Importance of shirtless profile photos

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    Jul 23, 2008 11:30 AM GMT
    Just recently, I got listed as the RJ MOTD for some reason (my birthday, random selection, tracked proton decay -- who knows). That triggered a fair amount of mail (which I suspect is to be expected). All good fun.

    One thing that came up more than a few times was that I had no shirtless photos of myself in my profile. Most folks who commented on this were pretty nice about it, but a few came off as sort of pissed or suggested it was a tease (wtf?). I see lots of guys with no shirtless photos (though more with shirts off).

    I primarily see RJ as a community site and fitness information site, but as I'm single right now, there is a part of me that considers I might want to date like minded guys from here. Am I doing myself that much of a dis-service to have no shirtless photos? Do most folks think this is somehow a "tease" or worse, skip over profiles with no shirtless photos?

    In the big scheme of things, this is admittedly a pretty minor issue, but I'm curious what others, especially those who may have done some RJ related dating at some point, feel on the topic.

    Gerry
  • redheaded_dud...

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    Jul 23, 2008 11:36 AM GMT
    1) I don't have the chest to have a shirtless photo.

    2) If you DO have a great chest, you still don't have to have a shirtless pic. A little mystery is a good thing.
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    Jul 23, 2008 11:37 AM GMT
    I definitely got more attention when i stripped down in a couple of photos....



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  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 23, 2008 11:42 AM GMT
    I have a mix between shirtless and non shirtless. I try to vary my pics, but there will always be comments about something. "Why are you laying down so much" was the comment I seemed to get from several. One dude even counted the number of pictures in which I lay down. Sheesh.

    I think shirtless are fine, I think non shirtless are fine as well. Do what works.
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    Jul 23, 2008 11:43 AM GMT
    The people who get pissed that you dont have a shirtless pic are probably the same guys with no pictures in there profile or no face pic's at all. Just ignore those kinds of email's man.
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    Jul 23, 2008 11:48 AM GMT
    (IN MY JESSICA RABBIT VOICE)

    "I do not want to be lusted by the hot men here --I've ruined enough lives already...
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    Congratulations, you caught my attention! Now stop staring at me, Gerry...you naughty, naughty boy!"



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    Jul 23, 2008 11:57 AM GMT
    aagerry, Men are visual creatures so we tend to like shitless pictures. Do you have to have one? no not at all, it never stops the good guys from talking to you, it will stop the shallow men from talking to you.

    Looking at your pics, you come off as a nice real guy (lol I guess a realjock)so people will talk to you. People are curious about what is under the shirt.

    If you think you need one because guys you want to meet would talk to you more, well do it because you want to do it. Do you really want to go shirtless for guys who would pass you up because you are not shirtless? Go shirtless because you want to show off. Stay with a shirt if that is more who you are.
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    Jul 23, 2008 12:48 PM GMT
    aagerry saidDo most folks think this is somehow a "tease" or worse, skip over profiles with no shirtless photos?


    I'll say this....I periodically change my profile photo and on the weeks where I have a profile photo showing skin my "hit" list and "mail in-box" seems much more popular....if its a picture of me running a race or simply a picture like I have up this week...it's like I can hear the crickets chirping.icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Jul 23, 2008 12:53 PM GMT
    smalltownboy saidsimply a picture like I have up this week...it's like I can hear the crickets chirping.icon_rolleyes.gif
    Men and their one-track minds.

    Still... you got two kisses from me with your shirt on!!! And that's even when you had real work to do!!! LOLLLL!!! x
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    Jul 23, 2008 1:08 PM GMT
    hmmm maybe i should take the tank off whatev i don't mind everyone's titty shots but please please please don't make your primary photo be a pic of you topless only cuz i login from work and i am situated in a huge cube-farm and your chests only draw further attention to curious passerbys. Given that... i think shirtless pics are good to show-off your gymwork (and as eye-candy)
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    Jul 23, 2008 1:13 PM GMT
    ZiMpLuS said
    smalltownboy saidsimply a picture like I have up this week...it's like I can hear the crickets chirping.icon_rolleyes.gif
    Men and their one-track minds.

    Still... you got two kisses from me with your shirt on!!! And that's even when you had real work to do!!! LOLLLL!!! x


    icon_biggrin.gif True, but you're an exception, not the rule...and I should probably be doing paper work again this morning instead of being on here...but at least I get to work from home!icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 1:19 PM GMT
    yomamali saidplease please please don't make your primary photo be a pic of you topless only cuz i login from work and i am situated in a huge cube-farm and your chests only draw further attention to curious passerbys.

