Help Getting Started: Workouts, Protein, dos and don'ts in the gym.. etc

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    May 23, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    I recently started dating a very fit guy. I am not obese or anything I am just a bit bigger than I want to be. I really just want to tone up and get some definition because I am already a bigger built guy. I feel like he deserves a fit guy and I need to get back in good shape

    I need help getting started in the gym without someone there telling me what to do. Can someone give me some direction? Workouts, protein, dos and don'ts in the gym
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    May 23, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    Have you researched under the Topics tab and Workout Plans tab above? RJ is awesome for the info and exercise vids it has.

    The workout plans give you 12-week, day by day schedules of what to do.
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    May 23, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    Yeah I checked it out. I am really just looking for some straight forward advice about gyms and what to do and what not to do.. Need to edit my post ha
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    May 23, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    What are your goals?
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    May 23, 2012 6:49 PM GMT
    Try a gram of protein per pound of body weight and a gram of carbs per pound of body weight. If you're still not losing weight reduce your carbs. As far as workouts, anything you do will probably work for you if you're a beginner.
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    May 23, 2012 6:49 PM GMT
    I am looking to tone down and get definition. No weight goal. Really just work off the mid section and get everything tight and toned. My arms, shoulders, legs are in good shape.
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    May 23, 2012 7:00 PM GMT
    Okay- how would you describe your bone structure? Are you big-boned, skinny or average? Put your fingers around your wrist and if it's bigger around, you're big-boned.
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    May 23, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    My bone structure is just average
  • GWriter

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    May 23, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    Don't over think it. Just go to the gym and start. Cut the crappy, processed food out of your diet and eat more good protein (non-processed meat, poultry, seafood). Use one of the workout plans on here to get started. That's what they are for.
    Good luck!
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    May 23, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    CollegeBro89 saidMy bone structure is just average
    Thanks. Given your stats, I'd honestly start trying to figure out how many calories you should eat, but eat 180 g protein per day spread over multiple meals, rather than the three you and I grew up with. However, I am getting ahead of myself. What you should do first is to find an exercise routine; do cardio AND lift because your body will transform faster. I hope that helps.
  • musicdude

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    May 23, 2012 7:16 PM GMT
    i have a app on my iphone called MyFit. it has a variety of work out routines you can do depending on your skill set and goals. some of them are excellent for beginners. i think they'd suit you well. (if you have a iphone that is)
  • Lincsbear

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    May 23, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    Lots of good advice above about RJ resources.

    Start doing some light cardio (walking, jogging, cycling, swimming) to begin with. It`ll strengthen you generally, heart, lungs, circulation, bones, etc.-all good whatever you decide to do extra.

    It should begin to burn off any fat in your midsection as well, and make you look more defined and muscled.

    Make sure you drink plenty of fluid when working out (water is fine). Also, rest between workouts to gain the most benefit from them(this is the other side of being fit that sometimes gets forgotten!)

    Best wishes!

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    May 23, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    CollegeBro89 saidYeah I checked it out. I am really just looking for some straight forward advice about gyms and what to do and what not to do.. Need to edit my post ha

    Forget it. You're too lazy.
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    May 23, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    the truth is that there is no easy fool-proof way. what you're looking for doesn't exist, because each person is different (different body type, different metabolism, different starting points, different motivations, different goals). there is fitness science, and proven methods, but the challenge is finding what will work best for your individual situation. none of us can tell you what that magic combination is, because we don't know you personally, you have no pics or stats, and it would be irresponsible to advise you without that information.

    my advice:

    1) Join a gym that's nearby to where you live or work - so you have no excuse not to go! You have to commit to going, even on the rainy nights, the cold winter days, or sunny summer evenings when you just want to down a bunch of beers and eat burgers.
    2) Hire a personal trainer for a short time - not just the biggest guy in the gym, but a professional who you feel comfortable with. Discuss your fitness goals frankly (e.g. i want to look good naked, i want to lose the spare tire, i want to have awesome arms, i want to run a marathon, whatever). Get them to create a 3-4 day per week workout plan for you and supervise you for a week or two, so you know the routine, the machines, the exercises. Then you go off on your own to follow the workout plan for the next 2 months. Schedule a follow-up meeting with the trainer after the 2 months to assess your progress. Adjust the plan if necessary.
    3) Consider a nutritionist/dietician if you need some help with big weight loss goals.
  • gwuinsf

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    May 23, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    Why don't you suggest that you start working out with your new guy and ask him to help you get started?
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    May 23, 2012 9:54 PM GMT
    GWriter saidDon't over think it. Just go to the gym and start. Cut the crappy, processed food out of your diet and eat more good protein (non-processed meat, poultry, seafood). Use one of the workout plans on here to get started. That's what they are for.
    Good luck!


    ^what he said...Basically as long as you commit to eating healthy and staying active you should be fine; I'd say start with some full body workouts and make sure you're not pussin out on them.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 23, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    The OP is obviously too lazy to actually follow through, otherwise he'd be asking his "fit" boyfriend for advice instead of using up our valuable forum space.