I just had my very first dildo experience today and it hurt like hell!!!

  • danwd172

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    May 27, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    I am still a virgin. The biggest things I've ever put in my ass are my fingers and the Aneros. I would like to know what it feels like when I'm bottoming, so I bought myself a dildo few days ago.

    I just had my very first dildo experience today. Unfortunately, I found it was difficult to get the dildo fully inside of my ass. I used plenty of lube, but it could only get in my anus about 2 inches deep and couldn't go any further. I tried to push it harder several times, but it was very painful and made me bleed. Findally, I gave up and felt very frustrated.

    The dildo is 6.6 inches lenth, 5.1 inches girth. I don't know it is because my ass was not loose enough or the dildo was just too big for my virgin ass.

    Sexually, I'm a bottom. I'm worried that the same problem will happen again when I finally have a chance to have my first bottoming experience.
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    May 28, 2012 6:15 AM GMT
    Can you elaborate some more on what a dildo cannot do icon_eek.gif
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    May 28, 2012 6:27 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidA dildo is not a dick (you bought too big of one, too, btw.) ...Cut yourself some slack. Give yourself lots of time next time to do your best to loosen yourself up. Keep using lots of lube. If it's too big still, go back to the store and buy a little buttplug to start with (buttplugs are more fun anyways...go for a bus ride somewhere bumpy. icon_wink.gif )

    Yeah, probably too big. Start with a slender dildo or plug, maybe no bigger around than 2 fingers. You didn't waste your money on the other one, you'll eventually be able to take it. And use a real sex lube, not some household cooking product or other substitute. Get a water-soluble, non-petroleum glycerin formula that's safe on latex condoms, same as you'll want when you bottom with a guy.
  • rnch

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    May 28, 2012 1:35 PM GMT
    Some guys (like me) are just not into toys....gotta have "The Real Thing" or not at all.



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  • danwd172

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    May 28, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidOh no. icon_eek.gif It sounds like "purple bung"....the gay man's equivelent to a "blue waffle" (note: do not google image "blue waffle" icon_eek.gif....you'll be scarred for life, ya kno, besides having purple bung, too.)
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    I just googled it icon_eek.gifand almost puked
  • danwd172

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    May 28, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    I called a straight buddy of mine, who told me that he had anal sex once with his ex girlfriend, and asked him did he find it difficult to tried to fucked his gf in her ass for the first time. He said yes and it took him a while to get his 7.5 inches cock completey inside of her ass. She ended up stopping him because it was too painful.

    To my surprise, he admitted that he had tried to get his ass fucked once...by a dildo icon_lol.gif cause he wanted to find out why his girlfriend stopped him? He failed to insert the dildo inside his ass like i did though.
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    May 28, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    Push out like you're taking shit when inserting the dildo. Of course, be sure your rectum is empty before pushing out or you will take a shit.
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    May 29, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    Dildos are usually a rubber material which absorbs the lube differently to human skin so it isn't going to be a smoother ride. And having a object that is solid as opposed to a hard dick that has a more spongy surface is always going to be harder to put in yourself. I learned that last week when with my first go at one.

    Use the dildo like you would a cock (use what you can get into you at first then work your way to getting it all) and the best way to get a cock deep into you is squatting on it, backing up on it doggy style (helps if you've got a suction cup one) and on your back with your knees to your chest.

    And pay attention to your body. If it hurts one way, try another, but slow and steady wins the race. And wait til you stop bleeding and feel in the mood before you try again. You don't have to stick with the dildo you've got (zucchini?).
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    May 29, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    Please post vid of you and the dildo. Make sure you show us how you are taking it so that we can give you a more informed opinion.
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    May 29, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    To OP, I recently did the exact thing as you. Over Xmas '11 I went toy shopping and bought myself a few things. I have found that if you squat (cheeks spread) then insert yr device it goes in so much easier, with lube of course!
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    May 29, 2012 8:15 AM GMT
    danwd172 saidI just had my very first dildo experience today and it hurt like hell!!!
    Video or it didn't happen.
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    May 29, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    GAMRican saidPlease post vid of you and the dildo. Make sure you show us how you are taking it so that we can give you a more informed opinion.

