In love with my straight best friend.

  • Zackey99

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    May 21, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    I'm sure there has been posts before on here about this but I'm stuck in a huge situation that's tearing me up on the inside.

    My best friend and I have always been really close. I have developed a love interest for him stronger then ANYBODY before. My love for him started a year ago when I was stuck in a Horrible flood. I told him I needed to leave the area and he was so scared for me. He called me so much to make sure I was okay and Didn't drown. He left me messages telling me How much he wouldn't be able to move on never being able to speak to me again. When the power was restored, I was able to charge my phone and return his call. I never noticed how sweet he was, and how much he cared about me. He knows I'm gay, And he doesn't think much of it. I always make time to talk to him, and meet up with him. I never went into depression until he was telling me how he gets "So hard" From seeing girls with short shorts on, and looking at their breast and hearing that just devastated me so much. I really try to stay away from him for a few days but he makes me feel guilty about it and I end up staying. He's like an addictive drug that I need my daily dose of. I never have the balls to tell him how I feel about him because I am so scared he will never talk to me again. I just really need some advice, Should I move on? Tell him how i feel? Detach myself from him?
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    May 21, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    I am in the exact same position, except i messed around with this guy and actually Im going to attempt to distance myself again. Right now I am trying to drink away my problems with a magarita lol. Love is a bitch. It really sucks when their "straight".
  • Zackey99

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    May 21, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    cj1111 saidI am in the exact same position, except i messed around with this guy and actually Im going to attempt to distance myself again. Right now I am trying to drink away my problems with a magarita lol. Love is a bitch. It really sucks when their "straight".


    I hear you dude, I'm distancing myself away from him right now also, But its super hard when I always want to talk to him.Mmm Margarita would be nice ;P
  • Steven791

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    May 21, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    I'm in the same position.. He's my best guy friend, known each other for years, he knows I'm gay and totally cool with it and always tells me about how much fun he has when we hang out. The other night we got drunk, went out the the gay club in town and two-stepped and dirty danced and had a blast! He talks about his penis when we're drunk sometimes too.. I find his straightness rather questionable. He tells me that his mom would be ok with him being gay and the last relationship he got out of he said that maybe girls just weren't for him. He's really open and I feel like he would tell me if he was, but I also feel like there is something keeping him from saying if he is. Hmph. Who knows.. icon_confused.gif
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    May 21, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    omfg the sock accounts keep proliferating. Look what is happening to RJ

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  • Zackey99

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    May 21, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    Steven791 saidI'm in the same position.. He's my best guy friend, known each other for years, he knows I'm gay and totally cool with it and always tells me about how much fun he has when we hang out. The other night we got drunk, went out the the gay club in town and two-stepped and dirty danced and had a blast! He talks about his penis when we're drunk sometimes too.. I find his straightness rather questionable. He tells me that his mom would be ok with him being gay and the last relationship he got out of he said that maybe girls just weren't for him. He's really open and I feel like he would tell me if he was, but I also feel like there is something keeping him from saying if he is. Hmph. Who knows.. icon_confused.gif



    Well atleast your friend is open to the idea. Mine never talks about anything besides Tits and Babes,
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    May 21, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    Oh, dear...
  • Steven791

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    May 21, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    I meant open minded... And he said it wouldn't bug him to be with a guy but he is more attracted to women. So I'm pretty screwed icon_razz.gif
  • Zackey99

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    May 21, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    I Think that the fact that he talks about girls so much is just him trying to cover up the fact that he might be Bi. If he is really straight, I'm going to leave it alone. I hate ignorant people who try to get me to go straight so I wouldnt become one of those people and make him be gay (I don't really mean "Make" because we all know being gay or straight or lesbian isn't a choice)

    I think he does have a little hint that I love him tho.
  • Steven791

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    May 21, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    Whenever guys tell me I should try to be with a girl I tell them to literally suck a dick... They don't mention it again. Lol
  • araphael

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    May 21, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    Yes, I did experience this once when I was a youngster. If the dude is really straight man you need to move on. Even if the two of you have sex a couple of times, and it's hot (which it was in my case) just remember that he is "straight!". That usually means he will always look to fall in love with a chick and he will and you will be hurt. So my advice is for you to move on to someone else for a love interest. But you won't because gay guys tend to love that which they can not conquer. lol. Coincidentally, girls tend to be the same way which I find very amusing, haha. Which is why so many gay guys are in pain right now and often strike out with hate towards actual nice gay guys that they might really have a chance with. Reality is reality dude.
  • Zackey99

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    May 21, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    Well, Most of the relationships i've been in the guy just wants sex, and I'm more of the romantic type and likes to kinda take it slow, And Theres stereotypes that say gay guys just want sex, hmmm.. I obviously find that untrue but in a lot of cases it is true icon_razz.gif.....

    Yes, I am going to try to move on but that doesn't change my feelings for him. I'm always going to get chills when I see him, (in a good way)....

    I'm not going to waste my time lusting after somebody who isn't gay. But deep down I'll always wish we had something. Todays the first time i've detached myself from him.. I told him I needed time to think.
  • Zackey99

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    May 21, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    Steven791 saidWhenever guys tell me I should try to be with a girl I tell them to literally suck a dick... They don't mention it again. Lol


    Wouldn't it be funny if the person you told to suck a dick actually did it lol.
  • Borski1992

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    May 21, 2012 5:15 AM GMT
    Just my two cents, grow some balls and tell him how you feel. Regardless of how it ends, it will be a better situation than now. If he is gay, and returns it, good. (but not likely at all) If he is horrified, and never talks to you again, it is still good, because you just said you get depressed around him and he makes you feel guilty when you try to stay away. That is a perfect way to stay the fuck away without him making you feel guilty. If he is straight but okay with your feelings, then live with it. Honestly, that is probably the situation that will be worst on your emotions, but will prove he is the best friend.
  • Steven791

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    May 21, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    Zackey99 said
    Steven791 saidWhenever guys tell me I should try to be with a girl I tell them to literally suck a dick... They don't mention it again. Lol


    Wouldn't it be funny if the person you told to suck a dick actually did it lol.


    funny story about that...
  • Zackey99

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    May 21, 2012 6:27 AM GMT
    Steven791 said
    Zackey99 said
    Steven791 saidWhenever guys tell me I should try to be with a girl I tell them to literally suck a dick... They don't mention it again. Lol


    Wouldn't it be funny if the person you told to suck a dick actually did it lol.


    funny story about that...



    Haha, I would love to hear about it icon_razz.gif
  • Steven791

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    May 21, 2012 11:47 AM GMT
    He enjoyed it. haha
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    May 21, 2012 11:54 AM GMT
    I don't see how this thread relates to president Romney.
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    May 21, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    I had that situation a few years ago with a great guy friend of mine. We had and still have a bromance. aka we always have our "hang out" days. be all affectionate . Hug each other last when we in a group etc. But nothing to the extreme even though we jokingly smack ass or hold hands lol

    When I told him I had feelings for him he wasn't bothered by it. I then realized that I had feelings for him because he's what I would want in a bf, HOWEVER having someone love me for who I am is just as important as a love interest. I didn't detach myself that day we became closer.

    Anywhos guys if you have a guy friend who's ok with you being gay and still treats you with kindness, APPRECIATE THAT. One of the worst things you can do is to look for clues that may indicate his "true sexuality" whether out of your own desire to be with him or something else. It makes it seem like you have an agenda and you may risk losing someone valuable in the process.