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    May 27, 2012 6:51 PM GMT
    I recently took the biggest risk of my life: I took a plane across the United States to meet a man twice my age. We talked via webcam and telephone for about two months, and finally decided the time was right. The whole situation itself was very dangerous and silly of me, but I'm glad I did it.

    I have never been so happy in my entire life. I had the most amazing time connecting with this guy and exploring the area he lived in. He was totally non-pressuring and we hit it off right off the bat. I even had my first (and many after) kiss! Dear god we made out for hours (and other stuff too icon_twisted.gif

    It hit me last night when I returned home: I am happy. I noticed most people are really upset about age differences, race difference, or any differences. I'm sure all of you can relate: we're gay/bisexual here so we are automatically in the minority. Now start dating someone who can be your dad, someone who is a different skin color, or any other difference and you're talking about a minority within a minority

    It made me very upset that people can't be supportive of things like this. I can certainly see WHY but at the end of the day it all comes down to individual preference and individual happiness. SO many people have to justify WHY they are doing something instead of just letting it be.

    In such a short time I realized that. One day I will cease to exist and life will go on. I won't have time to look back and wonder what I did. The only thing I can do now is appreciate my time on Earth with other people. The way I look at it is as long as I'm living my life as a decent human being and not hurting anyone else in the process then it all comes down to my well being and happiness.

    I know this sounds like I'm trying to justify who I'm dating or what I'm doing. Maybe in a weird way I am, but I do want people to know how important personal happiness is. Appreciate the time you have now and realize tomorrow is never promised.

    Much love,

    Josh
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    May 27, 2012 7:07 PM GMT
    Growing up and maturing. Ah, I remember those days...
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    May 27, 2012 7:08 PM GMT
    Make sure you have a plan B, not saying you should expect to use it but it never hurts to have one icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 27, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    It's great you are feeling happiness.

    Don't pay attention to what others would do. Do what you want to do.
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    May 27, 2012 7:10 PM GMT


    Lucky bastard icon_wink.gif
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    May 27, 2012 7:12 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidJosh,

    You are one of the sweetest guys on here. I hope everything works out for you the way you'd like.


    Thank you, JP! You are one of the coolest people on these forums, seriously! icon_biggrin.gif

    sbwlguy saidGrowing up and maturing. Ah, I remember those days...


    Haha we never stop growing up and maturing until the day we die. If you're thinking you're winning.

    Claystation saidMake sure you have a plan B, not saying you should expect to use it but it never hurts to have one icon_biggrin.gif


    I always have a Plan B, Clay! And I'm not pregnant so that's a good thing! icon_twisted.gif

    ECnAZ saidIt's great you are feeling happiness.

    Don't pay attention to what others would do. Do what you want to do.


    Agreed completely! icon_biggrin.gif

    Waikiki said

    Lucky bastard icon_wink.gif


    I try, I try!
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    May 27, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    Josh1992 said

    I always have a Plan B, Clay! And I'm not pregnant so that's a good thing! icon_twisted.gif



    .....................Imma have to see some ID icon_biggrin.gif
  • calibro

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    May 27, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
    and one day i turned 23... but i am happy for you.
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    May 27, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    Claystation said

    .....................Imma have to see some ID icon_biggrin.gif


    He has to be 21 to have a plan B?
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    May 27, 2012 8:04 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidSounds like a desperate person finally found someone. You're lucky you can be happy with your standards set so low, a lot of people can't be.


    Well this post isn't about me so much. I did want people to hear my story but my goal people to be happy with who they are and who they're with under any circumstance. Even you mizzoguy icon_smile.gif
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    May 27, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    Well you've accomplished to realize something that took me two years more than you did!

    Haha! Right now, I'm talking to this adorable, sexy Latino-Italian hunk, but he's more than 10 years older than me. I shouldn't let one little thing bother me, right?

    Best of luck to the both of us, OP! icon_smile.gif
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    May 27, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    ry77 saidWell you've accomplished to realize something that took me two years more than you did!

    Haha! Right now, I'm talking to this adorable, sexy Latino-Italian hunk, but he's more than 10 years older than me. I shouldn't let one little thing bother me, right?

    Best of luck to the both of us, OP! icon_smile.gif


    Just 10 years? Don't sweat it at all, bro! Ask yourself this: Am I happy with this person? If you answered yes then continue on with your life and don't mind other people.

    Best of luck to you, brother. You're in my positive thoughts!
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    May 27, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    Josh1992 said
    mizzouguy10 saidSounds like a desperate person finally found someone. You're lucky you can be happy with your standards set so low, a lot of people can't be.


    Well this post isn't about me so much. I did want people to hear my story but my goal people to be happy with who they are and who they're with under any circumstance. Even you mizzoguy icon_smile.gif


    Classy answer ! Well done.
    Well done also about taking chances to have good experience, and not letting others define what a good experience should be ;-)
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    May 27, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    That was a classy answer indeed. If it was anyone else on this site - especially the regulars - they would have gone ape shit.

    Anyway I'm glad nothing terrible happened
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    May 27, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    agree and Im happy for you icon_smile.gif
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    May 28, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    Josh, I am very happy this worked out for you and I can tell by your words, you had the experience of a lifetime.

    I want you to keep on having wonderful times and keep on exploring!
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    May 28, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    Does this mean we're not getting married next weekend?

    *pouts* icon_razz.gif
  • Splendidus_1

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    May 28, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    It feels good to have such epiphany! I feel that sometimes we are disregarged based on our age, but if people stick around, I think they would realize some of the young guys are onto something bigger than simply living live by the second, without thinking about tomorrow.

    Why bother wasting time with hate, or sticking your nose in people's life? Be happy and live your life to the fullest - with boundaries! That's what I'll try to do icon_smile.gif
  • LJay

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    May 28, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    Glad to hear it worked out so well and that you are home safe and happy.

    Things oughta work out for everyone at least once in a while.
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    May 28, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    Without happiness you have nothing dude.... living life is risk, glad you are happyicon_wink.gif Just watch your heart young one.
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    May 28, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidSounds like a desperate person finally found someone. You're lucky you can be happy with your standards set so low, a lot of people can't be.


    Here's some gall to go with that vinegar. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 28, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidJosh,

    You are one of the sweetest guys on here. I hope everything works out for you the way you'd like.



    *Crosses fingers, makes a wish*

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    May 28, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidHope it works out and things are great.

    But please bear in mind that getting to truly know someone takes time.

    My only reticence with this type of situation is not to move too fast. It has nothing to do with age difference.

    Out of curiosity, what's the next step?


    Thank you for your kind advice, MoreThanMuscle.

    I'm not entirely sure what the next step is. I know I plan on flying out and visiting him very soon. New promotion at work=flexible hours. I also will be taking a vacation in a couple of months so I'll be able to visit him again! Should there be a next step I'm looking at? icon_smile.gif
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    May 28, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    Sounds wonderful, congrats! I hope it continues in this good direction.
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    May 28, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidSounds wonderful, congrats! I hope it continues in this good direction.


    Thanks so much!