How to tell your best straight-best friend you have a crush on him.

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    Aug 07, 2007 8:20 AM GMT
    Well, i'm in bit of a situation....you see i'm working with this guy and over the months i've become very close to him. He is very cute...a bit short tampered ..yeah..but i'm very fond of him know. And the worst thing is that everytime i see him with someone else...er... espcially girls, i get really jealous and mad too,which becomes so hard to cope with since we work togather.

    So guys what's the best thing i should do?? I've already sent him teasing texts..like " i can give you a blowjob anytime" a couple of times...also asked him out but he never says anything, just guises away. And lately we don't talk that much...but i still like him so much...
  • GQjock

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    Aug 07, 2007 10:58 AM GMT
    This has disaster written all over it my man...
    if you've made disguised passes at him and nothing happened I'd keep it hidden or else you'll lose a friend..there's plenty of real gay guys out there
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    Aug 07, 2007 2:57 PM GMT
    I'd be really careful about your communication with him. Offering oral sex to a coworker is very risky. What if he becomes offended and turns you in for harrassment? You could lose your job. You say you ghuys haven't been speaking lately. Perhaps he's trying to avoid you.

    If you know he is straight, why would you want to persue him further? He's not interested in you that way.

    Also seems that you may be getting lust confused with love. Remember that they are very different from each other and losing your job because you're horny for someone just isn't worth it.

    Good luck.
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 07, 2007 3:07 PM GMT
    Leave the straight guy alone. You need to be respectful to his sexuality. Eventhough he is gay there no guranteed he will return your feeling.

    There so many goodlooking, hot , darn sexy straight guys at my office. They are off limit, I leave them alone just like I leave those beautiful girls alone.

    Be careful. You might lose you job, or end up with a broken nose or black eyes.
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    Aug 07, 2007 3:17 PM GMT
    By yourself. With music playing really loud. Far far far away from him.
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    Aug 07, 2007 4:37 PM GMT
    agree w/everyone - don't even dare approach him with a blow job offer. i guarantee it will get ugly. especially at work. don't even hint. put your carnal energies elsewhere. don't fantasize about him. when you do - stop and switch to some other guy like gerard butler.
  • art_smass

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    Aug 07, 2007 4:39 PM GMT
    You could invite him onto a talk show to tell him that you're his secret crush. I've heard that always works out for the best!
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    Aug 07, 2007 10:02 PM GMT

    Leave the straight guy alone.

    Ask yourself why you are so attracted to someone who can't possibly reciprocate. Is it because he is unavailable?

    Under no conditions should you tell him you have a crush on him unless you want to loose his friendship forever.

    And what the hell - your working with this guy? And "teasing texts..like " i can give you a blowjob anytime""?

    Dude - that's called sexual harassment.

    You are lucky he hasn't complained about you yet, and that you haven't lost your job.

    Find someone else to admire, and get it together.

    R





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    Aug 07, 2007 10:11 PM GMT
    Leave him alone. At the very least, the world doesn't need another homophobe, which you risk turning him into (and maybe his friends too, once he tells them what happened).

    That being said, you'd have far more serious things to worry about (see previous replies).
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    Aug 07, 2007 10:14 PM GMT
    ...in fact, his recent distance may indicate something else. Namely that HR is already aware of the issue and has told him to keep his distance while they decide a course of action.
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    Aug 07, 2007 10:18 PM GMT
    Permission to giggle, Captain
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    Aug 07, 2007 10:26 PM GMT
    I'd agree with all the comments here. He's straight. Stop making a fool of yourself. Sounds like he's embarrassed by the attention.

    You need to move your focus away from him. Take up a hobby, like knitting or or embroidery. That'll take your mind off things.
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    Aug 07, 2007 11:19 PM GMT
    Declaring your 'crush' maybe one thing..... yes, it takes self-respect and courage to let another human-being know your TRUE feelings,......txting an unsolicted sexual act IS har-ass-ment (even if in 'fun').

    Please, reconsider your position, life may not be easy at present - but its better than not having your best straight-best friend at all.

    Tell him straight.
    Stop the harrassment.
    Respect your mate.

    Cheers and Good-luck, bro.





  • GQjock

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    Aug 08, 2007 9:54 PM GMT
    look at it this way....

    say a str8 female co-worker has the hots for you at work and is constantly dropping passes at you
    ...how would you take that?
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    Aug 21, 2007 8:25 AM GMT
    To all the guys...thanks for your responds. Almost all of you accused me of sexual harrasement. But i didn't tell you all that once we've been very close...would always pull each others shirts, punch each other as a joke...send each other poems...poke each other here and there...and all this continued to happen even after i sent him several sensual messages. Some of our friends even became so jealous of our closiness.

    Oh...he already nows i really fancy him and yeah he could've told other mates but he didn't...and i also heard from a female friend that he once took gay man out to a club, who gave him a BJ..coz that gayman told her so..but now we're just colleagues...i know when to keep my distance...but really thanks for your inputs.
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    Aug 21, 2007 8:52 AM GMT
    and now the rumors begin. walk away from it now bro. youre just asking for a problem. For any you know that clit could be daggling you since shes knows how you feel for him. i hate saying it like that but Ive seen it. Sure there are some straight guys that have their fun with gay guys and maybe things like that happen but dont let your hopes of getting in his pants get in your way or work or for that matter a possibly great and long lasting friendship. If you think its bad now if you arent talking as much, wait till he's out of the picture all together. Then youll really be crying.
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 21, 2007 12:12 PM GMT
    In that case, you are misleading us all. You are having a crush on a bisexual guy, not a straight guys.
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    Aug 21, 2007 12:29 PM GMT
    Something as important as this should have had a more thorough initial post. What were you expecting from this board after telling only half the story? Probably less of a solution than some kind of validation for ???
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    Aug 21, 2007 1:37 PM GMT
    I still think a giggle was the most appropriate response. Teehee.
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    Aug 23, 2007 7:42 AM GMT
    Thanks guys...i get it!! anyone of you interested!! let me know.