yourname2000 saidSays the guy with "private photos".
Jesus, ya can't even make this shit up sometimes.
I'll wager you're as inconspicuous in person as you are here. Time to listen to Katy's "Firework" song again....really listen this time.
I mean, I don't recall making this thread to have my looks judged. I gain nothing from lying about thinking I'm considered "good looking" so I really don't understand what your point is.
The point is BE PROUD of who you are.....radiate it. Make people wonder "who's that guy?" Don't skulk behind a pole at the bar or hidden photos and then wonder why people don't look at you. They're not looking at you because when you do that, you're TELLING them: "don't look at me."
This is marketing. So market yourself. You're not bad looking, and regardless, being interesting and someone people want to talk to/be around has very little to do with looks.
When I meet someone, I assume they are the ultimate authority on themselves. If they bleed "oh, I'm nothing special"...."I'm not really worth any of your attention" then I believe them 100% --I assume they know what they're talking about and treat them the way their words/deeds/actions say they want to be treated.
So get out on the dance floor. Smile. Say hello to strangers. Stare at someone and wink when they notice. Let any negative vibe just roll off your back like rain off a duck....those people are obviously retarded for not recognizing the fabulousness of you. Show people you're worth getting to know.....make it so they'd feel like they'd be losing out if they missed the opportunity to talk to you (and reward them with interesting conversation, a warm smile, and your mutual interest in them when they do.)
It's not rocket science. But NO ONE was born knowing this shit...you'll have to learn it (and practice it) like everyone else.
Very true and to the OP, I understand exactly how you feel---and how I react to it:
To many other guys, I'm "too" something. Either too old, too not in shape, too plain looking, too this, too that. Im virtually invisible, so it's a rare (but happy) moment when someone does check me out!
I am who I am. Can't change my looks, but working on getting in better shape. I smile and wink, flirt a little to see who is paying attention, remain well-read, stay (somewhat) current on popular culture and make every attempt to enjoy my life and (new) career. I say hello to guys all the time and if they don't want to say hello back or chat with me, it's their loss.
I don't give up and neither should you!