that when I get old, I can still socialize with people.


    The younger ones are the bitter ones...
    You sound like a carbon copy of me in my 20's. icon_wink.gif


    cuz I am. lol.
    (insert scientific explanation about how crazy this is).
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    May 16, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    The younger ones are the bitter ones...

    ^ This
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    May 16, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    paulflexes said
    _Mohamed_ saidSo far, it's been the opposite with me.

    All the older men (and i'm talking 45 + older) are so sweet to me... I've been talking to this one 60 year old man at woody's - he reads newspapers at the bar there everytime im there and we have a chat.

    I make him feel like he has a friend (me!) and he teaches me more about gay society in general. I feel like he's lonely.. .so I like to make him feel comfy when I see him - in turn, hoping that when I get old, I can still socialize with people.


    The younger ones are the bitter ones...
    You sound like a carbon copy of me in my 20's. icon_wink.gif


    cuz I am. lol.
    (insert scientific explanation about how crazy this is).
    Cloning is a physical reality. There is nothing crazy about it. icon_wink.gif
  • DR2K

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    May 16, 2012 4:58 AM GMT
    Short answer: Not really.
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    May 16, 2012 4:58 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYes, they are. And if you focus on that, you'll miss out on the older guys who respect the younger guys as they are without being bitter toward them. icon_wink.gif


    I like some Older gays..empahsis on some.I dont know anyone that much older than me in everyday life aside from one guy who is 29. I feel like I can learn alot though if I were to meet some. I think

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    and U my dear Paul are some of my favorite people here and you all are older than me by a good bit.
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    May 16, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    DR2K saidShort answer: Not really.
    ...says the semi-twink.

    /fakebitterness
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    May 16, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA said
    paulflexes saidYes, they are. And if you focus on that, you'll miss out on the older guys who respect the younger guys as they are without being bitter toward them. icon_wink.gif


    I like some Older gays..empahsis on some.I dont know anyone that much older than me in everyday life aside from one guy who is 29. I feel like I can learn alot though if I were to meet some. I think

    meninlove

    TrueblueAussie

    and U my dear Paul are some of my favorite people here and you all are older than me by a good bit.
    In geological time, our ages are less than 0.001% apart. icon_wink.gif
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    May 16, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    DR2K saidShort answer: Not really.
    ...says the semi-twink.

    /fakebitterness


    Well I've never been called that before. Now I'm going to go drown my sorrows in cheeseburgers and dead lifts.

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    May 16, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    No, everyone is bitter at youthful vigor and beauty. Society should take a look at it'self in the mirror and be honest with it'self. Noone is perfect and thats okay! You hear me America? You're beautiful! Love yourself, love your curves; love your quirks; love your faults; and go on with your bad self!
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    May 16, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ saidSo far, it's been the opposite with me.

    All the older men (and i'm talking 45 + older) are so sweet to me... I've been talking to this one 60 year old man at woody's - he reads newspapers at the bar there everytime im there and we have a chat.

    I make him feel like he has a friend (me!) and he teaches me more about gay society in general. I feel like he's lonely.. .so I like to make him feel comfy when I see him - in turn, hoping that when I get old, I can still socialize with people.




    wonderful attitude !
  • TheBizMan

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    May 16, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    There's a lot to learn from our older brethren seeing as how they have many more life experiences than younger guys. Some of them may be stubborn at times, but when you've been there and done that for the umpteenth time, you have somewhat of a right to be I'd say.
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    May 16, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    I would have to say most older guys I know don't begrudge younger guys for having it easier.
    What I have found is a large number of younger guys just dont get that an older guy may be interested in them in purely platonic ways, as he may see himself in you, he knows what you are going through and having had no older mentors growing up he may go out of his way to help a younger guy out even if its just to listen.
    I have recently had my eyes opened by some younger guys and I must say you're not such a bad bunch at all. The challenges you guys face are different to those who came before yo but life and all its little twists is pretty much the same.
    I definately don't wish I was 20 something now, but I sometimes wish that i had older gay guys around when I was coming to terms with my sexuality.

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    May 16, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidThere's a lot to learn from our older brethren seeing as how they have many more life experiences than younger guys. Some of them may be stubborn at times, but when you've been there and done that for the umpteenth time, you have somewhat of a right to be I'd say.


    True

    but with difference in age comes a gap in time aswell as communication.

    We are all kids who grow up but the quality of life rather it be better or worse is not the same.

    I think to say that because one was younger at a time like us which means they have insight is both true and real but at the same time unrealistic.

    Slavery, Segregation, Bullying, Increase in Suicide, Teen Pregnancy, Drug and Alcohol abuse...so on and so forth all mean different things to different people in certain era's of time.

    Being a Gay man today is not the same as Back then.
    So yeah we may have something in common..being gay, but that does not mean that anyone who is older can relate to one who is younger and vice versa.

    We can only speak on what we have been through. Which still may not be relatable to others...even if the situations are the same, just for the fact that the time and generation is different.

    There is a difference in Sympathy and Empathy,.

    Went off into deep thought, sorry...happens every now and again icon_smile.gif
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    May 16, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    DR2K said
    paulflexes said
    DR2K saidShort answer: Not really.
    ...says the semi-twink.

    /fakebitterness


    Well I've never been called that before. Now I'm going to go drown my sorrows in cheeseburgers and dead lifts.

    Don't forget cinnamon ice cream for desert.
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    May 16, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    Whenever I see a child crying I always think to myself, "If only they knew just how good they have it."
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    May 16, 2012 5:57 AM GMT
    It's something I seen even when I was young myself. Young guys would give the older guys shite, and if the older guys talked back, they were the ones with the issues and attitudes, even the creepers; yet all that belonged to the young guys with attatude., and it still goes on to this day. But working in the gay community in my 20s I was around gays and bis of all ages; but it was different then. I was to grow up with liberties they never knew; but I was out there fighting for them too.
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    May 16, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidUs older guys aren't bitter. We're simply BETTER. icon_twisted.gif
    But nothing is better than butter.

    Well, maybe bacon...fried in butter.
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    May 16, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidUs older guys aren't bitter. We're simply BETTER. icon_twisted.gif
    But nothing is better than butter.

    Well, maybe bacon...fried in butter.

    Enigmatic sense of humor.. I like it icon_lol.gif
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    May 16, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    I'm all about equal opportunity...this guy that is probably in his early 40's has been staring at me in hte gym lately...hot as fuck, he just needs to make the approach.
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    May 16, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
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    7Famark saidI'm all about equal opportunity...this guy that is probably in his early 40's has been staring at me in hte gym lately...hot as fuck, he just needs to make the approach.

    ,,,,or you could approach him?.....


    He's always there with two friends...that's a lot more intimidating than them approaching me.