Trouble meeting new gay guy for friendship or dating.

  • BlueMoose

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    May 19, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    Lately I have been trying to meet new gay guys to expand my circle of gay friends. I only have a few gay friends I'm close with and they live almost an hour away. I live in a more rural area sadly and there aren't to many gay guys around me. I am also looking to meet guys for dates, but haven't had much luck so far. I love being gay, but it is frustrating sometime to meet new people. I am pretty much on every dating site imaginable, GRindr, etc. Everyone is just looking for sex and I want more which I guess is rare for someone my age. Any suggestions? I also try to go out to gay bars and clubs, but lately I havent because I don't like going alone and my gay friends have been busy lately with school and moving into their new place. Seriously need some good advice.
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    May 19, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    Making friends of the net or in bars is really hard. Maybe you could join a gay sports team or some kind of group. You look like you would be good at rubgy. I'm going joining a gay rugby team when my fitness improves in a few months.
  • BlueMoose

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    May 20, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    sadly there are no gay groups i know about near me. i would in a heartbeat.
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    May 20, 2012 1:50 PM GMT
    On all these social media websites that you participate in, you apparently don't have any trouble finding guys who want sex...what's wrong with sex? Meet them, get your rocks off and see if there's more to it. Sex is a good way to meet others. My partner and I of 42 years, got together originally "just for sex" and then did it again...and again...and again. And, before we knew it we had a relationship.
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    May 20, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    rigsby saidOn all these social media websites that you participate in, you apparently don't have any trouble finding guys who want sex...what's wrong with sex? Meet them, get your rocks off and see if there's more to it. Sex is a good way to meet others. My partner and I of 42 years, got together originally "just for sex" and then did it again...and again...and again. And, before we knew it we had a relationship.

    And you're still together at 42 years, a great accomplishment. Was wonderful running into you both accidentally over a week ago in a restaurant.

    But Rockaway and Wayne, New Jersey isn't exactly the rural area the OP portrays. I grew up fairly near there. Nothing in northern NJ is very far from anything, and it's very densely populated; too much, in fact.

    So I dunno, either you have the knack or you don't. I do agree with rigsby not to approach every guy like he's gonna be your life partner. He's a trick, a hook-up, a guy to shoot the shit with at the bar for an hour. And if you click then great. And if not, you try another. But if you have too many "filters" in place you'll meet too few to find a keeper.
  • BlueMoose

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    May 20, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    I really am not judgmental when it comes to meeting people. Very open to most as long as there is some initial attraction. I just want to meet a guy and hang out and get to know them. To me sex doesn't tell me if I like the guy. Sex is just sex if the person isn't special to me. I want to have sex with guys who are special to me. It's much better that way and more enjoyable. It seems I am attracted to older guys because of this since older guys tend to want more of a connection instead of just sex. I'd like to find guy near my age with same outlook on life.
  • YOSHI99199

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    May 21, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    im having trouble meeting new guys and need to try something new do any of u guys out their could help me i don't know what to do at all