    So true. I know a guy who was left-handed and actually bought a right-handed dildo by mistake --they were right beside each other on the shelf! So anyway, he was just using it wrong, which was easy to point out to him when he showed us what he was doing.

    A vid would really help....pics at least. icon_neutral.gif


    OP: THIS! It's little nuances like this which can lead to situations which go horribly wrong. For your safety and future pleasure you must post video (with soundtrack). icon_lol.gif
  • danwd172

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    May 29, 2012 8:33 PM GMT
    OK, first of all, thank you guys for the useful and detailed suggestions. I'm going to buy a butt plug to help me loosen my thight hole.

    As for the video request....hmmmm...Sorry guys, I insist that the one who seeing me doing dirty thing first should be my first boyfriendicon_lol.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    May 30, 2012 6:37 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidOh no. icon_eek.gif It sounds like "purple bung"....the gay man's equivelent to a "blue waffle" (note: do not google image "blue waffle" icon_eek.gif....you'll be scarred for life, ya kno, besides having purple bung, too.)




    Just kiddin', dude. icon_smile.gif

    Really, how many things have you done well the first time you tried? icon_wink.gif ---I think the only thing I probably did right the first time was suckin' my mama's tit (and she may have just been lying about that when I asked her. icon_neutral.gif )

    Guys have been shoving their hard, throbbing dicks up each other's assholes for hundreds of thousands of years.....the rectum is about the same size as the average dick, nice and smooth, and has a little pleasure button (prostate!) tucked away up there just to make it even more fun. We were made for this. icon_twisted.gif

    A dildo is not a dick (you bought too big of one, too, btw.) A dildo doesn't make you suck it first until you're so earning for it, you'll do anything it says; it doesn't ream you out with more and more fingers, cooing encouragement with each stroke; it doesn't warn you that you'd better open up...push out...relax; it never bites you on the shoulder at just that right moment that causes you to arch your back, pushing your ass back onto it deeper; it doesn't hold onto you with tight warm arms, nibbling at your ear as it slowly pushes itself in until there's no further it can go; and it certainly doesn't then loosen you up with short strokes until you're ready to get pounded into a quivering mass of post-orgasmic jelly. A dildo can't do any of that. So don't equate your first experience with a dildo as some foreshadowing of what your first experience with a dick will be like.

    Cut yourself some slack. Give yourself lots of time next time to do your best to loosen yourself up. Keep using lots of lube. If it's too big still, go back to the store and buy a little buttplug to start with (buttplugs are more fun anyways...go for a bus ride somewhere bumpy. icon_wink.gif )

    And practice! practice! practice! icon_biggrin.gif


    So revealing! Hoticon_twisted.gif

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    May 30, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    GAMRican saidPlease post vid of you and the dildo. Make sure you show us how you are taking it so that we can give you a more informed opinion.

    So true. I know a guy who was left-handed and actually bought a right-handed dildo by mistake --they were right beside each other on the shelf! So anyway, he was just using it wrong, which was easy to point out to him when he showed us what he was doing.

    A vid would really help....pics at least. icon_neutral.gif


    There are "righthanded" and "lefthanded" dildos? For real?
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 30, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    sounds like u need the inflatable pump butt plug. Why not just wait until you meet someone you want to have sex with???
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    May 30, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    MuscleBadger said
    There are "righthanded" and "lefthanded" dildos? For real?
    Thats news to me too! icon_eek.gif
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    May 30, 2012 6:35 PM GMT
    they could end up right handed if you they curve from the direction of being held over time.,...

    i mean...theoretically

    not that i have any experience

    none......

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    Jun 02, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    I'm told that dildo created from a cast made from my cock... could conceivably be termed a left-handed dildo.








    *my cock has a rather distinct left-ward curve, lol...