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    Jul 23, 2008 6:45 PM GMT
    Do you find attractive a fat man? or almost a boy with a little belly? like a bear, cub or chubby?

    Or are you looking for a slim/athlethic/muscular man?
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    Jul 23, 2008 6:50 PM GMT
    Yes, I'm generally more attracted to stocky men, even slightly chubby ones. And I distinctly prefer bears/cubs to thin guys, coz I'm a thin guy myself. That said, that's just physical. icon_razz.gif

    It's like this:

    Thin < Fat < Slim < Average < Muscular < Stocky icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:00 PM GMT
    definitely not into fat...i wouldnt even find myself attractive....I would prolly only settle for someone like me cuz I couldnt get anyone better ....losing that fat in the middle is a fucking bitch...a fucking bitch I say! Aaaaarrrrgggghhhhh! I dont know how guys who lose a lot of weight can do it. I get hungry and then it's fuck this shit, I'm gonna eat

    ...any other questions?
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:42 PM GMT
    Nope... The first thing i think of when i see a fat guy is "lazy". I can't deal with lazy, it's the second most unattractive quality a man can have.
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:45 PM GMT
    I have a really hard time with fat people. More than 10# over normal, and I dont' find you attractive.

    I even have a problem with fat people in public...well, obese is probably a better term. I feel horrible for them, and wonder why in the world they don't change some things...



    Wonder why I don't like fat people...

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    the above was not meant...don't like - as in don't want to talk with...but as in, don't want to date...see my further post later for more explanation
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:48 PM GMT
    i'll second stripper

    being thin/buff/muscular takes self control and dedicaiton. diet control and exercise are also imperative to good health and if a guy doesn't want himself to be healthy, how can i expect our relationship to be?

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    Jul 23, 2008 7:49 PM GMT
    I find fat guys pretty disgusting - like drunks. I've heard far too many fat guys waste everyone's time in the office telling us all about it - oh yeah, they know exactly what is what with nutrition and exercise. They are getting a trainer and that 100 pounds will be off in no time! Right. Never happens.....all we have is mere conversation.

    I think if I had a drinking problem or a fat problem, it didn't happen over night. It would be up to me to get off my ass and clean up my act right now.
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:56 PM GMT
    Meh - I race in duathlons. That answer the question?
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:57 PM GMT
    I can find a larger man emotionally attractive, sure. But physically attractive? No. I like my men lean but muscled. Hell, maybe it's the curse and bane of our gay culture, but I barely find myself tolerably lean, and even that changes on a daily basis.
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:58 PM GMT
    NO!
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:58 PM GMT
    zdrew saidI can find a larger man emotionally attractive, sure. But physically attractive? No. I like my men lean but muscled. Hell, maybe it's the curse and bane of our gay culture, but I barely find myself tolerably lean, and even that changes on a daily basis.


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    Jul 23, 2008 7:59 PM GMT
    Ouch! This thread is really getting rough. Has it gotten to the point that since it's not PC to bash gays, races and religions we're aiming for the fat people?

    To answer your question, paerva, I'm typically not attracted to "fat" guys, but I'm not offended by them either. However, I believe that there's a lid for every pot, and there are thousands of guys that prefer overweight guys.
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:59 PM GMT
    Beyond being a taste issue, I think this is also a question of semantics. Like there's a point at which fat is unquestionably hugely fat. But then there's guys like me. No six-pack, but instead sporting a masculine man-paunch/belly.

    And StripperRocco is a little off-base, because I'm not lean, but I'm FAR from lazy. I bust my ass at the gym at least five days a week. Ride my bike, stairmaster 30-45 minutes at a stretch, lift hard. I get sweaty from exertion, not from wolfing down donuts. That said, I'm still "obese" by BMI standards. I'm endomorphic and while I can trim down, I'll never have a "swimmers build".

    And Caslon is certainly right, it's a pain in the ass to get weight off the middle (god knows I try), and he managed to do it without posting a pic of a lolcat. (j/k)

    I think it's better to draw as succinct a line as possible between stocky/beefy (unquestionably hot) and fat (the lazy kind that Stripper was talking about).

    Of course, for my taste, thick muscular is best. And thankfully my muscular guy likes my masculine paunch, which is officially my new term for my gut, because it sounds so much better. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:01 PM GMT
    A little overweight- I can deal with if the guy is truly trying to lose weight ( exercise, diet). Obese and making an afternoon of McDonald's, uh.....no. No respect for that person at all. And please don't give me your lip service as well.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    Staying thin isn't always about dedication, sometimes it's just genetics. As for me, I think anywhere in the healthy weight range is fine. Just because your body fat percentage isn't below 10 doesn't mean that you are unhealthy.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:03 PM GMT
    sluggo_la saidOuch! This thread is really getting rough. Has it gotten to the point that since it's not PC to bash gays, races and religions we're aiming for the fat people?

