Does he like me? Should I call him?


  • May 22, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    So me and my two girlfriends went to a bar for karoke friday night. We all three go every friday for karoke and drinks. So this guy comes over and introduces him self, we talked whole night. He followed me everywhere, he says hes noticed me everytime and always thought i was cute. I was like thinking to myself this guys probaly another as***hole/whoree. So he gave me his number, i gave him mine.

    then saturday next night he texted me begged me to come out to see him, i said no was exhausted from work, and it was late.

    then sunday he texted me and said would you like to see a movie or dinner today? So we went to a restaurant at night. went great. he paid for me which makes me think who would do that for just anyone. but this wasnt a date i dont think because we talked about dating and we both like to be friends first and get to know each other. Then after dinner he said you want to go home now or.....I said up too you something else you want to do. He took me for a walk in the park by the water. I took that as a sign he liked me too.

    anyways when i got home that night. i sent text (((had great time tonight. thanks for dinner, my turn next time take you out. anyways goodnight talk to you later))

    its now tuesday 2 days later no text/call from him????? whats going on?? will he contact me sooner or later??? I heard guys will wait 3 days or so not too look desperate haha. but im sooo nervous i cant stop thinking if hes going to get in touch with me again!

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    May 22, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    This sounds like a classic situation icon_smile.gif
    What you need to do is find out where he lives, spray paint extremely vulgar language on his garage door (if he doesn't have one then a window would be fine) then finally make a doll that looks like you and a doll that looks like him and fuse/stitch/melt together and place it on his doorstep.

    I just had to, lol. But seriously, give him another day or so. If nothing happens then just send a smiley text or take it as a sign of friendship and nothing else.
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    May 22, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    He might very well like you. Do you know him well enough to determine if he's one of those peeps that is never available during the work week? Or just bad with responding to texts?

    Give it a little more time, you just never know...
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    May 22, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
    You told him that you would organise the next dinner and that you would talk to him later. Sounds like it's your turn to make the next move, because he has been chasing you quite a bit already.

    Anyway, you said that you want to be friends first before dating, but if you are nervous and cant stop thinking if hes going to get in touch, then it sounds like you are ready to call this dating.
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    May 22, 2012 9:20 PM GMT
    Stuttershock saidYou told him that you would organise the next dinner and that you would talk to him later. Sounds like it's your turn to make the next move, because he has been chasing you quite a bit already.

    Anyway, you said that you want to be friends first before dating, but if you are nervous and cant stop thinking if hes going to get in touch, then it sounds like you are ready to call this dating.
    Game, set and match!

    Get off your ass and ask him out.
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    May 22, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    He put enough effort in making the first several meetings, he feels like it's your turn to do it now. So step up and do something if you like him. Or maybe he met someone else he's head over heels with and forget about you already? hehe just a thought. icon_eek.gif
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    May 22, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    Italianchris92 saidSo me and my two girlfriends went to a bar for karoke friday night.
    Ya know, most straight guys WISH they could say that without being slapped by one of the girlfriends. icon_lol.gif
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    May 22, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    He went thru all that effort and u didnt put out. Thats the problem. Dont expect a txt from him after that.
  • LJay

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    May 22, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    Try again. You can always claim to owe him dinner. Mayb you texted to the wrong number and some little old lady is having hot flashes from the attention.
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    May 22, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidHe went thru all that effort and u didnt put out. Thats the problem. Dont expect a txt from him after that.


    I am inclined to agree with the hot Mr. Catfish. This guy seemed to have put forth alot of effort into getting you out on a date and potentially doing more. But almost everything before and during the date, to me, tells me you were keeping him at a distance. And that might have put him off a bit.

    Your text also didn't necessarily require a reply and in alot of ways, it would have given me the impression that you would make the next date request. So go for it and see what happens.
  • great_scott

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    May 23, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    catfish5 saidHe went thru all that effort and u didnt put out. Thats the problem. Dont expect a txt from him after that.


    Yeah but even if he had put out he probably wouldn't be hearing back from this guy if that's all he was after. Then he'd really feel played. icon_lol.gif

    Gay dating is about options. You need more choices. Why not put him on hold while he's got you on hold? Then if your available when/if he contacts you back, you can resume if you still feel like it.
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    May 23, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    Don't wait longer than a couple days. Call him.
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    May 23, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    great_scott said
    catfish5 saidHe went thru all that effort and u didnt put out. Thats the problem. Dont expect a txt from him after that.


