Scrawny guy incapable of building muscle... Desperate for change.

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    Jul 24, 2008 10:09 AM GMT
    After six months of going to the gym, my body simply refuses to change. I was 6ft 155lbs in January and I'm 160lbs now. Most, if not all of that 5 pound increase is body fat that resulted from stuffing my face constantly for calories.

    I go to the gym consistently, I consume 150+ grams of protein per day, and I eat 2500+ calories per day.
    WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON? WHY ISN'T MY BODY RESPONDING?

    I feel like such a fucking loser every time I step foot in the weight room. I'm constantly surrounded by hot, worked-out, college bodies. Every other male my age has the ability to achieve a lean, muscular, athletic build. Imagine that? Work out, watch your diet, and enjoy a defined, muscular physique! Must be nice to be a normal man!

    I on the other hand, bust my ass 3-4 times a week and get nothing but mental anguish in return. The days following a hard workout, I might be little bit sore... but that's it. No new muscle mass, no increased strength or definition... NOTHING. Weeks and months go by and I'm right where I started, except with a fatter stomach and bigger ass on my small frame.

    Why don't I have the ability to build muscle like my normal, twenty-something male peers? Am I really just genetically inferior? Doomed to be scrawny and out of shape? What a fucking tragedy... icon_sad.gif

    Seeing all the profile pictures of good-looking, masculine guys on this site brings me to tears. Guys 5 years younger than me look more masculine and better built. icon_cry.gif

    Me:
    23, 6ft, ~160lbs, ~10-15% body fat, SMALL FRAME LIKE A 12 YEAR OLD GIRL.
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    Jul 24, 2008 3:27 PM GMT
    post your diet, your work-out regiment and a bod pic. Could be many things...
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    Jul 24, 2008 3:43 PM GMT
    When did you start working out? It doesn't happen overnight, captain. Yeah, tell us about the routine
  • vince_the_cyc...

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    Jul 24, 2008 3:47 PM GMT
    You might be surprised to find out how much you have to EAT to gain muscle with a fast metabolism! What's your diet like? Are you tracking Cals, protein, etc?
  • auryn

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    Jul 24, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    Get into video games and watching tv. Also, super size everything and drink lots of blended coffee drinks with whole milk. If you sit on your ass and eat junk food, you'll gain weight in no time. Then, you'll just have to work on losing the weight. icon_wink.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jul 24, 2008 4:17 PM GMT
    2500 calories a day is nothing, that is not even close to stuffing your face.

    I'm leaning down now - purposefully trying to lose weight so I can be more cut - and I am eating 2300 calories per day.

    You need to be eating in the area of 4000 calories a day.
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    Jul 24, 2008 4:25 PM GMT
    Be glad you're lean. Just keep working out, and make sure your calories are healthy calories. A man's body doesn't start to come into its own until your 30's (just look at some of the hot bods on Real Jock in their 30's, even 40's and beyond. I'd bet many of those dudes would tell you that they look better now then then they did in their 20's), so keep working and look forward to getting better and better. I was super scrawny in my 20's, now at 35 I have beefed up but it didn't happen overnight. Took years of dedication.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Jul 24, 2008 4:25 PM GMT
    I side with the others that say we need to know more about your routine. What exercises are you doing? How many reps and how many sets? What weights? Are you giving your muscles sufficient rest between working them out? What does your cardio look like? How often do you change the exercises? How often do you change the weights?

    One of the hardest things for me to come to grips with when I was really trying to put on some weight--and all I've managed to do is get up to nearly where you are now from my previous point ~20-25 pounds lighter--was that too much effort could be counter productive.

    As a natural ectomorph, you'll need to accept that adding muscle is a lot harder for you than for many guys. Take a look at your goals, and aim for thoroughly realistic ones at first: get to be able to bench press your body weight, for example, or do 10 pull-ups, or whatever you want along those lines. That way you can track your progress, and feel like you're working towards something specific. Don't make weighing a certain amount your goal.

    And, as hard as it seems, focus on yourself, not the hot guy the next bench over. Maybe he's genetically lucky, or maybe he's been lifting weights for 6 years. And maybe 10 years from now when most guys go through a metabolic slow down he's going to be the one envying you. You really don't know. What you do know is what effort you've been putting in, and whether you're making progress. Celebrate any advancement you make, and make it a journey of a thousand tiny steps, not 10 gigantic ones.
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    Jul 24, 2008 4:29 PM GMT
    innerathlete said2500 calories a day is nothing, that is not even close to stuffing your face.

    I'm leaning down now - purposefully trying to lose weight so I can be more cut - and I am eating 2300 calories per day.

