would you rather love or be loved?

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    May 22, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    if you have to pick one which would you choose?

    As for me I rather be loved cus I love the feeling of having someone's attentionicon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 22, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    Both. There is an interdependency that true love can only express coming from both people in the relationship. You remove love from one of the people, it becomes a lesser version of love. I'd rather have both, though I could "settle icon_rolleyes.gif" for being loved the next time around...
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    May 22, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    Good question.

    I haven't really felt either, but I would have to go with loving someone else. I could handle the lack of reciprocation because I'm used to it, and good at denying myself pleasure. Besides, it's a good feeling to love/like someone. Part of a full, healthy life.
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    May 22, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    I can't see myself loving someone when they don't love me back. I'm thinking it's a hand-to-hand situation icon_smile.gif
  • Karl

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    May 22, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
    Both.
    But if there's only one choice.
    I rather be loved.
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    May 22, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    Being loved by someone and not loving that person back, best feeling ever! An ego boost if there ever was one. icon_cool.gif
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    May 23, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
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    May 23, 2012 7:17 AM GMT
    I'd rather love.
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    May 23, 2012 7:21 AM GMT
    I think only being able to have one or the other would be awful. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 23, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    I refuse to waste my time loving someone who doesn't love me back so I guess I rather be loved then show love.
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    May 23, 2012 10:20 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidI refuse to waste my time loving someone who doesn't love me back so I guess I rather be loved then show love.


    This..

    I'm tired of myself falling in love in a 1 way street..
    It's time for others to love me! icon_smile.gif
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    May 23, 2012 12:42 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidLove doesn't exist. So I'd rather lust.

    This makes sense.
  • Lincsbear

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    May 23, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
    If I had to choose one it would be to love.
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    May 24, 2012 12:21 AM GMT

    I don't know if anyone remembers the Nicolas Cage movie Adaptation. It wasn't exactly a major motion picture, but it had this one great line: "You are what you love, not what loves you." So yeah, I'd rather love.
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    May 24, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    i rather be feared.

    i want to walk into a room and have everyone fall to there kneesicon_twisted.gif
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    May 24, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    Love & lust, very different things. I think it's actually kind of hard to really love someone without being loved in return. "In love" is a 2-way street; & solitary lust, in either direction, is a dead end.
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    May 24, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    I need both. Can't have one without the other!
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    May 24, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
    You can have one without the other. It's a very difficult state to make stable, but it's doable with time and a lot of emotional sorting.
  • Scorpio1113

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    May 25, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    I'd rather have both, but if I had to pick one? Tough question. I like to give. I like to take care of the guy I am with. So I have no problems loving, but if it isn't returned then I won't want to do it anymore. But if I am th one getting all the love, that allows room for the other guy to label me as unappreciative and selfish. If I know that I would want feelings returned, why would I want to be loved? So I need both icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 25, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    I'd rather be loved, I'm selfish that way. Besides the whole unrequited love thing is too dramatic for my taste.
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    May 25, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    I would rather be loved because I know they love me because I love them. Thats alot of loving...
    "To love someone is madness, to be loved by someone is a gift, loving someone who loves you is a duty, but being loved by someone whom you love is life."
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    May 25, 2012 4:39 AM GMT

    This topic is reminding me of this very old song:



    "There was a boy
    A very strange enchanted boy
    They say he wandered very far, very far
    Over land and sea
    A little shy
    And sad of eye
    But very wise
    Was he

    And then one day
    A magic day he came my way
    And while we spoke of many things, fools and kings
    This he said to me
    "The greatest thing
    You'll ever learn
    Is just to love
    And be loved
    In return"

    (instrumental interlude)

    "The greatest thing
    You'll ever learn
    Is just to love
    And be loved
    In return"