ayer2009 saidYou become a realist! That is when it hits you that you must come first in everything you do! Get your piece of the pie and don't sacrafice for others unless their is something to your advantage. Jaded, no! Realistic, YES!!! If you don't make yourself happy first you can't make others happy.
An odd philosophy. I've already done everything I'm likely to do at my age. Not bad, not great, just what it is.
Being already happy with who we are, and content if we die today (my partner actually said that to me today, which I echoed for myself, we both having been everywhere, done everything we could want to do), we are dedicated now to helping others, not ourselves.
The abandonment of selfishness is very liberating. When you care about others most, more than about yourself, you seem to pass into a different plane of existence. Hard to explain, but it brings us such happiness & fulfillment that we wouldn't exchange it for anything else. The happiness of others defines our own happiness, and as our own lives draw to a close, that's all we want.