    And that's supposed to be our problem? It's you vs. 133,372 of us! Fact. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 1:20 PM GMT
    smalltownboy saidicon_biggrin.gif True, but you're an exceptionicon_cool.gif

    Oh my gosh, I'm really that exceptional a kisser you think?! Aww... you will always be my MOTD... *kiss*
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    Jul 23, 2008 1:21 PM GMT
    ZiMpLuS said
    yomamali saidplease please please don't make your primary photo be a pic of you topless only cuz i login from work and i am situated in a huge cube-farm and your chests only draw further attention to curious passerbys.

    And that's supposed to be our problem? It's you vs. 133,372 of us! Fact. icon_lol.gif


    grrrr...
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    Jul 23, 2008 2:31 PM GMT
    aagerry saidI primarily see RJ as a community site and fitness information site, but as I'm single right now, there is a part of me that considers I might want to date like minded guys from here. Am I doing myself that much of a dis-service to have no shirtless photos? Gerry


    Well first off, considering the arms you're displaying in your default photo, I'd say you're definitely doing yourself (and the rest of us) a disservice by having no shirtless photos. And because this is primarily a fitness site, it's always pleasant to see the results of all that hard work on display. That said, anybody who acted seriously pissed off that you don't have a shirtless photo is obviously a total douche and you should immediately block them from attempting to contact you. Life is too short. If, however, dates is what you're looking for, it might be adviseable to put the goods in the window. It certainly doesn't appear that you've got anything to hide.
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:23 PM GMT
    steven_patterson said...is obviously a total douche and you should immediately block them from attempting to contact you.


    Totally off subject, but...

    Is there really a way to do that on this site? I've got someone on here that I kinda feel like is borderline stalking me and inundating me with mail which I ignore and he keeps right on sending...10, 15 notes a day. It's unnerving me.icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    I think there is an option "All mails from _______ forward to ZiMpLuS" --just fill in the blank, then click the "Next" button. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 4:43 PM GMT
    aagerry said
    I primarily see RJ as a community site and fitness information site, but as I'm single right now, there is a part of me that considers I might want to date like minded guys from here. Am I doing myself that much of a dis-service to have no shirtless photos? Do most folks think this is somehow a "tease" or worse, skip over profiles with no shirtless photos?


    Gerry


    Whether RJ is a primarily a fitness site is always up for debate. In the past year, I've received maybe 3 messages asking about my workout; 98% are asking me to cam, trade naked pics, or meet them at the downtown Marriott. (maybe, maybe, & no thanks)

    I admit I tend to click into the hot torso pics, but them I'm annoyed where there is no face pic accompanying it. I think most of us are here because this site attracts the hottest men with the best physiques.

    Just by the "fitness" nature of the site you will definitely get more attention if you are showing a hot body, but I would never get offended if someone chose a more modest approach.
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    Jul 23, 2008 4:51 PM GMT
    yomamali saidi think shirtless pics are good to show-off your gymwork (and as eye-candy)


    I'll more than likely do a shirtless pic once I get my body to the point I feel it should be to show where I've been and how far I've come. Of course it's always nice to receive compliments on the way you look, but that wouldn't be my main objective.

    Either way, I think one can work a pic with a shirt on and STILL be sexy as hell! *wink yomamali* Being shirtless is just extra icing. LOL!
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    Jul 23, 2008 4:52 PM GMT
    It's like chicks showing their tits and shit!!


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    Jul 23, 2008 4:53 PM GMT
    smalltownboy said

    Totally off subject, but...

    Is there really a way to do that on this site? I've got someone on here that I kinda feel like is borderline stalking me and inundating me with mail which I ignore and he keeps right on sending...10, 15 notes a day. It's unnerving me.icon_eek.gif


    Yes. View the user's profile, and then click 'Block this Member' on the left navigation frame.
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    Jul 23, 2008 4:54 PM GMT
    I don't want you to see my nipples. they're shy.
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    Jul 23, 2008 4:55 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidIt's like chicks showing their tits and shit!!




    those look like tara reid's freakish, off-kilter breastesessss
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    Jul 23, 2008 4:57 PM GMT
    metroPAULitan said
    a1972guy saidIt's like chicks showing their tits and shit!!




    those look like tara reid's freakish, off-kilter breastesessss



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    Jul 23, 2008 5:00 PM GMT
    Frankly aagerry, you don't need a shirtless pic. We can see what's going on under there!icon_cool.gif