    You need to be eating in the area of 4000 calories a day.


    Keep in mind these need to be healthy calories...not junk food calories.

    palikari saidpost your diet, your work-out regiment and a bod pic. Could be many things...


    Exactly. We need more info.
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    Jul 24, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    Dude, I just read your profile....DON'T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF! One thing you need to do is work on your self image. Thinking you are SOOOO Ugly that no one would ever want you and putting that in writing for everyone to see is no way to feel about yourself! Definitely stop comparing yourself to everyone else in the gym. They are them, you are you. You don't know how they got where they are today so don't beat yourself up with it.

    Everyone who has posted so far as said something that is true and without more information on what you are currently doing, it's really hard to give you advice.

    I tell you what, I'll extend you an offer. If you can get to the gym where I train and you can come up with a nominal amount of money to cover my gym fees plus a little prep and planning time (email me and I'll let you know) I'll sit down with you and go over your diet, give you some nutritional guidelines, maybe recommend some supplements if they are warranted and train you for six sessions to teach you new exercises and proper form and plan out a routine for you based on your goals. I understand you're in school and probably don't have a lot of extra cash for a trainer but I can get you started in the right direction.

    You can take that a run with it for a while and I'm sure you'll see better results than you are getting now. You need to change things up periodically to keep things moving along but we can discuss that if you take me up on my offer.

    Let me know.
  • TexanMan82

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    Jul 24, 2008 5:08 PM GMT
    Eat. Then when you're full and can't eat anymore, eat more.

    It's pretty simple, really. There's no magic formula except: EAT, LIFT, SLEEP, REPEAT.

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    Jul 24, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    You sound like me at when I was your age. (Same height, weight and build.)
    Although (as all the previous posts before me have indicated) you need to give far more information before a solution can be given that's appropriate, you would be smart to take Scott (Shortnsexystud) up on his expert knowledge directly.

    I do know that, for me, the first year was very difficult with very few changes, but once things started to change, they were significant. Your attitude may be a great hindrance to your progression.
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    Jul 25, 2008 3:25 AM GMT
    I agree with ShorNSexyStud. You are being really hard on yourself. Look at all the support you are getting here. There are absolutely ripped people who are willing to help you out. And if you want some inspiration take a look at this thread in which super sexy Kharlo shows how he went from obese to cut in four years.

    And post us some info with a pic.
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    Aug 13, 2008 3:59 AM GMT
    I know the feeling, Wooden is full of bulked up gents, I'm trying to get to that point.

    Connexion.org/smatta (for results)
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    Aug 13, 2008 4:58 AM GMT
    Thing is not to give up - I quit a couple of times right after high school and during college. But I kept coming back. I remember thinking that everyone in the gym was staring at me like I was some kind of punk loser. Get past that, truth is, nobody is really paying that kind of attention to you. I see all ages and all body types at my gym and I usually think how cool it is to see all kinds of people working to be in better shape, whatever their goal. And be patient, as someone above me said, "it doesn't come overnight"...
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 13, 2008 5:24 AM GMT
    Relax you r young!! It took me until I was 25 to be able to gain any weight. I used to be 5'7 140 at age 19. At 22 I grew to 5'11 150 pounds. I started eating foods for an ectomorph about 3500 calories a day- good food not junk. Now I am still 5'11 but 175 30w. Be patient. Check with your Dr. make sure you don't have a food allergies like Celiac disease or Chrons disease. Good Luck. icon_smile.gif Post some pics for us.
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    Aug 13, 2008 3:38 PM GMT
    That's definitely a good approach
  • B71115

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    Aug 16, 2008 12:29 AM GMT
    I was 115 pounds in college. One hundred fifteen pounds. I THOUGHT I ate a lot, but I had no idea. What Texman82 said. Chicken, tuna, peanut butter, peanuts, protein shakes, eggs, lean beef. Eat SOMETHING every two hours (but don't get up from sleeping every two hours), even if it's just a bag of peanuts from a vending machine. Sure, there are better things, but you are probably busy and can't be so picky right now.

    Eat.
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    Aug 16, 2008 5:32 AM GMT
    You sound like an ectomorph. Naturally skinny and long limbed. You need to learn how to workout as an ectomorph. It is definitely not the same workout I would recommend for a mesomorph or endomorph. At all.

    You need to eat constantly. Boil a bunch of hard boiled eggs and eat one every hour. Great source of protein.

    Don't look at guys around you. It means nothing. How does that help you? Maybe for inspiration. Cool. But you are you. Unique.

    The other guys gave good advice so I will not duplicate. But do not do hundreds of sets and reps. Lift heavy, as heavy as you can. Then get out of the gym.

    JW