How do you have awesone HOT SAFE SEX?

  • Shark100

    Posts: 234

    May 20, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    Hi guys, I wonder if you can tell me how do you do to enjoy hot sex but keeping in mind the risks of contracting STD's or even worse AIDS. I am so afraid of this, that I just can't have sex with a guy I do not know or I do not trust. I have read about condom and lubricants, but I still do not believe it is 100% safe or at least 99%. I am also so curious about oral sex, but once again I read a lot and found that it is not weird to find people who practices oral sex with traces of Syphilis and Chlamydia in their mouths or throat, in other cases even when it is not that serious, a herpes can appear in your mouth as a result of infection, btw Herpes can't be cured, it remains not visible but a person who has it, will have it for life!!!

    Sorry to sound a bit paranoic, comments will be appreciated
  • sbwlguy

    Posts: 566

    May 20, 2012 12:28 PM GMT
    Wrap you and your hookup's entire body in plastic wrap and wear a gasmask.
  • el_pdm

    Posts: 23

    May 20, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    I share some of your fears and can understand where you are coming from. Whilst it is crucial that safer sex is promoted, I think a culture of fear is being created meaning some people feel guilty/scared about every encounter. So here are my thoughts...

    Everything in life carries a risk. I mean, every time you cross the street, get in a car or get a flight there is chance something might happen. But you cannot hide indoors.

    Sex can be amazing and, yes, every time you have sex with someone you are taking a risk. Safe sex does not exist. Safer sex does. There are ways though to be as safe as possible.

    Unprotected anal sex with multiple partners for example is dangerous. Very dangerous! It is also the most common method of transferring STDs including of course HIV. A lot of these diseases are hard to catch - don't make it easy, so always use a condom.

    A lot of men make the statement "I always practice safe sex unless I'm in a trusting monogamous relationship." This is not a rule but a choice. I have never had unprotected anal sex even in a relationship. It's not that I haven't trusted my partner but I am entitled to my own boundaries as to what I will and will not do sexually. So if you're in a relationship with a guy and he wants to bareback and you don't, you still say no. You must never be forced to do anything you don't want to. If your partner doesn't like it, that's their problem

    What you do with oral is also a personal choice, it is far less risky than anal but it's your decision if you let a guy come in your mouth. Again, don't be forced!! My belief (I'm not a doctor!) is that it makes no difference whether you spit or swallow. The transfer of a disease will be through a cut/sore in the mouth. The choice of what you do will be yours.

    Please remember most people are sexually active and go through life without catching anything. If you are safe as you can be you will reduce any chance of infection. Some people are just incredibly unlucky. That being said, the people I know (male, female, gay, straight) who have had an STD have always caught it from unprotected sex. Thankfully it was never anything too serious.

    It's good you are aware of the risks and not taking the "it'll never happen to me" approach. Be as safe as you can and you will dramatically reduce the chances of catching anything.