    Yeah but even if he had put out he probably wouldn't be hearing back from this guy if that's all he was after. Then he'd really feel played. icon_lol.gif

    Gay dating is about options. You need more choices. Why not put him on hold while he's got you on hold? Then if your available when/if he contacts you back, you can resume if you still feel like it.


    If the sex was mindblowing, u better believe the dude would txt him again. If the sex was blah, prolly not.
  • great_scott

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    May 23, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    catfish5 said
    great_scott said
    catfish5 saidHe went thru all that effort and u didnt put out. Thats the problem. Dont expect a txt from him after that.


    Yeah but even if he had put out he probably wouldn't be hearing back from this guy if that's all he was after. Then he'd really feel played. icon_lol.gif

    Gay dating is about options. You need more choices. Why not put him on hold while he's got you on hold? Then if your available when/if he contacts you back, you can resume if you still feel like it.


    If the sex was mindblowing, u better believe the dude would txt him again. If the sex was blah, prolly not.


    Even if he is a good lay, it's all about the next mindblowing experience with guys. But I guess a mindblowing hummer probably would've increased the likelihood of a call back.
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 23, 2012 12:47 AM GMT
    I'm with catfish. He's just a slut who was looking for something less longterm.
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 23, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    no, that whole you calling him thing? Is that the start of a relationship? He's neady and can't call you. Screams welfare recipient. You need a hot man with a 6 figure income if you're that cute.
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    May 23, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I just met you,
    And this is crazy,
    But here's my number,
    So call me, maybe?
  • CarbGoggles

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    May 23, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    7Famark saidI just met you,
    And this is crazy,
    But here's my number,
    So call me, maybe?

    BAHAHAHA FLAWLZ!! OP you should hit him up and start planning dinner. It's not desperate to ask him for some inputs on what type of food he likes and what not. This time, I'd at least hold his hand or show him that you are interested in being more than just friends. If that is the case... Don't send mixed signals. That shit will get your ass cut.

  • May 23, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    Wow plenty of different types ofresponses haha. ughh why is dating so hard haha. and i wouldnt say hes just some guy that was looking for sex, or whatnot. at least i hope not. now i havent dated alot, and im really picky, but ive never met anyone as sweet/respectful as him. and hes extremely adorable, and 26 yrs old (8yrs older) Like seriously he dressed all nice. made eye contact whole night smiled and laughed at everything. paid. walk in park just everything i mean....all i know is ill give it one more day which will be three days if not ill ask him to go to dinner and movies for this weekend.

    oh and he also invited me to go to his beachhouse party for 4th july and to take my girlfriends. when we were talking. i dont know but ill ask him by twomorrow night.

  • TheBizMan

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    May 23, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    intensity69 saidHe might very well like you. Do you know him well enough to determine if he's one of those peeps that is never available during the work week? Or just bad with responding to texts?

    Give it a little more time, you just never know...

    I'm usually never available during the work week....but then again I'm not looking for a relationship per se
  • Steven791

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    May 24, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    You did say you would take him out for dinner for the next date, so he's probably waiting to hear back from you. it sounds like he is pretty interested to me. if he was just looking to 'get some' when you declined after dinner he probably would left and not wanted to hang around with you some more. if you decide to wait the three days if you haven't heard anything then i would definitely hit him up, something like 'hey what do you think about dinner on ___?'

  • May 24, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    So i texted him tonight ( hi how are you doing)
    hour later he said (hey im doing good you?)
    I said ( what are you doing this weekend)
    2 hours later (dunno)
    I said ( well come out with me. are you free friday?)
    And that was it for today/tonight.

    I dont know what to think is he losing interest! at first i had no interest! in him! i ignored text! begged me to go out! he really liked me! now its like the opposite! ughh! maybe he will text me twomorrow.....im trying here. dont know what to do.....i just dont get it he was so into me.....and now its 12:27 at night and i cant go to sleepp ughhh!!!!
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    May 24, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    This sounds familiar because I'm on the other end of my situation. He wants you to call him so if you like him, call him, damn it.

  • May 24, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos saidThis sounds familiar because I'm on the other end of my situation. He wants you to call him so if you like him, call him, damn it.


    everyones saying different things dont know what to do!
    Im too nervous to call him!! ughh!! and what if theres a possibility im wrong about everything! or if calling hims too much!!! im thinking too much I dont know.
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    May 24, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    ummm.....maybe he's interested in your girlfriends?