    To answer your question, paerva, I'm typically not attracted to "fat" guys, but I'm not offended by them either. However, I believe that there's a lid for every pot, and there are thousands of guys that prefer overweight guys.


    No... because for the most part a fat person can control that, or take steps to change that. We can't change our race, etc.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:04 PM GMT
    StripperRocco said
    sluggo_la saidOuch! This thread is really getting rough. Has it gotten to the point that since it's not PC to bash gays, races and religions we're aiming for the fat people?

    To answer your question, paerva, I'm typically not attracted to "fat" guys, but I'm not offended by them either. However, I believe that there's a lid for every pot, and there are thousands of guys that prefer overweight guys.


    No... because for the most part a fat person can control that, or take steps to change that. We can't change our race, etc.


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    Jul 23, 2008 8:05 PM GMT
    StripperRocco said
    sluggo_la saidOuch! This thread is really getting rough. Has it gotten to the point that since it's not PC to bash gays, races and religions we're aiming for the fat people?

    To answer your question, paerva, I'm typically not attracted to "fat" guys, but I'm not offended by them either. However, I believe that there's a lid for every pot, and there are thousands of guys that prefer overweight guys.


    No... because for the most part a fat person can control that, or take steps to change that. We can't change our race, etc.


    okay, perhaps not race, but people can change their religion, and a lot of these religious fanatics think we can change being gay. i just have a problem with anyone making sweeping generalizations about an entire group of people. I dated a professional body builder many years ago, and I thought he was the fuckin' laziest guy I'd ever met. Aside from working out, all he did was eat and sit on the couch the rest of the day. So for 4 or 5 hours a day he was actually did something.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:05 PM GMT
    I like em' beefy. A little stomach is fine but there should be some muscle on other parts of your body.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:06 PM GMT
    Generally I like men who are a little bigger than me (I'm a pretty small guy) but not HUGE!
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:16 PM GMT
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    StripperRocco said
    sluggo_la saidOuch! This thread is really getting rough. Has it gotten to the point that since it's not PC to bash gays, races and religions we're aiming for the fat people?

    To answer your question, paerva, I'm typically not attracted to "fat" guys, but I'm not offended by them either. However, I believe that there's a lid for every pot, and there are thousands of guys that prefer overweight guys.


    No... because for the most part a fat person can control that, or take steps to change that. We can't change our race, etc.


    okay, perhaps not race, but people can change their religion, and a lot of these religious fanatics think we can change being gay.


    Well then i guess it's all about changing habits and mind sets then isn't it.

    Sorry but i'm going to be brutally and completely honest on this one.

    I used to be a fatty, and it wasnt until i changed my life and stepped into a ballet class and started eating right and being mindful of it that that changed.

    Do i find fat men attractive is the original question. No i dont and i presented my reasoning as to why. Plain and simple, in my mind, i equate fat with lazy. If that offends you or disturbs you, there is nothing i can do about that.

    I have many a fat friend, indeed my 2 best friends are fat, and i've shared my mind with them regarding their physical state, once, and only once. It is then up to them if they want to make life changes. Are THEY lazy? when it comes to eating and fitness yes, life in general, not really.

    Furthermore i teach in a gym and my class is filled pretty much with a lot of Sally Soccer-Moms who are... well... fat. Do i think they are lazy when they step into my class. The first week, yep, the second week, not so much, the third week... they are hooked and i look forward to seeing their transformation.

    Maybe I'm a goosecock for voicing my opinion and NOT caring what people think, but i'd rather be lonely out on this limb, than meekly stand by with my arms crossed looking at the ground while other people lived honestly in their thoughts and convictions.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:22 PM GMT
    Personally, I'm not a chubby chaser, but I have friends who like a "beefier" guy. It's good to know there is someone out there for everyone.

    I have a lot of chubby friends and they all bitch and moan about their (fat)condition whilst continuing to sit on their asses; eat lots of fries and fast food; drink lots of beer. I figure if I am disciplined enough to get myself into shape, then I deserve someone who has that same discipline and self-control.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    i'm glad you got that all off your chest, rocco, but to be quite honest, yours isn't the post with which i had the most trouble reading.
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:24 PM GMT
    sluggo_la saidi'm glad you got that all off your chest, rocco, but to be quite honest, yours isn't the post with which i had the most trouble reading.


    Eh... i just wanted to make sure i clarified icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    come on guys. Great question for this site. icon_rolleyes.gif

    When I was fat, I was disgusted with myself. I would have never expected anyone to find me attractive. Except for the weirdo's with some fetish, and rather be miserable by myself than someone's fetish.

    Simply put MOST people are fat because of lifestyle choices. It's really easy to get fat. It's hard to be in shape and keep that dedication.

    In regards to the question. I am attracted to what I aspire to become. I could/would never go back to that lifestyle. It's miserable.

    And this thread needed this:

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