I was born and raised in Boston, lived in NYC for a short time, 1 year in a rock band in a farmhouse in New Hampshire, 1 year in San Francisco and a short time in Berkely.
In 1969, I moved to Los Angeles where I have lived ever since.
My work in the Media (Freelance Television DP/Cameraman)
has taken me all over the country and out of it so I believe I have a good sense of both cities. My take is that they are VERY VERY different and I don't agree that the guys in LA are "pretentious, superficial and kinda not "Friendly"Cut Throat LA types !"
That describes people in many cities
"I never lived in L.A., but over twenty years in S.F. "I prefer S.F. (and the Bay Area) because there isn't one overwhelming INDUSTRY, there seems to be more space for individuality, and being gay doesn't have to be a full-time job."
Come on! you can't be objective if you have Only lived in ONE place!"
Conclusion; people that live most or only in SF seem to love to bash LA...
but We in LA appreciate both in general.
I love visiting SF but have no desire to sell my house and move there.
There are good and bad in ALL cities and I tend to find and praise the best parts so for me, they both win... just depends on what works for you.